Im so dam stressseddd, i am a stressy stress monster and i stress eat constantly.

You need to find outlets for your stress. Exercise can help many people, but you'll need to find what works for you. Could be art, music, exercise, yoga, meditation, or reading a book.

Oh God you poor thing.....Life has really thrown you a lot to deal with at once.

Firstly can you find a sitter, daycare or a gym that has facilities to look after the littlies while you go and burn off some of that tension in a workout that you enjoy??

Maybe you could enlist the support of family/friends to share sitting and get some you time doing whatever pleases you and takes you out of the house for a while....even getting out and putting the kids in a pram (one that can take your toddler may help....although I guess if you are in the North the weather will be against that.)

Regarding your marriage, I am sorry to hear this. Can you get the services of counselling?? Preferably for you both but even if your partner doesn't want to it would be beneficial to have the ear of someone independent. Phone services or Crisis lines may be helpful too if you are feeling the need?? What about Church?? (Sorry if this is personal but it may be somewhere you can reach out a hand and say you need some help....they may also be able to get you some alone time for de-stressing with a new hobby, course or gym time.....something just for you.)

The other place to that I would speak up is at your family Dr. You have a really little baby and a toddler and those alone are stressful.....Post-partum is a difficult enough time...

I hope things get better for you. Just do what you can food wise. Eat to nurture your body rather than fueling more stress.....perhaps re-preparing healthy veg. snacks and having fruit etc to go to rather than sugary, high fat (or whatever floats your boat) snacks that you automatically reach for.

I wish you all the best.

I do that too. I find chewing gum or herbal tea can make my "snacking" feeling dissipate. I also knit to music (faster paced the better) and it relieves similar stress to working out. I think the music/tactile/speed/focus on pattern combo clears my mind a bit, like working out. Other times, like tonight, I just want popcorn really badly & there's no stopping it. Good luck!