Please, I need help

Oh, and follow Obese to Beast on YouTube.

Jake - change your mindset from looking at yourself in disgust to looking at yourself as this wonderful person who can accomplish anything! Your mind is the most powerful gift given to you - try NOT to let your emotions control your mind but your mind control your emotions. Tell yourself you can do this. Put up sticky notes around your room (bedroom / kitchen cabinets / refrigerator, etc.) with "positive" motivational sayings. The more you dwell in the negativity of how you feel, the harder it is for you to get to your goal.

It's very difficult to "switch" your thinking process from negative to positive, but once you do that, it will come so easily to you for you to see yourself in a better place mentally. It takes time, do NOT give up so quickly, keep it going for weeks (not just 14 days)... you will see a difference.

I've been there too bud, your not a lost cause. Don't restrict yourself so much that your suffering. Don't think you have to spend hours in the gym, run loads or eat only "clean" foods. Don't waste your money on a personal trainer if you don't have to, there is so much free information on YouTube, you just have to search for it. Kinobody, Hodge twins are good for a laugh. It's all about calories in vs calories out.

Story of my life!! You think you got the hang of it, and BAM. Back to square one. Please do not give up. Start out small. Maybe change one thing at a time (try to not eat any fast food for a week. I still have yet to master that.. usually I give in about three days in. ) It does make a difference. Set little goals: Walk every day for a week, drink 80 oz of water every day for a week (but continue doing the things you did the weeks before). Pretty soon you'll surprise yourself. You're only human. You're your own worst critic/enemy/bully/etc. Mentally getting motivated is a lot harder than physically getting motivated. YOU GOT THIS!!

I was right where you are when I started- disgusted with myself, but just couldn't seem to get started. On the morning I noticed my belly jiggling as I walked to the shower, I decided to go to Quick Weight Loss Center. Laying out all that cash was painful (although it really does motivate me!), but having someone to hold me accountable has made a huge difference. Knowing that every other day I'm going to have to step on the scale in front of someone and let them scrutinize my food journal keeps me going. Of course, you don't have to pay for that! Do you have someone you can call on to help you? Someone that you can report to on a regular basis that can give you some tough love when you need it? Personally, I wouldn't want someone I really love (i.e. friend or family) to be that person because I might end up hating them in the end, but it could even be someone you've connected with through MFP.

JakeSweeney73 wrote: »

Every night before I go to sleep, I just lay there in disgust. I tell myself that tomorrow, I will change but I just can't do it. I'm told to just stop being lazy and eat well, but it's way easier said than done. I've dieted before and I've done very well, 14 lbs in 2 weeks. However the results weren't enough to keep me on track. When I'm around food, no matter what, I eat. It's like a disease. I need somebody to help me. Should I look around for a personal trainer? I don't know what to do. Please help!!

Unless you change your habitual behavior WILLFULLY, then you'll continue.
Personal trainers can help with exercise programs, but YOU have to want to do them. No one can force you.

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Find your favorite foods and see if there is a similar option that has fewer calories. Check the labels. Or get a smaller serving size, take some home for a snack later, etc. I found all kinds of things that folks would not consider 'diet' or 'clean' that knock quite a few calories off what I normally eat. Don't set such an aggressive deficit, and you have more calories to play with. Really fast weight lost is not something I enjoy, so when I lose, I get to eat more, too! It's so much easier that way, and the weight loss still happens. I'd trade more calories for having to have a bit of patience any day

No decent coach would beat you up at the end of the game for what you haven't done. Yes, a little sober reflection at the end of the day for how you might have played this or that differently. Treat yourself at least as well as your best coach. Clean up your self talk. Then each day starts as a potential win.

Something that helps me stay on track is logging my food at the start of the day, for the whole day. Sometimes I slip and have to edit it, but more often than not, I stick to whatever I logged.

You could also try setting a small daily reward. It could be a food reward, like a weight watchers icecream bar, if you save enough calories during the day that you can eat it without going over your goal. Or it could be a non-food reward, such as recording all your favorite TV shows, and getting to watch one on days you hit your target. If you are over your calories, you have to go for a walk or something to put your net calories back into the green before you watch your show.

I notice you don't have very many MFP friends here. You might reach out and look for folks with similar goals to link with here. I know seeing my friends' progress is motivating for me and we encourage each other along the way. It's really helpful. You can feel free to add me if you want.

I'll second the comment about reading labels. Some things, that don't' sound healthy, are (like sloppy joes), and some things, that sound healthy, aren't (like zucchini bread). One kind of sandwich bread will be 160 calories a slice, while another will be 70. If you start looking at the labels, you can quickly find smart switches that can add up to a lot less calories in your day, without really changing what you eat.

I also second making one or two small changes at a time; get those things to become habits before adding another small change. Maybe one you can start with, that a lot of people struggle with, is not drinking soda. It's amazing how many calories hide in beverages, but once you realize you can have a whole delicious chicken breast in place of 1 bottle of coke, it starts to be easier to let go of it.

Set smart goals too. Any more than about 2lbs a week isn't really healthy. Set yourself up for success by taking your time to do it well, a little at a time, and you'll make it. Sometimes it's a struggle, but it's worth fighting for yourself!