Gah so discouraged

Unfortunately, only you can motivate you. Just take it one day at a time and know that you are not alone in this.

Personally, I like to pre-log for the day get the "If you ate like this every day, you'll weigh ___ In 5 weeks" message. It either motivates me or tells me to hit the gym if I REALLY want desert that night. Good luck!

lauraminardi wrote: »

why does my motivation come and go? Last week I lost all motivation and wallowed in self pity cuz I have a long way to go....I feel so discouraged about my weight loss

I have weeks like that too...i was all excited yesterday to do my 3 month measurement only to find out nothing has changed...even though im at the gym 5 days a week...cardio and lifting and nothing is changing...only a 3 pound difference....its so hard to stay motivated...but we can do it...we all can...we just have to stick with it!

You really have to be focused on the long-term goal.

You have to be absolutely willing to change your entire life around to achieve this goal, even if you don't see any change for several weeks at a time. You have to have faith that it WILL happen, and keep doing it.

It doesn't mater what happened last week, today you have the chance to be a better you by changing whatever you feel you need to change.

I concur that last week was last week.

Is there any way, that you can put your mind in a state to continually work the deficit and do it with conviction, meaning and everything you have for at least 10 days. Is there a way that no matter what else may be going on to distract you, etc.. these things can be put in the back of the mind during meal times or all day when having to deal with eating..

Put your goal in the forefront for just10 days, and see how you feel and how you are doing. Perhaps keep a journal of what you are feeling or what may distract or keep you from progressing each day during the 10 days...

I bet if you can do this for 10 days, you can do this at lot longer and keep up with your goals. Set this mini goal and see if you can get through why or why not you are unable to motivate yourself to keep going or better yet reach 10 days (i say 10 days because I think if you get through a 5 day week and a weekend, you will be surprised).

you don't need motivation 24/7 365 for weight loss. you need to DECIDE that you ARE going to do this, that you ARE going to get healthy no matter what, that you ARE going to push through the bad days, that you ARE going to get to your goal. Motivation is good but it is not something that will stick with you every second of every day. There are going to be days where you just want to lay in bed and do nothing but you need to make the decision right now that you will get up and workout anyways. There will be days where you want that cheeseburger instead of a salad but you have to make the decision now to put good into your body in order to get good out of it.

I know exactly how you feel with being discouraged. I've been there many, many times. But at some point you have to quit that. You have to quit feeling sorry for yourself and just get up and get to it. Your body will thank you, you won't regret one second of it. I promise you that. I do not mean to sound harsh at all but I just know what you are going through. I used to try losing weight, would have a bad day, feel sorry for myself, and just give up. But, I came to a point where I decided enough is enough. I'm doing this come hell or high water. I'm not motivated all the time but I can't quit. I can't quit on myself. You will have bad days and feel like crap and want to resort to your old ways but you have to just log it and move on. If I had to pick my best piece of advice, that would be it- log it and move on.

You can do this. You just have to make the decision to do it. Set your mind whole-heartedly to this and you will do it. Our minds build up these mountains that don't exist. I have faith in you that you can make the mountains into flat land and you will lose the weight. Your body is counting on you

We all have those moments, at some point or another, but learning how to push through the negative thoughts/feelings is the best way to overcome obstacles such as that. Whenever I start to feel discouraged (rarity-it has happened though) I remind myself that my health is a priority. It truly is about developing a healthy and positive way of looking at "your" journey of becoming the best you, you can possibly be. Hugs.

You don’t need more inspiration. You don’t need more motivation. You need more discipline and you need to start now.

http://impossiblehq.com/get-disciplined-not-motivated/

lauraminardi wrote: »

why does my motivation come and go? Last week I lost all motivation and wallowed in self pity cuz I have a long way to go....I feel so discouraged about my weight loss

It is so hard some days to find that motivation. Weight loss and changing our lifestyles is a really hard process - it doesn't happen overnight. I went through this process in 2014 and was very successful, but it was tough some times. Then I put back on weight because I lacked the discipline to pay attention and maintain. Now I'm back 45 lbs up (more than half of what I lost), and have to do it again. But this time, after having fought with that motivation demon for several months, I know what I need to do and how to do it. I had to get myself into the right mindset, which isn't always easy. Sometimes it's just easier to eat those high calorie foods and sit on the couch. But easy isn't better. It's just lazy.

Have you tried creating some smaller goals for yourself? When I get overwhelmed , I focus on smaller goals that I know will keep me thinking positive about the work I'm putting into this. I also give myself non-food rewards for reaching those goals. They can be as simple as drinking a certain amount of water per day for one week, or losing a smaller number of lbs over the course of a month, or getting in so many minutes of exercise. I'm just re-starting this journey, but I know that when I set these goals last time, it really helped me focus.

A vision board might also help you. Put images and words on it that make you feel empowered and in control. Place it somewhere you will see it whenever you're tempted to eat - like on the fridge or pantry door.

You can totally do this. Some days will be harder than others, but the key is to get back on that wagon after you slip. Don't give up. Re-focus and reflect on what went wrong last week. Maybe journal what you were feeling. In those times of low motivation, maybe journal how you're feeling and brainstorm ways to make yourself feel better. YOU CAN DO THIS.

I find it helps to have smaller goals vs focusing on the BIG goal which can be overwhelming. One lb a week was always my mini goal with 5 lb increments my longer term goal. They add up.