I know you don't know me but...

I'm sorry for your loss. I know how it feels especially people that are close to you make comments like that. You have to stay strong and shake it off though. Don't let them get to you. And think about how strong your mom would like to see you. You know she's watching you.Keep your head up, and make her proud.

I'm very sorry for your loss. I think you need to have a talk with your dad and brother and let them know that their comments are rude and hurtful and entirely uncalled for. I would ask why they feel the need to kick you when you are already down. You all need each other's love and support right now more than ever.

So sad to lose a loved one, losing your mother must feel awful and I am truly sorry. One would think you could have a nice visit with your brother after a sad time like this. I think one of the worst things a man can ask is asking a woman how much she weighs! It doesn't matter if you are related or not! And to make fun like that, how cold! It upsets me to realize people can be that cruel. Keep in mind it may be an odd way your brother is dealing with the loss, by avoiding it and joking around. Is he overweight? Maybe he is "jealous" that you lost so much weight? Congrats by the way! 145 is a decent weight! Anyways, there are a lot of nice people on here and lots of nice comments! Hope you are able to keep going strong!

@BekahC1980 I am so sorry that you have lost your beloved Mum, you have my sincerest condolences.

In relation to the comments by your Brother and Father - Firstly they are unacceptable no matter what the circumstances and when you are grieving such a huge loss they are even more out of line. I don't know what they are generally like as people, whether they are usually polite and kind and this is an aberration on their part.....maybe partly to do with their grieving but none the less is is unacceptable....and when you feel stronger you will have to tackle this kind of abuse head on and make it clear that you won't tolerate it.

I thought that it may be useful to share the experience I had with my older Sister after my Mother passed on - She made it her business to be as verbally cruel to me as possible in the days, weeks afterwards......but and this is the kicker she had always been awful towards me and our relationship was a always on very shaky ground. It was at this time that I finally realized that if we couldn't pull together at such an important time, then we never would, so I cut ties with her completely.....it was such a toxic relationship and sad as it was to do this, I did feel so much relief that it was over.

Maybe if your relationship with your family has always been difficult, your Mum's death could be the catalyst and now is the time for you to assess whether continuing contact is in your best interest and if not, have a break....even if it isn't permanent. Just give yourself the best chance to heal without this kind of rubbish being said to you.

My heart breaks for you at this time and I wish you peace and healing. Take care of yourself.

So sorry for your loss! Losing a parent is so very life changing!!
I must say, your brother and father are quite rude aren't they? Are they always like this or are they dealing with their own stress and loss by picking on others?? Honestly, if it were me, I would call them on it. You have obviously been workin your butt off and they have absolutely no right to treat you that way! Or anyone else for that matter! Your loss is highly motivating to me, and I am sure others here! Take care of yourself, remind yourself how awesome you are, and hopefully your positivity will rub off on those around you!

So sorry about your mom. ((((Hug)))) As for your brother, unless he's 12, he's being a complete jerk-bag. You should be proud of all you've accomplished for your health! I am, and I just met you!

I had a heart to heart with my sis a few years back. All her snide remarks and back-handed "compliments" finally got to me. I told her if she couldn't talk to me with respect, then we weren't going to talk until she could do that. Turns out, her remarks had way more to do with what she was feeling about herself than they did with me. She thought she could take it out on me because we're family and we'd be together no matter what. When she saw she was wrong about that, things changed.

I don't know if you're in a place where you can tell them to stop with the insults, or give them an ultimatum, or just ignore it. You need to do whatever is right for you. I'm just sorry you're being treated this way by people who are supposed to love you.

The one thing to take away is their attitude, comments and insults make reflect what the see in themselves--it's just easier to take it out on you than admit there's something they need to change about themselves. Doesn't make it right, but it does make them human.

Stay strong! We're here for you!

I'm very sorry for your loss. And for your brother and father to be that heartless is appalling.

I agree with the other posters, it might be time to have a conversation with them and tell them how insensitive if not downright cruel their remarks have been and that you won't tolerate it. I know that is very easy for all of us to say, and much harder to actually do.

You have made a major accomplishment in losing those 80 pounds, and we are all proud of you.