30lb/a month, is it doable?
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ryanhateshimself wrote: »I don't have many friends in this country,
Don't sweat it Ryan. Check out all the "my family and friends and lovers are sabotaging me, tempting me and generally not supporting my weight loss efforts" threads. You can put your full focus and concentration on doing it exactly how you want to do it with no interference. It sounds like you have a bit over 100 pounds to lose? I'd say give yourself a two year time frame within which to get this done. Steadily, with focus, get it done. 3 meals a day. At 300 lbs., I'd ditch the running. It's the food, eating less of it, that takes the weight off. When you're more comfortable physically, you could start a walking routine.
Thanks, u guys r right. I think I am gonna give myself a year , like someone just mentioned that we did gain ur weight in one night, we can't take it off over a night. Thanks u all0 -
Mums are idiots. I have one, I am one.
They love you. Sometimes, a lot of times, they say the wrong thing because they feel responsible for you, don't think, don't have the social boundaries everyone else in your life does
It sucks
Learn to smile and nod
Lose the weight steadily ...70lbs is nothing ...time passes anyway, look back in a year and think of the lifestyle that now seems natural
Also am worried that your only friend seems intent on VLCD ..please be careful whose advice and support you take...
Start here, it all comes down to calorie intake for fat loss so don't forget your calorie counting ...just the OP
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants/p1
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1296011/calorie-counting-101/p1
Walk more...get a basic fitbit (one or zip) just focusing on moving more
Read this: http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2009/10/26/how-to-not-suck-at-working-out/
Get a lifting programme
http://stronglifts.com/5x5/
https://www.muscleandstrength.com/workouts/jason-blaha-ice-cream-fitness-5x5-novice-workout
http://www.muscleandfitness.com/workouts/workout-routines/4-week-guide-starting-strength
If you can't bring yourself to do free weights yet then do a decent bodyweight programme
http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2009/12/09/beginner-body-weight-workout-burn-fat-build-muscle/
Do some cardio 2 x 30 mins a week is enough ..work up to it - eat back 50% of exercise calories
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ryanhateshimself wrote: »ryanhateshimself wrote: »I don't have many friends in this country,
Don't sweat it Ryan. Check out all the "my family and friends and lovers are sabotaging me, tempting me and generally not supporting my weight loss efforts" threads. You can put your full focus and concentration on doing it exactly how you want to do it with no interference. It sounds like you have a bit over 100 pounds to lose? I'd say give yourself a two year time frame within which to get this done. Steadily, with focus, get it done. 3 meals a day. At 300 lbs., I'd ditch the running. It's the food, eating less of it, that takes the weight off. When you're more comfortable physically, you could start a walking routine.
Thanks, u guys r right. I think I am gonna give myself a year , like someone just mentioned that we did gain ur weight in one night, we can't take it off over a night. Thanks u all
That's a great attitude. You will do it0 -
Mums are idiots. I have one, I am one.
They love you. Sometimes, a lot of times, they say the wrong thing because they feel responsible for you, don't think, don't have the social boundaries everyone else in your life does
It sucks
Learn to smile and nod
Lose the weight steadily ...70lbs is nothing ...time passes anyway, look back in a year and think of the lifestyle that now seems natural
Also am worried that your only friend seems intent on VLCD ..please be careful whose advice and support you take...
Start here, it all comes down to calorie intake for fat loss so don't forget your calorie counting ...just the OP
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants/p1
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1296011/calorie-counting-101/p1
Walk more...get a basic fitbit (one or zip) just focusing on moving more
Read this: http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2009/10/26/how-to-not-suck-at-working-out/
Get a lifting programme
http://stronglifts.com/5x5/
https://www.muscleandstrength.com/workouts/jason-blaha-ice-cream-fitness-5x5-novice-workout
http://www.muscleandfitness.com/workouts/workout-routines/4-week-guide-starting-strength
If you can't bring yourself to do free weights yet then do a decent bodyweight programme
http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2009/12/09/beginner-body-weight-workout-burn-fat-build-muscle/
Do some cardio 2 x 30 mins a week is enough ..work up to it - eat back 50% of exercise calories
I will read them, thnx0 -
Mums are idiots. I have one, I am one.
They love you. Sometimes, a lot of times, they say the wrong thing because they feel responsible for you, don't think, don't have the social boundaries everyone else in your life does
It sucks
Learn to smile and nod
Lose the weight steadily ...70lbs is nothing ...time passes anyway, look back in a year and think of the lifestyle that now seems natural
Also am worried that your only friend seems intent on VLCD ..please be careful whose advice and support you take...
Start here, it all comes down to calorie intake for fat loss so don't forget your calorie counting ...just the OP
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants/p1
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1296011/calorie-counting-101/p1
Walk more...get a basic fitbit (one or zip) just focusing on moving more
Read this: http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2009/10/26/how-to-not-suck-at-working-out/
Get a lifting programme
http://stronglifts.com/5x5/
https://www.muscleandstrength.com/workouts/jason-blaha-ice-cream-fitness-5x5-novice-workout
http://www.muscleandfitness.com/workouts/workout-routines/4-week-guide-starting-strength
If you can't bring yourself to do free weights yet then do a decent bodyweight programme
http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2009/12/09/beginner-body-weight-workout-burn-fat-build-muscle/
Do some cardio 2 x 30 mins a week is enough ..work up to it - eat back 50% of exercise calories
Everything this lady says is gold.
Plus I just wanted to give you a virtual hug. That's a horrible thing to to your son0 -
It's taken me many months to even get to 23lb, but Ryan, it feels really nice to go slow! And a slow and steady weight loss is good for your body, you'll know it's not coming off lean mass etc.
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Ryan, in order to get to a healthy place you are gonna need to talk to someone eventually . I think you're carrying around a lot more baggage than just weight. And you might not be able to get the weight off until you address some of those underlying issues. Please consider it. The weight gain might just be a symptom.0
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There are plenty of people here that have been where you are, at least weight wise.
I was around the 340 mark now I'm around the 195 mark.
It takes time. Start today but try to lose 2lb a month not 6lb. Get enough protein and fats.
@Merkavar I know you meant 2 lbs per week. Just mentioning it in case the OP didn't realize.
OP, You are still young, you can definitely do this, but you might as well do it in a way that will help you maintain a healthy weight for the rest of your life. In other words, no crash dieting! Make sustainable changes. Learn to count calories. Learn about safe weight loss. Start walking if you want to start exercising, and then add to it as you're able. Consider getting help from a medical professional if you need it. And don't fall for any weight loss 'tricks' 'gimmicks' or 'aids'.0 -
mrsfitzyv8 wrote: »Mums are idiots. I have one, I am one.
They love you. Sometimes, a lot of times, they say the wrong thing because they feel responsible for you, don't think, don't have the social boundaries everyone else in your life does
It sucks
Learn to smile and nod
Lose the weight steadily ...70lbs is nothing ...time passes anyway, look back in a year and think of the lifestyle that now seems natural
Also am worried that your only friend seems intent on VLCD ..please be careful whose advice and support you take...
Start here, it all comes down to calorie intake for fat loss so don't forget your calorie counting ...just the OP
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants/p1
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1296011/calorie-counting-101/p1
Walk more...get a basic fitbit (one or zip) just focusing on moving more
Read this: http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2009/10/26/how-to-not-suck-at-working-out/
Get a lifting programme
http://stronglifts.com/5x5/
https://www.muscleandstrength.com/workouts/jason-blaha-ice-cream-fitness-5x5-novice-workout
http://www.muscleandfitness.com/workouts/workout-routines/4-week-guide-starting-strength
If you can't bring yourself to do free weights yet then do a decent bodyweight programme
http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2009/12/09/beginner-body-weight-workout-burn-fat-build-muscle/
Do some cardio 2 x 30 mins a week is enough ..work up to it - eat back 50% of exercise calories
Everything this lady says is gold.
Plus I just wanted to give you a virtual hug. That's a horrible thing to to your son
What MrsFitzy said.
Well done, Ryan, for changing your mind about the crash diet. Very commendable.0 -
ryanhateshimself wrote: »ryanhateshimself wrote: »
U guys don't understand, i was only 180lbs 3 years ago, now I am almost 300lbs. Do u guys know what hurts me? Days ago my mom told me if I were somebody else , she wouldn't even look at me. I have disappointed her too many times.
Aww.
I'm sorry, I wish I could help. My mom has told me all sorts of nasty things, too, so I can relate in a sort of way. She wishes I was never born, wishes she wasn't alive because of me, I'm the worst child imaginable, I was the worst baby imaginable, the only thing I know how to do is eat, etc etc. I know it hurts. However, you can't HARM YOURSELF just because someone says something nasty to you. Having a disappointed mother is no reason to cause permanent heart damage by losing weight too quickly. Make a lifestyle change for YOU, to be a happier and healthier person. Do you go to a therapist? I know that's probably the last thing you feel like doing, but they really are there to help you...
It's time to take action, yes, but please do it in a healthy way!
Thanks for sharing ur story. I will try to get healthier. I don't have many friends in this country, I ve spent 2years learning the language and 1 year in college. I have never told my story to anybody,I didn't want to bother anyone and I was scared to tell my story, because I feel ashamed myself.
U guys r nice. Thank u guys
Now I am curious about your home country and your host country.
I work with foreign students in the US and I have spent about 1/3 of my life living outside of my home country. The adjustment and adaptation that you go through is like the ups and downs of regular life...times 100! I completely understand how that alone could cause serious weight gain. Actually, I am surprised that it doesn't happen to more people who spend extended periods of time abroad.
Do you have a foreign student adviser or someone else in your academic setting that you can check in with? Often these people are a good resource for putting you in touch with counseling resources. It certainly doesn't hurt to ask what might be available in your location.0 -
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PinkPixiexox wrote: »Sigh
its ok, think its in hand now0 -
blankiefinder wrote: »There are plenty of people here that have been where you are, at least weight wise.
I was around the 340 mark now I'm around the 195 mark.
It takes time. Start today but try to lose 2lb a month not 6lb. Get enough protein and fats.
@Merkavar I know you meant 2 lbs per week. Just mentioning it in case the OP didn't realize.
yeah that was a typo. 2lb per week.0 -
You can do it, Ryan!! Remember - slow and steady wins the race. You DO have support here. People DO believe in you, but what matters most is that you believe in yourself. That's your starting point. Set small goals and start there. You might need to work on Ryan on the outside and the inside but it's possible! Hang in there. I'm giving you a virtual hug too 0
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Slow and steady wins the race.
I was once close to 300lbs...187 now.
I totally get how being that heavy makes one feel. *hugs* Don't listen to your mother. My father once said something similar to me, and even went as far as picking on me....NOT cool.
Start now, take it slow and reap the benefits. Fast weight loss is far too dangerous.
Do this for you, not for anyone else. It CAN be done...we believe in you.0 -
You have excellent attitude which is the first huge hurdle. Too often, MFP posters with unhealthy ideas are too stubborn to listen to solid advice. Now scour through forums and add the people who have massive success stories. There are so many here who've lost 100+ lbs. So you're not alone. We are your friends in this journey.0
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ryanhateshimself wrote: »
U guys don't understand, i was only 180lbs 3 years ago, now I am almost 300lbs. Do u guys know what hurts me? Days ago my mom told me if I were somebody else , she wouldn't even look at me. I have disappointed her too many times.
We can't make people love us. But we can prevent them from hurting us. If your mom has a habit of saying hateful things to you, simply stop answering her phone calls. You're not going to change her. The only control you have is how YOU treat yourself.
So if you've gained weight from putting garbage into your body, all you have to do is stop. Eat healthy whole foods and get some exercise. Go for frequent walks or ride you bike for transport. And stop answering the phone.0 -
I just want to say that you can do this, and to hell with what your mom thinks! (Sorry if that came off rude, but as a mother I can't imagine making my son feel like that.)
People have given you some excellent advice, and these forums are full of supportive people, so take advantage of that. It's taken me about 4 months to lose 30 pounds, so just keep your expectations reasonable and don't let a few slip-ups get you down.
BTW--I also think you need to change your username to something more positive--maybe "RyanCanDoThis"
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missblondi2u wrote: »I just want to say that you can do this, and to hell with what your mom thinks! (Sorry if that came off rude, but as a mother I can't imagine making my son feel like that.)
People have given you some excellent advice, and these forums are full of supportive people, so take advantage of that. It's taken me about 4 months to lose 30 pounds, so just keep your expectations reasonable and don't let a few slip-ups get you down.
BTW--I also think you need to change your username to something more positive--maybe "RyanCanDoThis"
Agree with changing your name. How about: RyanSucceeds, RyanRocks, ChangingRyan. There are so many positive things to look forward to, and it all starts with changing your mindset. Let your username reflect what you want.0 -
No! Honey, that plan will make you terribly sick! Let MFP calculate ur calories. Eat regular meals within those cals, getting all ur nutrients, set it to lose 2 lb a week (I am assuming you are male, therefore that 2 lb a week is reasonably possible) and work out in whatever way you prefer. Take some days off to prevent injury from repetitive use/motions. I take every other day off from working out, and I don't always do the same workout, and that's kept me un-busted-up. If you need someone non-judgmental to talk to and such, yr welcome to friend me.0
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Bad idea just in terms of potential gall bladder failure0
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Please don't try it (and I see you are realizing this now). I cannot tell you how many times I have set myself up for failure by putting deadlines on certain goals that were just not healthy or achievable........and only ended up worse off than when I started. The best thing you can do for yourself is just start and let the weight come off as it comes off. As long as you are consistent and log accurately, it will come off. It may take time, but that is better than yo-yoing and making things harder.
It is possible, just be kind to yourself in the process.0 -
Just in terms of the potential for gall bladder failure, no0
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I'm a mum of 2 sons and a daughter I love my babies and if they needed to lose weight id encourage them how they'd like me to. Ditch your excuse for a mother 70lbs and some gone0
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I'm a mom and can say this: it's your MOM who has a problem. No mother should talk to their child that way. It sounds like she needs therapy in a big way. And you've been affected by her issues due to how she talks to you. I really hope you realize that being overweight does not make you a bad person. Your parents should encourage you, not try to shame you. So really, the shame is on your mom. You'll work at your health, and in the process you'll lose weight. But healthy habits should be the goal, not just losing oodles of weight really fast. Take it slow so that you learn a healthy, happy way to live
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Sorry about your mom, this is hurtful. The good news is, you can lose weight in a safe, sustainable way. Go get it!0
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No, it's not possible. Even if you ate nothing, I don't think you could lose a pound a day. Plus, you'd pass out.
Try focusing on something that is possible. Spend some time doing it so that you can develop better habits than the ones that helped you put on all the extra weight. When you're done, you'll be so glad you did!
Your mom isn't nice to you. You should cut back on your contact with her and hang with people who aren't saying mean and hurtful things. I'm not saying you should cut her off entirely, but spend more time with positive people who can help you instead of hurt you.
If it were anyone but your mom, I'd suggest cutting them off completely. You can love your mom and see her now and again, but she doesn't sound like a helpful person, so less contact is better.0 -
moms are people and not all people are fantastic.
do it right and do it healthy and it will stay off. I'm struggling to loose thirty lbs since January.
and talk to someone. therapist, counselor. a professional. you will feel even lighter 0 -
ryanhateshimself wrote: »
U guys don't understand, i was only 180lbs 3 years ago, now I am almost 300lbs. Do u guys know what hurts me? Days ago my mom told me if I were somebody else , she wouldn't even look at me. I have disappointed her too many times.
Sometimes parents are the ones who are the biggest disappointments. Your mothers words are a reflection of how she feels about herself more than a reflection of how she feels about you. I'm not aware of your age (sorry, haven't read it all yet and feel compelled to respond). As you get older, in my opinion, you become more aware of just how much it can be necessary to cut ties with destructive people - even if those people are your family.
30 lbs in a month isn't good for you. Maybe 10 is? Maybe 1 is? Whatever the amount - do what you want to do... And do it for yourself. Not to prove a point, or your worth, to anyone else.
You are probably a better, kinder person than she is capable of being.0 -
ryanhateshimself wrote: »
U guys don't understand, i was only 180lbs 3 years ago, now I am almost 300lbs. Do u guys know what hurts me? Days ago my mom told me if I were somebody else , she wouldn't even look at me. I have disappointed her too many times.
That hurts. If your mom truly wouldn't look at a person just because of ther weight it honestly does not say good things about her. Parents are human and sometimes they end up being dissapointing people themselves. Sometimes you don't realize until you are older that your parent's views about something is messed up.
You are you no matter what you weigh. Your value is not a number on the scale.
Choose a healthy weight goal. Aim for losing no more than 2 lbs a week. You can make great sustainable progress that way. Get healthy and strong because you deserve it not because of anyone else.
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