People shoving food in your face...ugh!
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I've found that no thank you generally suffices. Sometimes, I might follow with a little flattery (gee that does look delicious - what recipe did you use? Wow, you are such a generous host making all these wonderful things for your guests...is there anything I can do to help?)
If a bite of something will trigger you to overeat, by all means do not take it unless you want to.0 -
If they offer food you do not want, smile say "No, thank you". Most often they will find other people entice.
If they put a spoonful of food to your mouth you may:- Glare at them and state you are not a 4-year old
- -or- With a startled look, execute a dramatic block in the martial arts style of your choosing. The spoon flying across the room and impaling an innocent bystander will send quite the message.
If they proceed to hold you down and literally shove food in your face, then defend yourself as appropriate and file assault charges.0 -
Or, you can just have fun at the party and get back on track the next day. Dieting does not have to equal incubating yourself in your house from all social events. If you don't want to eat something then dont, but don't blame your neighbors for having the thoughtfulness to invite you into their home and provide food.0
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rocknlotsofrolls wrote: »She's also the kind of girl that will tell you you're not fat, when it's obvious you are
So this conversation where she says you aren't fat.... what preceded that comment? Did she just walk up to you and say, "hey you, you're not fat"? Cause if so, that would be weird...
Or was it when she offered you some of her homemade food at a party that she invited you to and you said, "Oh I can't eat that, I'm too fat?" And she says something like, "don't be silly, you aren't fat, try it"
Gosh, yeah, I can see why you would dislike her so much...
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VioletRojo wrote: »Just say, "No thanks". And take a step sideways. You are in charge of what you eat and it's not rude to say, "No thanks".
This is what I do.
Please do not lie about a food allergy, but you could always say "Oh man, I just brushed my teeth, maybe later". Nothing tastes good after toothpaste.0 -
My go-to excuse is "I'll try a bite of Boyfriend's when he has some!" That's been working for me, but your friend does seem to be pushier about this than my friends and family are.0
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"No, thank you" can sound a little stiff with a close friend. Why not briefly explain that you're watching your calories and really want to succeed? A real friend isn't going to want to tear down your desire to succeed.
Also - the other advice mentioned: fit a bit of the food into your calorie goal.
Please don't hate going to friends' houses!
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lady I work with Is always trying to bring me cake, cookies. I say no thanks bring me fruit or something healthy, I am honest and say I once was over 200 lbs, cant do that again, sorry I cant eat it. I think it is easier to say No the older we get. got to take care of you0
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Stop blaming others for your problems and use self control.
Either say no thanks, insist, and explain why if you must (or throw any other excuse out there you want, like "I already had some"). Or, you could just take a bite and move on with life (its only going to be a small quantity of calories anyways). You don't have to rush the food table, knock everyone out of the way, and scarf down 2 plates full just because you had a small bite.0 -
Just say you've become gluten and dairy intolerant and you need a special diet. Perhaps you're on a free-range vegan fed chicken only diet.
You should only do this if it's true. Otherwise it's dangerous for other people and there are so many other effective ways of saying no.
I use the dairy allergy one a lot - but most of my friends have also survived my poopscapades so when I say I've had enough dairy today they believe me. I had to leave my own birthday party because of too much dairy. I've also had my neck explode in a rash because of too much dairy. But I can have some. Which is why they will see me eating some.0 -
There are some pushy mother effers out there. I can see where some people are coming from - "it's easy, just do this. Just say no, just eat it, etc."
But it can be a lot harder, and aggravating, if they're as pushy as some people I know. And it's not easy for everyone to "just have one bite" and move on.
An example of pushiness with an actual convo today at work:
Coworker: today is national chocolate day, so have some chocolate (she's bearing three bags of chocolate candy)
Me: No thanks.
Coworker: Oh you will have some! It's national chocolate day!
Me: Oh no I won't!
Coworker: Well if you don't have any that means you don't like me and we're not friends!
Me: Oh come on! *takes a mounds bar and puts it in my drawer*0 -
meganridenour wrote: »There are some pushy mother effers out there. I can see where some people are coming from - "it's easy, just do this. Just say no, just eat it, etc."
But it can be a lot harder, and aggravating, if they're as pushy as some people I know. And it's not easy for everyone to "just have one bite" and move on.
An example of pushiness with an actual convo today at work:
Coworker: today is national chocolate day, so have some chocolate (she's bearing three bags of chocolate candy)
Me: No thanks.
Coworker: Oh you will have some! It's national chocolate day!
Me: Oh no I won't!
Coworker: Well if you don't have any that means you don't like me and we're not friends!
Me: Oh come on! *takes a mounds bar and puts it in my drawer*
Do you work at Mean Girls Inc? Seriously, that sounds so childish I can't imagine that grown adults in a professional environment would ever say those words out loud.0 -
Try chewing gum during the party, it's a great excuse to not try dishes because honestly the gum with distort the flavor.
I am a little concerned that you would avoid the social situation though, you will have to deal with this so might as well find what works for you. Accept the invitations, bring something to share, chew gum, claim a tummy ache if you must but avoiding others is a tough way to go.0 -
WinoGelato wrote: »meganridenour wrote: »There are some pushy mother effers out there. I can see where some people are coming from - "it's easy, just do this. Just say no, just eat it, etc."
But it can be a lot harder, and aggravating, if they're as pushy as some people I know. And it's not easy for everyone to "just have one bite" and move on.
An example of pushiness with an actual convo today at work:
Coworker: today is national chocolate day, so have some chocolate (she's bearing three bags of chocolate candy)
Me: No thanks.
Coworker: Oh you will have some! It's national chocolate day!
Me: Oh no I won't!
Coworker: Well if you don't have any that means you don't like me and we're not friends!
Me: Oh come on! *takes a mounds bar and puts it in my drawer*
Do you work at Mean Girls Inc? Seriously, that sounds so childish I can't imagine that grown adults in a professional environment would ever say those words out loud.
I am of the same train of thought. I cannot fathom people around me being so pushy about food. Yet, there are countless threads about this same topic, so apparently it's common.0 -
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meganridenour wrote: »There are some pushy mother effers out there. I can see where some people are coming from - "it's easy, just do this. Just say no, just eat it, etc."
But it can be a lot harder, and aggravating, if they're as pushy as some people I know. And it's not easy for everyone to "just have one bite" and move on.
An example of pushiness with an actual convo today at work:
Coworker: today is national chocolate day, so have some chocolate (she's bearing three bags of chocolate candy)
Me: No thanks.
Coworker: Oh you will have some! It's national chocolate day!
Me: Oh no I won't!
Coworker: Well if you don't have any that means you don't like me and we're not friends!
Me: Oh come on! *takes a mounds bar and puts it in my drawer*
or just turn around and walk away ....0 -
meganridenour wrote: »There are some pushy mother effers out there. I can see where some people are coming from - "it's easy, just do this. Just say no, just eat it, etc."
But it can be a lot harder, and aggravating, if they're as pushy as some people I know. And it's not easy for everyone to "just have one bite" and move on.
An example of pushiness with an actual convo today at work:
Coworker: today is national chocolate day, so have some chocolate (she's bearing three bags of chocolate candy)
Me: No thanks.
Coworker: Oh you will have some! It's national chocolate day!
Me: Oh no I won't!
Coworker: Well if you don't have any that means you don't like me and we're not friends!
Me: Oh come on! *takes a mounds bar and puts it in my drawer*
A person who can't take "I appreciate your offer, but no thank you" at face value and move on does not deserve friends.
Then again, that tactic can be turned around on the perpetrator with hilarious effect. Accost her in her cubicle and ask her if she has accepted the Flying Spaghetti Monster. When she declines, demand she must be touched by His Noodly Appendage, and if she refuses she isn't your friend anymore.
For bonus points, slap a colander on her head and march out dancing a pirate jig.0 -
meganridenour wrote: »There are some pushy mother effers out there. I can see where some people are coming from - "it's easy, just do this. Just say no, just eat it, etc."
But it can be a lot harder, and aggravating, if they're as pushy as some people I know. And it's not easy for everyone to "just have one bite" and move on.
An example of pushiness with an actual convo today at work:
Coworker: today is national chocolate day, so have some chocolate (she's bearing three bags of chocolate candy)
Me: No thanks.
Coworker: Oh you will have some! It's national chocolate day!
Me: Oh no I won't!
Coworker: Well if you don't have any that means you don't like me and we're not friends!
Me: Oh come on! *takes a mounds bar and puts it in my drawer*
A person who can't take "I appreciate your offer, but no thank you" at face value and move on does not deserve friends.
Then again, that tactic can be turned around on the perpetrator with hilarious effect. Accost her in her cubicle and ask her if she has accepted the Flying Spaghetti Monster. When she declines, demand she must be touched by His Noodly Appendage, and if she refuses she isn't your friend anymore.
For bonus points, slap a colander on her head and march out dancing a pirate jig.
You. Win.0 -
WinoGelato wrote: »meganridenour wrote: »There are some pushy mother effers out there. I can see where some people are coming from - "it's easy, just do this. Just say no, just eat it, etc."
But it can be a lot harder, and aggravating, if they're as pushy as some people I know. And it's not easy for everyone to "just have one bite" and move on.
An example of pushiness with an actual convo today at work:
Coworker: today is national chocolate day, so have some chocolate (she's bearing three bags of chocolate candy)
Me: No thanks.
Coworker: Oh you will have some! It's national chocolate day!
Me: Oh no I won't!
Coworker: Well if you don't have any that means you don't like me and we're not friends!
Me: Oh come on! *takes a mounds bar and puts it in my drawer*
Do you work at Mean Girls Inc? Seriously, that sounds so childish I can't imagine that grown adults in a professional environment would ever say those words out loud.
I am of the same train of thought. I cannot fathom people around me being so pushy about food. Yet, there are countless threads about this same topic, so apparently it's common.
Yeah, same here.
The people I know aren't especially polite with respect to anything else, but a lot of what people report seems mindboggling and impossible to imagine anyone I know engaging in.
I pass up stuff all the time. No one cares.0 -
rocknlotsofrolls wrote: »This is why I hate going out to friends houses. They've made this wonderful new dish that you just have to try! You don't want to be rude and refuse, but you know that if you have a problem with moderation after taking a bite of something delicious, it's hard not to overeat. We are going to a Halloween party friday night, and if it wasn't for my little boy, I wouldn't even go. My friend has a little boy, and he plays with him. She's one of those bubbly kind of girls that put's a spoonful of food to your mouth and says, "oh, you have to try this, it's delicious." She's also the kind of girl that will tell you you're not fat, when it's obvious you are. I would just tell her off, but I'm a peacemaker, and I don't like to cause scenes. What would you do? Wow, I just realized that this sounds like a Dear Abby column!
To be honest, I do not think that anyone ever got overweight or had a hard time to lose weight, because of being offered the occasional treat at a friend's house (assuming this is not happening daily). Take a bite, or ask for a small portion (say you are full or be honest and say you are trying to lose weight), or plan ahead so you will fit this meal into your calories.0
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