I'm on a diet and my boyfriend is not!!!

You should probably have a slice of pizza and a nice big salad to go with it so you don't eat like six slices of pizza. Because that's what happens when pizza is around.

Ask him what days he plans on bringing home dinner and plan around it?

I eat the same food I did when I was fat, just less of them and more vegetables. Are you always going to avoid pizza? Burgers? No? Then why do it now?

I cook for four other people in my house, and none of them are on my diet. It's hard to not eat the mashed potatoes with butter that I make for them, but it all comes down to liking how I FEEL about myself when I'm successful at this more than I like the taste of their tater tots. And I try to make healthy food for me that I really, truly enjoy. Also, if it fits in your calories to enjoy a small slice of pizza, then have the pizza. Ultimately this journey is about balance. Being able to enjoy the foods you love as part of a more healthy lifestyle.

Just break up.

I have three sons (two are very lean, active teens) and a husband who have massively larger caloric needs than me. When we have pizza, I eat pizza. Just less (one or two slices). I fill the rest of my plate with veggies and salad.

I learned right quick that if I denied myself any of what they were eating, I'd get resentful and hateful. So, no denying myself yummy stuff. Pizza, tacos, burgers, etc. can be fit into any daily intake. Just choose a portion that fits.

I have this same problem. My boyfriend is 6'4" and can eat a large pizza by himself and not gain an ounce. All he has to do is say "hm, I should lose some weight" and it seemingly instantly comes off in a few days.
The only semi-solution I've found so far is to INSIST on doing all of the grocery shopping and all of the cooking--for both of you. That's what we do.

gracepostie wrote: »

itsfuntobenormal wrote: »

Ask him what days he plans on bringing home dinner and plan around it?

I eat the same food I did when I was fat, just less of them and more vegetables. Are you always going to avoid pizza? Burgers? No? Then why do it now?

Good point!!! I just feel like just starting out on a diet I want to be strict. So I can get the healthy habits down. Then maybe in a month or so. I can have the slice of pizza. Or whatever it is

There's nothing unhealthy about a slice of pizza. Unless it's deep dish or covered in meat, it's usually 250-350 calories a slice and the macro breakdown usually pretty balanced. Being able to eat normal foods within your calorie goal is actually a skill, learning it now will benefit you greatly in the future.

Being too strict with yourself will only lead to you getting frustrated and quitting.

Stop thinking in terms of diet. You are adopting a new lifestyle.

gracepostie wrote: »

itsfuntobenormal wrote: »

Ask him what days he plans on bringing home dinner and plan around it?

I eat the same food I did when I was fat, just less of them and more vegetables. Are you always going to avoid pizza? Burgers? No? Then why do it now?

Good point!!! I just feel like just starting out on a diet I want to be strict. So I can get the healthy habits down. Then maybe in a month or so. I can have the slice of pizza. Or whatever it is

The biggest healthy habit you can get down is to learn to eat anything, just in moderation, as long as it fits your caloric goals, and hopefully macros.

This isn't a temp dieting issue it's a lifelong reality. You and your bf have different Stats and tdee requirements. A 6' guy needs to eat more over a 5'2 gal. It would be good now to eat what you want but to eat less than you used to. Because you and your bf probably will never eat at the same lvl without one of you bulking up or the other losing more weight.

gracepostie wrote: »

itsfuntobenormal wrote: »

Ask him what days he plans on bringing home dinner and plan around it?

I eat the same food I did when I was fat, just less of them and more vegetables. Are you always going to avoid pizza? Burgers? No? Then why do it now?

Good point!!! I just feel like just starting out on a diet I want to be strict. So I can get the healthy habits down. Then maybe in a month or so. I can have the slice of pizza. Or whatever it is

You only need to be strict in calorie counting by weighing and logging your foods, not in the foods that you eat. Weight loss is all about calorie deficit. Just like many said, eat what your guy eats, just less of it and add a large salad... And log log log!

I eat pizza every day (or close to it) and I'm down 45lb. If you want to lose weight eat at a deficit. If you want to be healthy, eat a varied diet and eat less nutritional items in moderation. But there is no reason you have to be strict with anything (not even calorie counting).

My boyfriend is in charge of dinner most of the time because I work a few hours later than he does. Unfortunately he is a bit lazy and loves delivery/take-out! I've had to work with him in either: (1) not ordering me anything and I will fend for myself when I get home (and hopefully after he's already eaten whatever unhealthy food he ordered so it isn't around for me to eat); or (2) eating what he orders, but less of it.

Take pizza for example. He's not going to eat the whole thing on his own, and I love pizza so I want to eat it too. I'm not going to deprive myself because in the past that has always been a sure-fire way of failure for me. So, I eat the pizza. But I eat less of it. A few months ago I could easily put away 3 large slices of pizza without really thinking about it. However, since I've started eating healthier and logging, first I check to see if either the restaurant posts the calories per slice or if I can find something comparable in the MFP database. Once I figure out an estimate of the calories in a slice and how many calories I have left for the day, I'll determine how much I can eat. Normally by dinnertime my calorie allowance is still enough to easily allow me to eat 1-2 slices (depending on the size and toppings of course) plus a salad or veggies on the side. This way, I haven't deprived myself and I've stayed within my calorie goal for the day.

I'd really recommend not depriving yourself of foods like pizza if you really like them. Perhaps just start with a goal of eating a smaller portion - maybe eventually you'll never want pizza again (though I highly doubt that LOL). A lot of the progress I've made can really be attributed to small changes in my diet, primarily through eating smaller portions of the food I've always eaten. Pretty much every time I've failed at weight loss can be traced back to setting way too high of goals for myself (such as saying I'll never have pizza again) instead of smaller lifestyle changes (such as eating less pizza).

coreyreichle wrote: »

gracepostie wrote: »

itsfuntobenormal wrote: »

Ask him what days he plans on bringing home dinner and plan around it?

I eat the same food I did when I was fat, just less of them and more vegetables. Are you always going to avoid pizza? Burgers? No? Then why do it now?

Good point!!! I just feel like just starting out on a diet I want to be strict. So I can get the healthy habits down. Then maybe in a month or so. I can have the slice of pizza. Or whatever it is

The biggest healthy habit you can get down is to learn to eat anything, just in moderation, as long as it fits your caloric goals, and hopefully macros.

Yessss.