MFP is the new plenty of fish?

Kimegatron
Kimegatron Posts: 772 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
Ladies, any of you keep getting friend requests and messages from men saying that you're sexy or adorable? Please tell me I'm not the only one. I use this strictly to get healthier. Am I missing something, is this some dating site too?
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  • Kimegatron
    Kimegatron Posts: 772 Member
    Or men, I'm sure some of you get that also. I'm just pretty sure I put that I'm married on my profile... Is this normal here?
  • caffeinatedcami
    caffeinatedcami Posts: 168 Member
    That is not typical as far as I know. The chit-chat forum does have a sort of 'flirty' reputation but the rest of MFP does not have that vibe at all. Sorry you've had to deal with that. Hopefully it is an isolated incident.
  • Kimegatron
    Kimegatron Posts: 772 Member
    It's not, I'm just getting sick of it lol!
  • caffeinatedcami
    caffeinatedcami Posts: 168 Member
    If you keep getting unwanted attention you should report it to the MFP moderators.
  • 3dogsrunning
    3dogsrunning Posts: 27,167 Member
    I've been here awhile and haven't had any of that.

    Also, just for info, your profile is closed so peole who aren't friends can't see you are married or any of the other info.
  • kgeyser
    kgeyser Posts: 22,505 Member
    No, but that's probably because of the tentacles.
  • 3dogsrunning
    3dogsrunning Posts: 27,167 Member
    kgeyser wrote: »
    No, but that's probably because of the tentacles.

    I think they are adorable.
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  • jemhh
    jemhh Posts: 14,261 Member
    Definitely have not had that happen. Did you post in the Chit Chat section? I think that area tends to have a different "vibe" and may lead to more messages like that.
  • rainbowbow
    rainbowbow Posts: 7,490 Member
    I get this occasionally, but my suggestion is to do the following->

    Make your profile Public, just keep your feed private.
    Write something about being married and not adding people unless they have a valid reason.
    ^ This will let people see it, because right now you can't see anything
    Change your photo to something other than a picture of you smirking at the camera
    Don't add any friends unless they have a note about WHY they are adding you
    If it's a man and they haven't added a note on why they want to be friends, look at their profile. Do they have nothing other than women friends? Don't add them then.

    @kgeyser Why can't we block users anymore from their profile?

    I get this a lot less often nowadays but i've definitely received explicit and creepy messages from people. I've even received messages which bait me into believing they aren't creeps like "Hey, do you mind if i ask a few questions about your diet plan?" and i'm like "sure, what can i help with" and then they're all "Oh, by the way you're sexy." or "Hey sexy, have a good day!"

    Honestly, it's crazy.
  • kalynbreann357
    kalynbreann357 Posts: 56 Member
    I've gotten this once or twice in the past, I just ignore and move on.
  • Kimegatron
    Kimegatron Posts: 772 Member
    Jeez I didn't know it was private. Well then I guess I brought it on. Oops!
  • 3dogsrunning
    3dogsrunning Posts: 27,167 Member
    Kimegatron wrote: »
    Jeez I didn't know it was private. Well then I guess I brought it on. Oops!

    I didn't meant to imply that is what brought it on, just that it wasn't as obvious as you thought it was.
  • tomatoey
    tomatoey Posts: 5,446 Member
    Kimegatron wrote: »
    Jeez I didn't know it was private. Well then I guess I brought it on. Oops!

    You didn't bring it on yourself, that shouldn't happen. But potential for that is reason # 23 I don't have a personal profile pic. (Not saying it would happen to me, but just in case.)
  • Gisel2015
    Gisel2015 Posts: 4,186 Member
    3dogsrunning wrote: »
    I've been here awhile and haven't had any of that.

    Also, just for info, your profile is closed so peole who aren't friends can't see you are married or any of the other info.

    How do you know that her profile is closed? When I click in the name of a member that information doesn't show anymore. It only shows when he/she enrolled in MFP and if I want to send a message or ignore. Did anything changed?
  • Kimegatron
    Kimegatron Posts: 772 Member
    I have no idea how to open my about me from my phone. I'll have to do it when I get home I guess
  • rainbowbow
    rainbowbow Posts: 7,490 Member
    Gisel2015 wrote: »
    3dogsrunning wrote: »
    I've been here awhile and haven't had any of that.

    Also, just for info, your profile is closed so peole who aren't friends can't see you are married or any of the other info.

    How do you know that her profile is closed? When I click in the name of a member that information doesn't show anymore. It only shows when he/she enrolled in MFP and if I want to send a message or ignore. Did anything changed?

    that's what it looks like when someone's profile is private. ;)
  • Kimegatron
    Kimegatron Posts: 772 Member
    tomatoey wrote: »
    Kimegatron wrote: »
    Jeez I didn't know it was private. Well then I guess I brought it on. Oops!

    You didn't bring it on yourself, that shouldn't happen. But potential for that is reason # 23 I don't have a personal profile pic. (Not saying it would happen to me, but just in case.)

    Now I'm wondering what reasons 1-22 are
  • lovatt79
    lovatt79 Posts: 31 Member
    Chance would be a fine thing
  • cafeaulait7
    cafeaulait7 Posts: 2,459 Member
    Gisel2015 wrote: »
    3dogsrunning wrote: »
    I've been here awhile and haven't had any of that.

    Also, just for info, your profile is closed so peole who aren't friends can't see you are married or any of the other info.

    How do you know that her profile is closed? When I click in the name of a member that information doesn't show anymore. It only shows when he/she enrolled in MFP and if I want to send a message or ignore. Did anything changed?

    Mine does that now, too, when it didn't before. Click on their picture on that new page and you'll go to their profile (or the private note if private). It's like a middle step stuck in there for some reason.
  • vespiquenn
    vespiquenn Posts: 1,455 Member
    I have this happen a lot. I usually don't reject friend requests because I don't mind new friends, but this means I get those awkward messages. Usually a couple a month. I just delete them and move on. If anything, it amuses me slightly.
  • Chezzie84
    Chezzie84 Posts: 873 Member
    I get it every now and again but I just delete without a response and forget about it.
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    I never really understood what the big deal is. If you don't want to talk to them, don't. If they are being inappropriate, or saying something you don't like, block them.
    People are people, and some people like to interact/flirt/be around other people, and the format they find them in isn't all that important.
  • robs_ready
    robs_ready Posts: 1,488 Member
    edited December 2015
    It's better than plenty of fish, at least you have something decent in common :tongue:
  • dhimaan
    dhimaan Posts: 774 Member
    jennifer_417 wrote: »
    I never really understood what the big deal is. If you don't want to talk to them, don't. If they are being inappropriate, or saying something you don't like, block them.
    People are people, and some people like to interact/flirt/be around other people, and the format they find them in isn't all that important.

    It is only a big deal if you make it a big deal.

  • amusedmonkey
    amusedmonkey Posts: 10,330 Member
    I don't get these because 1. I have Chit Chat blocked 2. don't have a personal profile picture

    If you participate in the chit chat forum it could be seen by some as an invitation. Not your fault. If you don't participate in chit chat, a profile picture could be seen by some as an invitation. Again, not your fault.

    In real life going to the bar without a partner could be seen as an invitation, and even if you don't go to bars sometimes simply having a face is an invitation according to random people who participate in catcalling in the streets. Just like in real life you either decline invitations or ignore catcalls. No big deal. listing you're not interested on your profile would be the equivalent of wearing a wedding ring.

    MFP is not the new POF, it's simply a place that has real people from the real world, with all kinds of real personalities, and for them to act like people in real life do is to be expected.
  • middlehaitch
    middlehaitch Posts: 8,486 Member
    Hahaha, I have had it happen quite a lot. Not too much recently though.
    Fair enough my avatar is a pic of me, but in my profile, public, it quite blatantly says I am 62.
    What the he|| would a 20something guy do with me if I responded- shudder to think.

    Pay no attention, just trolls of a different kind.

    Cheers, h.
  • robs_ready
    robs_ready Posts: 1,488 Member
    middlehaitch wrote: »
    Hahaha, I have had it happen quite a lot. Not too much recently though.
    Fair enough my avatar is a pic of me, but in my profile, public, it quite blatantly says I am 62.
    What the he|| would a 20something guy do with me if I responded- shudder to think.

    Pay no attention, just trolls of a different kind.

    Cheers, h.

    Nothing wrong with an older woman!
  • dhimaan
    dhimaan Posts: 774 Member
    roblloyd89 wrote: »
    middlehaitch wrote: »
    Hahaha, I have had it happen quite a lot. Not too much recently though.
    Fair enough my avatar is a pic of me, but in my profile, public, it quite blatantly says I am 62.
    What the he|| would a 20something guy do with me if I responded- shudder to think.

    Pay no attention, just trolls of a different kind.

    Cheers, h.

    Nothing wrong with an older woman!

    I agree. I know sexy when I see it and it has nothing to do with age. Susan Sarandon and Helen Mirren are hot.

  • middlehaitch
    middlehaitch Posts: 8,486 Member
    @roblloyd89 you made me nearly spit out my wine! B)
    @dhimaan they most certainly are.

    Happy hols, h.

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