Not losing! Need encouragement or advice!

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sunnyd77
sunnyd77 Posts: 15 Member
edited October 2015 in Motivation and Support
Guys I'm so frustrated and feel stuck!! I had a baby in July and am at least 40 pounds more than I have ever been (and I was not thin to begin with!) Silly me thought at least the first 20 would come off easily but I have been tracking calories, working out and been on a consistent defecit for over 2 months with only about a 1.5 pound loss. I started weighing and measuring the last couple of weeks, drinking a ton of water, lowering carbs and upping protein and also started working out harder the last 2 weeks (was just walking, now am doing Beach Body DVDs, Turbo Kick, Elliptical) and the scale will just NOT budge. I do feel better and maybe my clothes fit a tad looser though I am still in maternity clothes and yoga pants so its hard to tell.
Here's some of my thought, let me know of you experienced anything similar and if anything worked for you to start to see the scale move (even if its just "keep at it"):
- Will a rest day make a difference? I have been obsessive about making a morning workout a habit and haven't wanted to havea rest day but maybe it will help the scale move in some backwards way - let my body know its OK to let go?
- A calorie load day? Same as above thinking
- I've been experiencing some post partum depression and getting help, but maybe my hormones and stress levels are too high for weight loss? Though people lose weight in all stressful situations, this one might be a stretch or excuse.
Thanks in advance!!!

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  • fiddletime
    fiddletime Posts: 1,862 Member
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    I wouldn't do a calorie load day as it doesn't seem like your deficit is enough. I would take a rest day though. I lost weight with both my kids while nursing by just cutting the calories. The exercise was for me, not for weight loss. Keep at it, weigh and log your food. You'll start losing if you cut your calories a little as it seems like you're currently at maintenance, basically.
  • sunnyd77
    sunnyd77 Posts: 15 Member
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    I'm not nursing - wish I could but that's a totally different forum. I'm eating 1550 - 1800 cals /day (1550 is mfp base and I try to eat half my exercise cals) and my fitbit charge hr calculates my calorie burn is 2200 - 2900/ day.
  • bearondiet
    bearondiet Posts: 53 Member
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    For me, it is mostly about the boredom. Boredom makes it harder to stick to your diet plan.
  • SueInAz
    SueInAz Posts: 6,592 Member
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    Rest day? Yes. The areas you are exercising need a chance to recover. You actually get more benefits from the recovery period. If you really don't want a rest day just exercise different areas every other day. In other words, do something mostly core and upper body one day then something mostly legs the next. Your core and upper body get to recover on the day you're working legs and vice versa.

    As far calorie loading days and your lack of weight loss: while there is quite probably some water retention disguising some fat loss, if you haven't lost more than 1.5 pounds in 2 months you are most likely eating more calories than you think you are so a calorie load day is a bad idea. Stress can effect weight loss but, again, not enough that you would not be seeing any over a 2 month period. People die from starvation and I think they are probably stressed out while it's happening so it's not going to prevent you from weight loss in the end.

    Drinking more water and the combination of your macronutrients aren't going to have a lot of effect on your weight loss. It's really about calories in vs. calories out and if you aren't losing weight, you are most likely eating more calories than you think you are. It's good that you've been weighing and measuring lately. Is that when you started to see the scale move? Are you being really consistent with it? Logging absolutely everything that has calories and sticking to your goal every day? Doing those things are what will eventually bring success.

    The other part of the equation is your exercise. Are you logging your exercise and eating back those calories? If yes, how are you verifying your calorie burns from exercise? MFP's calculations can be way off if you don't fall within its averages. Gym machines can be really off, too. Many people who don't own a heart rate monitor only log and eat half the calories MFP gives them to be on the safe side. Even many people who have a HRM only eat back a portion of them. You may want to play around with how you're handling that to see what works.
  • DaddieCat
    DaddieCat Posts: 3,646 Member
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    Do you weigh and accurately log your food? Your diary is closed so we can't look and offer advice there.
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,711 Member
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    As usual, good advice from @SueInAz. First, congrats on the new baby! That's a life-changing experience so go easy on yourself. I'm sorry you are dealing with post-partum depression, but good for you for getting help. That should be your #1 priority. Relax a bit and don't obsess about weight loss right at this moment. That can have negative results.

    It takes your body a while to recover from pregnancy, so try to be patient and accurate with your food intake. Exercise is just an extra for fitness, but it can also give you extra energy and a good mental boost as long as you don't over do it. Rest days are important.
  • sunnyd77
    sunnyd77 Posts: 15 Member
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    Opening up my diary. I use a fitbit charge hr so I'm hoping the burn is accurate. I weigh and measure my food 80% of the time. Thanks all!!
  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    edited October 2015
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    sunnyd77 wrote: »
    Opening up my diary. I use a fitbit charge hr so I'm hoping the burn is accurate. I weigh and measure my food 80% of the time. Thanks all!!

    Logging 80% of the time and not sure how accurate the calorie burn is on the Charge HR leaves a really big window for discrepancies and inaccuracies..

    I went back to last Friday and there really is no evidence that I can see from weighing food as it looks like a lot of estimations..

    The exercise calories (eat half of them back) and tighten up the logging and actually weigh everything to gram if you can.. weight the fruit as well.. also the liquids..
  • DaddieCat
    DaddieCat Posts: 3,646 Member
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    gia07 wrote: »
    sunnyd77 wrote: »
    Opening up my diary. I use a fitbit charge hr so I'm hoping the burn is accurate. I weigh and measure my food 80% of the time. Thanks all!!

    Logging 80% of the time and not sure how accurate the calorie burn is on the Charge HR leaves a really big window for discrepancies and inaccuracies..

    I went back to last Friday and there really is no evidence that I can see from weighing food as it looks like a lot of estimations..

    The exercise calories (eat half of them back) and tighten up the logging and actually weigh everything to gram if you can.. weight the fruit as well.. also the liquids..

    This... this would be my advice as well. But others make great points. Just having had a baby recently, don't be afraid to take it slow and steady. This is a marathon and not a sprint. Take your time, build good habits and be awesome.
  • jkal1979
    jkal1979 Posts: 1,896 Member
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    Along with using a food scale you also should make sure that you use accurate entries. I can tell you right now that your celery entry is off by a lot, luckily that one is in your favor. Read this guide to help you find correct database entries.

    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1234699/logging-accurately-step-by-step-guide/p1

  • fiddletime
    fiddletime Posts: 1,862 Member
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    sunnyd77 wrote: »
    I'm not nursing - wish I could but that's a totally different forum. I'm eating 1550 - 1800 cals /day (1550 is mfp base and I try to eat half my exercise cals) and my fitbit charge hr calculates my calorie burn is 2200 - 2900/ day.

    I use the MFP settings and manually input the exercise. I log everything every day and find it to be very accurate. If I seem to be on a plateau I cut down by 50 calories. I'm at 1200 and try to eat right at that for 0.5# loss per week. You mention you're eating 1550-1800. That's s big spread. What does MFP say you should be eating for your height, weight, and exercise level?

  • sunnyd77
    sunnyd77 Posts: 15 Member
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    MFP says he should eat 1550 for a 1 lb loss per week. I don't log exercise since I wear a fitbit charge hr and it syncs to mfp. Maybe I should try not eating as many exercise cals and only the 1550 and see if the scale moves. I'll try only eating 25% of my exercise cals. So for example today I have about 500 exercise cals so I'll eat 125 = 1675. Something seems off so maybe that'll help!
    A friend of mine is a dietician and she recommended using measuring cups instead of a scale since its easier to learn the visual portions so I've been doing it that way. I don't worry too much about vegetables, like celery and lettuce especially.
  • tcarp8
    tcarp8 Posts: 370 Member
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    My wife had kids 30 years ago and I still haven't lost my sympathy weight
  • SueInAz
    SueInAz Posts: 6,592 Member
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    sunnyd77 wrote: »
    MFP says he should eat 1550 for a 1 lb loss per week. I don't log exercise since I wear a fitbit charge hr and it syncs to mfp. Maybe I should try not eating as many exercise cals and only the 1550 and see if the scale moves. I'll try only eating 25% of my exercise cals. So for example today I have about 500 exercise cals so I'll eat 125 = 1675. Something seems off so maybe that'll help!
    A friend of mine is a dietician and she recommended using measuring cups instead of a scale since its easier to learn the visual portions so I've been doing it that way. I don't worry too much about vegetables, like celery and lettuce especially.

    I don't worry about celery or lettuce, either, because there isn't much difference calorie-wise between 4 ounces of celery and 8 ounces. However, the thing about measuring cups is that it really depends on what you're putting in there. I'll use watermelon as an example because I remember once being shocked at how many calories it has compared to what I thought it had. Take a watermelon and cut it into 2 inch chunks. Put those chunks into a one cup measure and there's lots of empty space in there between the pieces. If instead you cut the watermelon into one inch chunks and put them in the cup there's a lot less empty space and therefore more watermelon and more calories in that cup. Now cut a single piece of watermelon that exactly fits the cup and there's no empty space and more calories in the cup. If there are pieces sticking out of the top in any of these scenarios that's more calories that aren't being accounted for. If instead of using a measuring cup you weighed out 100 grams of watermelon it wouldn't matter what size it was, 100 grams is always 100 grams and about the same amount of calories (variations in sugar content could make a slight difference, of course!). This gets even more important when you're talking about calorie-dense foods rather than fruit.

    You can also learn the size of food portions by weighing your food and looking at how much equals the serving size you're trying to achieve. 4 ounces of chicken looks about the same every time.
  • lisaloolovesblue
    lisaloolovesblue Posts: 30 Member
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    sunnyd77 wrote: »
    I'm eating 1550 - 1800 cals /day (1550 is mfp base and I try to eat half my exercise cals) and my fitbit charge hr calculates my calorie burn is 2200 - 2900/ day.

    Don't double-dip with your calories! The number of calories you eat per day should cover you for your daily activities- walking around, cleaning, etc. In my opinion, you should only be eating back the EXTRA calories you burn, meaning if you go to the gym for an hour, you can eat back half of those. You're not going to lose weight if you're eating 1000-1500 extra calories per day!

    I don't know your numbers (height, weight, activity level, etc.) but I'll use myself for an example.

    I'm 5'8" and 140 lbs, and my calorie intake for maintenance is 1,830. This is for a sedentary level (meaning I do a fair amount of walking, but still the majority of my day is sitting.) If I were to want to lose 1 lb per week, I would lower my intake to 1,330 calories per day.

    Now, say I go to the gym for an hour, and burn 250 calories. If you're planning on eating back half your calories, that's only an extra 125 calories. That's not a lot. But these are much more realistic numbers. Also, you don't HAVE to eat back your exercise calories.

    Losing weight is a numbers game. You need to have a calorie deficit of 3,500 to lose one pound. It's as simple as that. So start tracking every bite of your food, and don't overestimate how many calories you're burning through exercise.
  • fiddletime
    fiddletime Posts: 1,862 Member
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    If MFP gives you 1550 I'd stick with that as your base. Then eat back "some" of those exercise calories. Half or a quarter, whatever you're comfortable with. Use the scale to weigh food. What is a cup of chips versus an ounce? It was explained nicely with the watermelon. Once you get in the habit of doing it "by the numbers" you'll start losing weight. What activity level did you set in your MFP settings? I've got mine at sedentary and will change it if I'm losing too much (now that isn't a problem most of us have on here!).
  • sunnyd77
    sunnyd77 Posts: 15 Member
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    Great stuff, thanks everybody!!!