Does anyone else not tell people that you're trying to lose weight?

I haven't made any big news about it. My mom, husband, best friend, and in-laws know about it because I am an open book with all of them. But I am not going to announce it or talk about it on facebook, or otherwise make it public because I am scared of scrutiny - I don't really want people looking at me and expecting changes, or looking at what I eat. Actually I am still scared enough of scrutiny that I even keep my journal on here private still (I'll open up when I feel more confident - still working on that).
Pretty much the "worst" comments I have received are people telling me "You don't need to lose weight, don't worry about it." And I guess this is true - I am still within a healthy BMI range, so we're not talking about an urgent health need just yet. I can't deny that I am definitely doing this for cosmetic reasons, but the bigger reason is that I think my metabolism is starting to slow down. That is, I noticed that now that I am in my late 20's, I gain weight when I eat like I did when I was 16. After gaining around 15 lbs that way over the last few years, I decided it was time for a lifestyle change before things got way out of control. Because I have very real reasons for wanting to make this lifestyle change, though, it bothers me when people tell me not to do it, even though I realize they are trying to be reassuring.

I think I understand where you're coming from quite a bit. I'm also the type to wanna do just the opposite when people tell me what I *should* do. Even when I was clearly 100+ lb overweight, I would only tell friends I was trying to be more active, eat more veggies, etc. I refused to engage in things like workplace "Biggest Loser" and even now, having lost a very large amount of weight and gotten within my goal range, I cringe at the idea of posting before/after shots and so on. I've done it a few times. But it kind of bugs me. I am proud of my progress but there's a big part of me that finds those things embarrassing or unseemly.

My parents, s/o, and grandparents know. That's because I feel like if I tell them, then I'll stick to it. But... it can be annoying at the same time. My s/o in particular. He means so well, but I end up feeling like a little kid who's being told what and what not to eat.

But... anyone else? Nope. The way I see it, it's nobodies business.

It's more fun when their comments are unsolicited, like, "are you losing weight?", "have you lost weight?", or my favorite, "what did you do with the rest of you?"

Once before when I was attempting to lose weight I talked about it with coworkers BIG mistake. Every time I would eat something that wasn't a "diet" food I would get a look or be asked is that apart of your diet? Needless to say weight loss was unsuccessful for me. This time I am working on this in silence I've briefly mentioned it to one coworker, only once but no one else and I don't discuss it. I'll let my work show for itself this time around.

I tell very few people (my fiancé, my mom and my accountability gym partner)

Yep, I've only told my husband, and mentioned it to my sister. I also have an accountability buddy on MFP. This takes the fear of failure out of the equation. I feel more confident without the judgmental input, staring at what I'm eating, comments, etc., and I'm doing great. Much better than other times when I've publicly announced my goal and had the "help" of others.

All my co-workers know and do comment on the loss. But when I have something from the canteen, no comments are made. I think it's a little different for me because 75% of my co-workers are personal trainers since I work in a fitness facility.

I get more comments like "you walking outside today or going upstairs to the gym" or "need a hand, come see me". That sort of thing.

I'm much smaller than the rest of my friends, so I generally don't mention trying to lose weight. They already poke me and say that I'm too skinny. I'm not, really; but I'm so much shorter than them that I guess they don't realize what a difference a few pounds can make.