how do you love yourself on the way to weight loss?

It's not all about the scale. maybe focus on something else that will nourish your body & your soul.

Here's a few links to get you started....

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1275030/whats-your-most-recent-nsv#latest

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10003600/daily-gratitudes-and-accomplishments#latest

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10052379/unexpected-results-of-weight-loss/p5

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1103385

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1083301

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10099482/just-for-today-daily-commitment-thread#latest

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10129035/pre-logging-motivating-or-an-opportunity-to-let-things-slide-sabotage#latest

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1167854/photo-only-success-stories#latest

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The time is going to pass anyway, why not pass it in a way that contributes to your health and looks instead of taking away from them?

All I know is I always feel much better after a workout than how I felt after a cheat meal. You can do it! Only keep friends that will stay positive in this negative world we live in. Just stay consistent and stay off the scale for a while. Add me if you want.

I love you just for asking this question. Please add. I will never degrade you. I struggle so badly with self hatred but it's about getting up every morning and choosing to fight that negativity. In my weight loss log I started tallying self-deprecating thoughts. It gives you a visual and makes you
More aware about what you are saying to yourself

Well - I'm not sure I'm at the point where I can say I love myself, but I can say I'm doing better at not beating myself up. I once read in "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" the number one thing was to make peace with imperfection. I know this journey isn't going to be perfect. I'm going to stumble, and then life happens when you make other plans, so it's not a case of if something's going to happen, but when, and how I deal with it.

Another thing is to monitor your input. If you're watching news shows or shows that are "downers" then quit watching them. I mean really - when you watch the news or read the paper, it's all "These people got shot.....that building got bombed......that person was arrested for something horrible...." There's 30 minutes of news like that, and maybe 20 seconds of "On a lighter note....someone dropped a $100 bill in the Salvation Army kettle". There's too much gloom/doom that a 20 second blip isn't going to counteract the negativity.

Eventually, the gloom/doom starts to subside.

It really does matter both what you pay attention to, and what you eat - all the input matters, so make changes all around.

I am new to this site but I have to admit that I was shocked by some of the comments I've read. Some of these people are just rude and condescending. I thought the whole point was to get encouragement and support. I have felt the same way you feel for a long time. I finally decided to do something about it regardless of what anyone else thinks or says. If I can't get support here, I'll go somewhere else to get it. I have found a few threads that have been very positive and supporting. I stick to those and stay away from the others. I hope you begin to love yourself. I wish you all the best.

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I think it might be possible to both work on being kinder to yourself - or at least not hating yourself as you are - and working towards a weight loss goal in a way that doesn't punish you.

First thing: you're seeing a doctor for your actual health issues, and getting continued help for ED thinking, right, maybe in a support group? That should happen, get any specialist help you need.

If you do want community support, from MFP: +1 to avoiding triggers. You can apparently hide particular forums if you want to. I'd stay away from the Fitness, General, and Success Stories forums, and only post in Motivation, in that case.

But maybe MFP isn't a good place for you, and there are other ways to be mindful of food and fitness that aren't triggering*.

Being kind to yourself:

+1 to blocking fitspo and unreasonable body image ideals anywhere else, in all kinds of media.

Dress in ways that make you feel comfortable and show you to your best advantage, no clingy stuff for now.

Pick up some hobbies that take your full attention and have nothing to do with fitness. Something creative, maybe. If you're already doing something creative in an intense way, choose something new that you're just going to do for fun.

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Do the minimum amount of fitness (and thinking about fitness and dieting) possible and trust that the program will get you there. Choose your approach carefully.

Strength training, if you want to do it for your bones and strength and general health (as well as reshaping, it's ok to admit that, I think) - pick a plan, track your progress and wins on a paper notepad, and put it away when you're done with your session. Then go do something else that's productive.

For cardio, forget anything intense or even in a gym and don't even call it "cardio" or think about calories. Just go for walks, in your normal clothes (but supportive shoes). Don't do it for longer than an hour. Just notice the trees and birds and that sort of thing. Think of it as enjoying getting fresh air and being alive and connected to the world.

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*If you do still want to lose weight, I wonder if non-calorie-counting methods might be better for you. (I don't know, guidelines like that might be worse, especially if you were 98 pounds only a year ago.) But I wonder - with no knowledge of ED, mind you - whether this post might have something for you:

Non tracking methods and behaviors that may help while tracking

Because, basically, the way to control intake without weighing things and counting calories is to control either the kind of food so less of it's calorific (I think it can still be tasty) - without demonizing foods that are calorific, just limiting them, or, using portion control, using visual estimates, like in a lot of food guides. (e.g. "1/2 cup rice with a piece of meat the size of your palm and a salad" sort of thing).

I lost my weight by following a simple diet focused on lean meats, grains, veg, fruit, dairy, and nuts. I used measuring cups (very roughly), and had small treats occasionally, but limited them in amounts and just didn't keep them in the house to avoid making me feel like I had to fight myself. (Basically what's in that link above.) *I don't know if that would be ok for you*.

I also got really into cooking and enjoying the delicious and healthy food I was eating for the taste. So it was thinking of it in terms of adding great stuff, rather than taking things away.

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I mentioned in your last thread that I can't work out like I used to, right, and how not being able to work out is a bummer. I'm doing all that stuff above, and it helps. I don't go to the Fitness forum anymore (unless a thread about an injury I've had happens to float to the top, ha, and I think I can be helpful.) I focus on what I can do - right now that's just food-related, so nutrition and cooking. I dress in clothes that make me feel good.