Upset with myself

Many many people have lost weight and regained it. Probably the majority of people who lose weight regain it. No need to beat yourself up over it. But not EVERYONE who loses weight regains it. You can beat the odds. Going slowly and sustainably this time around will help. As well as figuring out what you have to do to prevent regaining. It's an assumption, but if food is a coping method for you (which 30lbs in 4 months suggests to me), spend some time thinking about what substitute coping methods might work for you.

I've lost weight and regained it several times. The worst was I spent a year getting in shape working out every week. I got down to 155 and still not happy with that. Christmas comes and I take almost two months off from exercising and gained a ton of weight. I ended up getting to my heaviest weight, I was stressed out because I hated my job and living with my inlaws wasn't helping either. Now I'm back in a routine and I'm losing weight again. You gotta make it your lifestyle.

One very important lesson that I have learned over the years is that I should never do something to lose weight that I am not willing to do for the rest of my life… Sure, I go to the gym more often when I am in the process of losing, but losing weight at a steady, healthy pace and doing it in a way that it does not deprive me or upset my lifestyle is very important. I have lost and gained several times in my life, but the last several years has been different because I am doing things that improve my lifestyle, make me happier, and still fit in to my overall life.

I understand being upset with yourself… But you absolutely can do this. You can do this, and you can do it permanently this time. Set yourself both short and long term goals, and make sure that your goals include ways to maintain your success. Don't deprive yourself, celebrate your successes (not with food ) and don't be afraid to be a little bit selfish when it comes to "me time" and asking for support.

Get it!!!

That's the worst. I HATE gaining back weight I've lost. But like others have said, you lost weight before and you CAN do it again!

Too many people look at a "diet" as something short term with an end goal and when they reach that goal they think it's okay to go back to eating the way they were previously thinking that they'll somehow magically stay at their goal weight. The trick is not to "lose weight" or "diet" but to make a lifestyle change that will support the weight you want to be. If you can do that, you won't gain back the weight. However, this entails keeping an eye on your weight on a regular basis so you can self-correct if it starts to creep up again.

One of the easiest ways to accomplish this, but not the fastest, is to figure out how many calories per day you'd need to be netting (calories eaten - calories burned in exercise) every day to maintain the weight you want to be. Then simply average that amount of calories every day for the rest of your life.

I'd suggest that you throw out your bigger clothes once you get smaller. If you don't have that "safety net" of larger clothes you'll have to make a decision if your current clothes get tight: re-focus on your diet or buy new clothes. It won't ever be a surprise then if you put on 30 pounds again, it'll have been a conscious decision.