Family support? do you have any?

Same here my wifes the same way. Says she is happy with her self. I do not think she understands why I am not happy and just live life.

My husband is the same but, honestly, it doesn't affect my resolve to eat healthier. Once in a blue moon, I'll have some chips or cookies (I don't believe in the word "never"), but I don't feel the need to eat something just because it's there. I remind myself that I'm trying to take care of my body even if other people aren't.

We're not responsible for other people. Only ourselves.

I am lucky, my family fully supports my WOE; probably partially because they see it is making improvements in my health, energy levels and mood.

Now that is just support... None of them eat the same as I do nor would I expect them to do so. My boys still eat a LOT of crackers, fruits, potatoes and rice, all of which do not fit well in my WOE. They also eat homemade cookies, waffles and muffins which I won't touch.

I can't, won't and shouldn't make my family eat my way if they don't need to. Even my hubby, who is starting to notice issue with controlling his sugars and the subsequent weight gain, can not be made to eat my way, just like I won't eat his way.

Hang in there. You'll soon get used to it and it probably won't bother you as much.

I have none. My husband is not at all interested in my lifestyle. He was at one point many years ago but is now dealing with illness and his own issues so is not supportive.
What I realized is that I have to do this for myself and by myself. It makes no difference if I have a team of cheerleaders routing for me or if I'm all alone . if I want something I will have to work for it. No amount of support would matter unless I truly wanted this anyway. It comes down to me.
Right now in my kitchen I have cookies, devil food cake , twizzlers candy, Hershey bars and cinnamon rolls. I could go eat all of them but that would not help me achieve my goals. Or I can eat one portion that fits within calories and move forward in achieving my goals. Its all up to me.
In fact, I think it teaches a good lesson in portion control and self control when there is plenty of treats around. It taught me that I can have treats, I don't have to deprive myself. But It also taught me how to manage my diet . in the real world there will be temptation everywhere ,I know I can now control myself in all those situations. I don't have to just keep celery in the house to stick to my diet , I can use self control now.
So you won't always get the support you want but you won't always need all the support anyway. It comes down to you.

You have to get over this. There's no need for him to change so that you can lose weight, if he doesn't want to support you he doesn't have to.

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realityfades wrote: »

Have you politely asked him to move his food to a designated area where you're less tempted to get it?

Of course.. but not happening. lol It's ok.. I just make my own healthy food and snacks for me and my kids. He is a grown man.. he can make his bad choices on his own.

You could try throwing it out the window next time. He might get the picture then.

It's not that my boyfriend isn't supportive - he is. He just doesn't have to not bring home the things that he wants because I'm trying to lose 20 pounds. He's 150 on a bad day and has been known to lose 10 pounds without thinking about it. Just because it's in the house doesn't mean I have to eat it. We eat the same meals - I just eat less.

I lived with a roomate who was an avid baker for 5 years so there was always cookies, cakes, cupcakes, homemade bread, etc around. Once I was able to learn to control what I was eating I managed to lose 95 pounds.

Now the thing is my boyfriend is super sweet so if I say I'm craving something sweet or salty and we don't have anything in the house he'll go and get it for me! Even if it's late at night. The last couple of months I've learned to either not say anything or say I want this specific thing (that fits into my calories ) and he'll get that.

realityfades wrote: »

Have you politely asked him to move his food to a designated area where you're less tempted to get it?

Why bother asking him to hide food? Just as easy for OP to move her snacks and food to another cupboard or area. If the cookies in the pantry are a temptation you're struggling with, stop going in the pantry.

Family support IMO is so overrated - when I'm trying to lose weight my wife sees my results in time and says: "Let's do it together, please cook me some healthy lunch for work etc.", but after few days she is so tired of this "stuff", won't log meals (even it's just copying my journal). It's so frustrating for me, because her not achieving her goals is now my fault (not enough motivation, bad cooking and so on). This year, when I heard the same story I said: "do as you please but don't involve me please". Will see if it will work this time

I'm living away from home at the moment and my flatmate is a really healthy eater so no worries there. My family back home are all really supportive and my boyfriend doesn't know (gonna surprise him!).

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I do not. My husband has no intentions of trying to eat healthy. He will eat chips, cookies, cake etc all the time. It's much more of a difficult chore to have willpower when the pantry is filled with junk. I try all the time to beg him to either hide the stuff or not buy it.. but NO he still does.

I haven't touched anything and I make my own healthy choices. it's just frustrating.

Totally agree, i wish u success and remember do it 4 u:)

First time - i had no family support. In actual fact, my siblings were trying to sabotage.

This time I have family support - my husband actually weighs out my food for me! Hubby has also eaten, and enjoyed, more healthier meals. And my mum and dad are very supportive and encouraging. My sister actively encouraged me to join her gym.

Although not necessary, family support makes the journey a lot more easier.

I live with my parents and younger sister. I've lost over 20lbs since last September, complete with a food scale and logging. They are proud of me and support me for the most part, but I have never asked them to change just because I wanted to be healthier. They still nag about me using a scale all the time. They eat what they want and I eat what I want. There have been plenty of times where they'll order pizza or get fast food and I won't eat it. They still buy frozen junk and Doritos and chips and my dad drinks tons of pop and eats a lot of candy. I choose not to have it. I have gone low carb and it is so much easier to ignore that stuff since my cravings are so much lower. I do it for me and only me.

My family is completely supportive. The good thing is, I live alone, so whatever is in my cabinets or fridge is bc I bought it.

But when I did live with other people, I ignored it. Just like I ignore all of the cookies, cakes, donuts, soda, and candy at work.

I don't think it's really about will power as much as wanting something else more. I want my belly to be smaller more than I want that store bought cake sitting in the kitchen at my job.

Now that's not to say I don't indulge at work from time to time. Come February, I know two days they will be purchasing donuts from this fabulous bakery. I plan to have 1 donut each day. But just 1.