Done fine till S/O came back. Help.

Unless she is forcefully feeding you, aren't you responsible for what you eat? You'll have to deal with the temptations best you can. Do you want to be the weight you were headed toward before the re-unification, or do you want to submit to temptation and be what you will become? We all get the body we want. What do you want, and how badly do you want it?

Moderation and self control. Boring but effective

If you are a sweets fan, budget them into your day or week--one serving per day or two servings per week or something else that satisfies your sweet tooth but also allows you to balance your calorie budget overall.

buckmaster299 wrote: »

Best way around temptation though? Any suggestions with that? It is something I'm working on but i suck at resisting certain temptations. LOL

Just say no or if the "temptations" can fit into your goal, have a small serving.

Maybe less of a suggestion than a parable:

I've been married for 30+ years to a man who is skinny as a rail and can eat whatever he wants. Now, for the most part, he eats fairly healthy, but we both love salty snacks.

For years I blamed him for making me fat by bringing chips and pretzels and other starchy salty snacks into the house. We'd been married about 5 years when I got made enough (probably at myself) to confront him about it.

He was sincerely (and rightfully) taken completely off guard. He had no earthly idea that in my head I had made him the Food Villain for "staining" my pristine cupboards with heathen contraband.

He was dumbfounded, and his face said it all. I realized at that moment that what went into MY mouth was not HIS job or his responsibility, and that I was the one being completely unreasonable.

To this day (some 25+ years of happiness later), when I see a bag of Salty Heathen/Heaven in the pantry, I flash on the look of utter shock and baffled baffled confusion on that dear man's face when his wife went bat-*kitten* crazy on his butt over a bag of Fritos.

It's that mental image that keeps my hands off of his snacks, and out of my mouth!

jemhh wrote: »

AbsoluteTara79 wrote: »

buckmaster299 wrote: »

Best way around temptation though? Any suggestions with that? It is something I'm working on but i suck at resisting certain temptations. LOL

Just keep practicing saying no until it sucks less....

Yep. Saying "no" is like exercising or cooking or any other skill, it gets easier the more you do it.

Yup. Took me forever to get this through my head- after a lot of trial and error. The longer you practice this, the easier it is to tell when you really want a treat or if you are just being greedy. I really like Coca Cola, there is always a case in my fridge because my bf likes it too, but now I enjoy it more as treat than drinking it all day, every day. I know now, through trial and error, if I go back to old ways it will only take me longer to get to my goal. He lives and eats how he wants- I had to find my own balance.

Maybe only eat sweets when you are with her, when you are by yourself or at work stay away from them. This way you can have them in moderation and can fit them into your goals. From my experience... if you bring it up to her/try to blame her only makes the situation worse and makes everyone feel bad for no reason. Your weight is your responsibly, not hers!

I was always giving in to sweets, biscuits, cakes, ice cream and chocolate once - would buy a lot of this stuff in the weekly shop and once it was home in the cupboards it'd play on my mind, would HAVE to have some or all of it, most of it didn't last the week or even a few days. But I know these things are my downfall and what seems to have worked for me is to work smaller portions of these treats into my allowance rather than deny myself them completely. So have some - not lots and not all - the more I practiced this the easier it was to have a smaller portion and be satisfied with it, to actually savour the food by eating it more slowly and so enjoy the taste/texture for longer.
Can now watch my OH tuck into larger portions of cakes and biscuits beside me and not even have to have something at the same time, but in the past that was impossible. I had to re-train my mind to not want so much of these things so often and make them be a small treat instead; it does work in the long run.

My teenage children didn't want to share their treats so they switched to ketchup and salt and vinegar chips (which I hate).

Are there any sweets you are not as keen on that she likes?

Or you can store them in the freezer to slow down consumption.

Or she can have a SO free shelf that is hers alone. Inhale the aroma and go chew on a carrot.

I eat something right before I leave the office so I don't come home hungry when my willpower is at its lowest.

I'm a fan of whatever works.