Are you happy?

bonitasuet37
bonitasuet37 Posts: 21 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
I thought I would be happier after loosing weight. I do have more energy. I have a few friends that treat me differently now. Shows who your real friends are.
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  • Liftng4Lis
    Liftng4Lis Posts: 15,151 Member
    Happiness comes from within and has nothing to do with how we look. You are correct, those aren't real friends.
  • queenliz99
    queenliz99 Posts: 15,317 Member
    Liftng4Lis wrote: »
    Happiness comes from within and has nothing to do with how we look. You are correct, those aren't real friends.

    You I like!!
  • queenliz99
    queenliz99 Posts: 15,317 Member
    I am happy because I want to be. Life is too short not to be!!
  • ariana_eatsandlifts
    ariana_eatsandlifts Posts: 197 Member
    Sorry you have poopy "friends".

    I think I'm just as happy now as I was at 200 pounds. I'm still the same person, just a little less. And I'm fortunate enough that it didn't affect any of my friendships.
  • wanderinglight
    wanderinglight Posts: 1,519 Member
    I am happy! I'm 30lbs overweight right now but happy to be here. I wake up so excited and my first thought is usually "I wonder what cool *kitten* is going to happen to me today!"

    Note: this is not meant to be bragging. I had a spell of about 2 or 3 years where I felt like I lost my basic sense of happiness and optimism. I have recently found my way through that, and am happy again even though I'm the heaviest I've ever been in my life.
  • blkandwhite77
    blkandwhite77 Posts: 281 Member
    At this moment my kids are driving me batty but aside from that yes lol I still have a lot to lose but I'm down 65 lbs however my happiness isn't based on the scale. It's based on my faith and my choice to choose happiness no matter my circumstances
  • shadowfax_c11
    shadowfax_c11 Posts: 1,942 Member
    I was happy before I started working on weight loss.

    Friendships come and go in life and those that stay for life are rare. Just because they might be on their way out does not mean that they were not real friends. Your paths are diverging and you have changed. Perhaps so have they. There is nothing wrong with that. You are likely to meet new friends who can relate better to the person you are now. Be open to the possibilities instead of trying to keep everything the same.
  • Jruzer
    Jruzer Posts: 3,501 Member
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  • besaro
    besaro Posts: 1,858 Member
    it didn't fix me, no, but i didn't think it would (sure, i was hopeful lol). I'm not as miserable, the added exercise takes the edge off, but tbh, no one treats me any differently, some people still suck and others dont. meh, planet earth, human emotions and self-awareness = gonna be some pain.
  • rankinsect
    rankinsect Posts: 2,238 Member
    I suppose, yeah. I was happy before, too. My weight didn't really make me unhappy per se, but it made me unable to do things I really wanted to do, and of course it seriously impacted my health. So my destination is really fitness and not thinness, although the latter is part of the former.
  • fishshark
    fishshark Posts: 1,886 Member
    i feel like if you really are unhappy with yourself losing weight will just make you focus on something else you dont like. i became happy fitness wise when I could hike this trail i couldnt before and other achievements. I am though happy with myself regardless of my weight.. but i like the way i LOOK not overweight.
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    bonitasuet37 wrote: »
    I thought I would be happier after loosing weight. I do have more energy. I have a few friends that treat me differently now. Shows who your real friends are.

    I wasn't unhappy before.
    I am reasonable happy now. I feel much better and I can do more things so I would say my quality of life has improved. I have not noticed any change in my relationships.
  • jemhh
    jemhh Posts: 14,261 Member
    I'm much happier now.
  • PinkPixiexox
    PinkPixiexox Posts: 4,142 Member
    I'm happier with how I look, sure - but I've learnt a huge lesson from this 'journey' I've been on. Weight loss won't solve your problems, it won't heal your relationships, it won't make you a better person, it won't make people like you more. The day I hit my goal, I expected mountains to move and the world to change. The reality? Life just carried on.. Exactly as before.. Health-wise, my body is thanking me for losing the excess - but life-wise? It is what it is. Don't expect your life to change for the better because of fat loss. Real change comes from within.
    Good luck.
  • teresadutton
    teresadutton Posts: 217 Member
    PinkPixiexox wrote: »
    I'm happier with how I look, sure - but I've learnt a huge lesson from this 'journey' I've been on. Weight loss won't solve your problems, it won't heal your relationships, it won't make you a better person, it won't make people like you more. The day I hit my goal, I expected mountains to move and the world to change. The reality? Life just carried on.. Exactly as before.. Health-wise, my body is thanking me for losing the excess - but life-wise? It is what it is. Don't expect your life to change for the better because of fat loss. Real change comes from within.
    Good luck.


    THIS!!

    I couldn't have said it better! I am very happy with my body and how it looks (in clothes), I love the size that I am in and the cute *kitten* clothes I can now buy. But I am the exact same person with the same thoughts on the inside. I thought losing almost 100 pounds would "change my world", it didn't, my world is exactly the same with just 100 pounds less in it. Over all I am happy though and always have been.
  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    I am happier because I'm healthier. That's a huge happy. And a huge relief, too.

    I am also happier with the way I look, the things I can do and how I feel.

    So, Yeah, I guess I'm happier. :)
  • SweetPeasMom55
    SweetPeasMom55 Posts: 3,506 Member
    I think it also depends on your age as you get older and suddenly people treat you differently all because you have lost weight you just move on. It's truly I'm not looking for your approval this is what I'm doing and yes I am happy. :)
  • RodaRose
    RodaRose Posts: 9,562 Member
    There are some people who use what they learned from losing weight to transform other parts of their lives too. Those people find new ways to be happy.
  • choppie70
    choppie70 Posts: 544 Member
    I think I feel happier because I am continually amazed at what my body can actually do. I am proud of myself for focusing on ME and doing what I need to do and in turn that makes me happy.

    I lead a very stressful life - I teach full time, I am working toward my NBTS certification, my husband works nights, I have dealt with kidney issues for the past 20 years, I had a 6 month period where I had huge losses in my life (dad, grandfather, and godfather/uncle), one daughter had health issues due to birth defect that was not detected until high school, daughter 2 has extreme ADD and a processing disorder. I spent so much time dealing with everyone else that I was not taking time to do what I needed for me. This lead to me overeating and gaining weight.

    I think for me, losing the weight is almost a side effect of taking the time to do what I need to do to make myself happy. It is not like I thought, "If I lose weight I will be happy.", I didn't think I was unhappy, just really stressed!
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    No, I don't think I'm happier. Sure, I'm not feeling bad about myself because of my weight anymore, but now I worry I'm going to gain weight back when I get hungrier or decide to treat myself for a special meal, and I have to go to bed hungry a lot, so it's just a different state of mind... not necessarily better. My life hasn't changed much otherwise either, the only difference is that, instead of playing video games all the time (which I still do occasionally though), I mostly exercise, watch TV, and cook. Still got pretty much no social life.
    queenliz99 wrote: »
    I am happy because I want to be. Life is too short not to be!!

    Clearly spoken by someone who has never had depression and is clueless about it. Hate that 'happiness is a choice' BS. Sorry.
  • 47Jacqueline
    47Jacqueline Posts: 6,993 Member
    I was happy up until 4 weeks ago when I was in a car crash. Now I am in pain all the time and it's harder to be happy. My happiness, however, has nothing to do with my weight. It's about how I live my life.
  • vivelajackie
    vivelajackie Posts: 321 Member
    I am truly sorry that you had to find out who your friends are the difficult way. That happens, and you see who was unhappy with themselves and had to take it out on you. Such is life. As for me I'm slowly getting there. It's not even the weight loss, more the idea of having control over yourself rather than just submitting to urges and having an apathetic attitude...
  • bonitasuet37
    bonitasuet37 Posts: 21 Member
    PinkPixiexox wrote: »
    I'm happier with how I look, sure - but I've learnt a huge lesson from this 'journey' I've been on. Weight loss won't solve your problems, it won't heal your relationships, it won't make you a better person, it won't make people like you more. The day I hit my goal, I expected mountains to move and the world to change. The reality? Life just carried on.. Exactly as before.. Health-wise, my body is thanking me for losing the excess - but life-wise? It is what it is. Don't expect your life to change for the better because of fat loss. Real change comes from within.
    Good luck.

    Wow you're right! Thank you.
  • bonitasuet37
    bonitasuet37 Posts: 21 Member
    fishshark wrote: »
    i feel like if you really are unhappy with yourself losing weight will just make you focus on something else you dont like. i became happy fitness wise when I could hike this trail i couldnt before and other achievements. I am though happy with myself regardless of my weight.. but i like the way i LOOK not overweight.

    That's exactly what I've started doing! I pick at myself now more. It's a vicious cycle. Lol
  • bonitasuet37
    bonitasuet37 Posts: 21 Member
    47Jacqueline wrote: »
    I was happy up until 4 weeks ago when I was in a car crash. Now I am in pain all the time and it's harder to be happy. My happiness, however, has nothing to do with my weight. It's about how I live my life.

    I'm sorry. I hope you heal fast. And you're right.
  • Pawsforme
    Pawsforme Posts: 645 Member
    Yes, I'm happy.

    But it has nothing whatsoever to do with the number I see on the scale.
  • WBB55
    WBB55 Posts: 4,131 Member
    We see people on here all the time thinking losing weight will solve their life issues. Don't get me wrong, getting down to a normal weight can transform your health and life and open doors that were shut to you. But if you have low self esteem or let people mistreat you when you're fat, just losing weight won't magically change your personality.
  • MarcyKirkton
    MarcyKirkton Posts: 507 Member
    Dieting isn't fun but I'm pleased I stuck to it. I'll be happier when I hit my final goal. Overall it hasn't affected my emotions.
  • bonitasuet37
    bonitasuet37 Posts: 21 Member
    choppie70 wrote: »
    I think I feel happier Iguess
    because I am continually amazed at what my body can actually do. I am proud of myself for focusing on ME and doing what I need to do and in turn that makes me happy.

    I lead a very stressful life - I teach full time, I am working toward my NBTS certification, my husband works nights, I have dealt with kidney issues for the past 20 years, I had a 6 month period where I had huge losses in my life (dad, grandfather, and godfather/uncle), one daughter had health issues due to birth defect that was not detected until high school, daughter 2 has extreme ADD and a processing disorder. I spent so much time dealing with everyone else that I was not taking time to do what I needed for me. This lead to me overeating and gaining weight.

    I think for me, losing the weight is almost a side effect of taking the time to do what I need to do to make myself happy.

    Youcan see how you would be stressed. You are an inspiration. I don't think I could be that strong.
  • jemhh
    jemhh Posts: 14,261 Member
    jemhh wrote: »
    I'm much happier now.

    I'll clarify a bit.

    I'm happier because life is more enjoyable now. I feel much better, much more healthy. Life is easier now. No more aches and pains befitting a much older person rather than a woman in her 30s. I'm more pleasant to be around because I feel better and I think that has helped my relationships as well. So, overall, I'm much happier than I was 2 years ago.

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