Huge Self Confidence Hit for a Bride-to-Be

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  • kgs0201
    kgs0201 Posts: 459 Member
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    The giving him a lap dance thing is actually what kind of got me originally so worked up over this. I mean I've "tried" to give him a lap dance in the past but I have absolutely NO rhythm so I always felt silly doing it anyway. Now I feel like I could never do it again because I'd be competing with his memory of a pro (these were his first lap dances ever).

    Yes ridiculous I know. Thank you for all of the helpful and supportive comments so far!

    I didn't see this one before I posted mine... It's not for everyone but the more he compliments your body and the more tipsy you both are (hey it will be your honeymoon lol) the better it will feel. Some guys go for awkward and a little goofy. It's endearing.

    ahahha ahhh yes the power of alcohol. i think i'll make him give me a lap dance ;-)
  • zorbaru
    zorbaru Posts: 1,077 Member
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    men like to look at things that look good on the surface, but when it comes down to it they wouldnt really want it. cars, boats, guns, everything.

    have a look at this quote from character in a tv show called coupling after his girlfriend found his porn video and at a dinner party a female psychologist asked how can he enjoy something like that (after a big discussion of trying to justify the "erotica" genre as a legitimate film type). it sums it all up well think

    "Oh, because it's got naked women in it! Look, I like naked women! I'm a bloke! I'm supposed to like them! We're born like that. We like naked women as soon as we're pulled out of one. Halfway down the birth canal we're already enjoying the view. Look, it's the four pillars of the male heterosexual psyche. We like: naked women, stockings, lesbians, and Sean Connery best as James Bond. Because that is what being a bloke is. I want to spend the rest of my life with the woman at the end of the table here. But that does not stop me wanting to see several thousand more naked bottoms before I die. Because that's what being a bloke is. When Man invented fire, he didn't say "Hey, let's cook!" He said: "Great! Now we can see naked bottoms in the dark!" As soon as Caxton invented the printing press we were using it to make pictures of - hey! - naked bottoms. We've turned the Internet into an enormous international database of... naked bottoms. So, you see, the story of male achievement through the ages, feeble though it may have been, has been the story of our struggle to get a better look at your bottoms. Frankly, girls, I'm not so sure how insulted you really ought to be. "

    so, basically, seeing other naked women is in no way related to how much your man loves you.
  • GIBride01
    GIBride01 Posts: 328 Member
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    Well, I hate to be the one to point this out...since no one else is...men are idiots. :wink: Seriously, my husband and I will have our 10 year anniversary next month, have been together almost 12 years. He still stares at the girls whenever I walk out of the shower naked or wear a low cut top...like someone else said, men are visual creatures, hence the reason there are a million female strip clubs out there, and not a whole lot of male ones. Plus like someone said, I think it is mandatory to act like a dumba** at a guys bachelor party. My hubbys bachelor party, apparently he and the best man got cut off so went to the hotel, passed out, and got up a few hours later to play roller hockey with a bunch of guys...and did I mention this was all the night before the wedding.

    He is marrying you for a reason, and the fact he told you about all of this nonsense means you look to have an honest man - so relax, or at least find some other wedding detail to stress about!
  • getfitdiva
    getfitdiva Posts: 1,148 Member
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    You know how many men have been graced by the same old boobs they flaunt around. It's annoying I know!!! But he loves you and you think he will marry the half naked women that do this for a living! EEECK. It's their jobs they just want to get paid LOL. He's marrying you and you are marrying him for a reason and your love is deeper than the outward appearance. Take it with a grain of salt and throw it out the window :flowerforyou:
  • mental_release
    mental_release Posts: 65
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    I was trying to figure out what to say to you but others have said it in different ways. All I can tell you is this: when I saw my bride standing at the back of the aisle, I saw only her. I couldn't believe she was there for *me*. When you stand at the end of the aisle looking at the alter, he's going to be looking at you...thinking about you...wondering if its a dream he's marrying you.

    So know this: you are beautiful and he chooses _you_. You *are* worth it!

    --MR
  • ah18255
    ah18255 Posts: 3
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    every guy in the world looks at other girls. My boyfriend and I have been together for five years and openly discuss other people that we find attractive. The point is you love each other. It is so far beyond boobs, or butts, or anything else physical. you have an emotional connection with one another. you LOVE each other. Let other girls have the biggest boobs they want, (I too am small chested) its not about boobs. Its about love. period. He wants to marry you, not some stripper, and not some other girl with bigger breasts. If he wanted bigger breasts, he would have dated someone else to begin with. Please, don't worry about the lap dance. Its just a ritual, and it does not mean he likes a stripper body type more than yours. Have a delightful wedding!

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