What to do when your S/O is a bad health influence

There is another post here about the same thing.

Bottom line the consensus seems to be: Don't nag him to death about it, it's up to you to control your own food intake. Either eating healthier food, or smaller portions of the badder food.

You don't have to give up bad food, just limit your portion sizes and accurately track it.

Hopefully he will see you are trying and buy into it himself.

"HE keeps letting US slide back...". Surely you have some control over what YOU do.

You will just have to meal plan separate. Take responsibility bc this is YOUR journey and you ultimately choose to put in your body what you do. However you can say hey, can we not buy this for awhile bc it's a trigger food til I can feel I can control it. (This helped)

I hide his foods from myself. We eat differently at meals. I found healthier alternative or snack replacements or less calories. Invite him to have one healthy meal together a day ( for bonding and to slowly intro a better way of eating then you can make the ones he likes as meals together)

I had to start by being accountable to me. Sure I can blame him bc he buys chips or chocolates but I ask him not to buy them for me anymore but buy me instead popcorn or coconut chips.

I als had to learn to view God different and its relation to us as acouple and what that means too.

shellyburger wrote: »

Hello!
I'm in need of some advice. I'm current boyfriend, who I have been with for over a year now, is an extremely bad influence on my eating habits. He is blessed with a strong metabolism and has never had to work hard to have a body he is proud of.
This has recently become problematic for me as I've realized the effect that this has had on my health. Because we spend so much time together and eat most of our meals together I find that I have fallen into his bad habits.
While I have spoken to him about my intentions to live a healthier lifestyle and he seems understanding and willing to help, I find that he keeps letting us slide back into our old habits.
How can I motivate him to make healthier decisions with me?

There is no "strong metabolism."
If he is bigger than you, he is naturally burning more calories.
And he is not your father. He cannot force you to have bad eating habits.

Don't make your decisions dependant on somebody else. Do what you need to do for yourself.

My BF is having thoughts about trying vegetarianism for a month. I think it's because of me...

Only you can be responsible for what you eat. It's not fair to expect him to follow your eating patterns if he doesn't need/want to.

What you should be able to expect is that he supports your eating decisions and doesn't try to tempt you with his eating choices.

If your finding it hard to stick to your meal choices when eating together, perhaps consider spending a bit less time together and eat some meals alone or with more supportive people. He may miss you so much that he chose to eat more healthily in order to get your company back at mealtimes .... that would then be his choice, not you forcing your choices on him.

HE doesn't let you slide back, that's all on you. He doesn't want or need to make a change, so it's up to you to take ownership.

Eat the same as him, but a smaller serve and have a side of salad or veg. Let him have snacks of his choice and get yourself something that fits your calorie goals.

You can't depend on someone else to make these changes for you.

My husband is twice my size. However, I can still maintain control over what goes into my body. He leaves the house before breakfast time for me and the kids, we work during lunch and he's not often home for tea either because of late shifts and rugby training. Obviously we do eat together but he'll either have a larger serving or he's actually content eating the same size evening meal as he has more through the rest of the day. I'm just getting back on it with tracking and exercise now but my fall off the wagon wasn't because of my husband, it was all me.

My mum's a much worse influence! She's a real feeder. She gives large portions, always offers (homemade and delicious) puddings, has biscuits with tea etc. So when we eat at my parents' I just have to be really open and state that I want a smaller portion or I have a normal portion and no pudding or a slice of melon or a little yoghurt.

But then again, on those days I try to control my other meals and snacks, do some exercise and it allows me to relax and enjoy the shepherds pie or whatever she's made.