Are men who say they dislike "high maintenance women"...

_John_
_John_ Posts: 8,646 Member
edited November 28 in Chit-Chat
Really just insecure about their own game?
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  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    No. They just don't want the drama. Take Lace from the Bachelor.....she was really hot....week #1...Then you got to really see the crazy and she went from a 10 to a 4
  • JeffreyMGiron
    JeffreyMGiron Posts: 3,582 Member
    I just dont like high maintenance cus i cant handle it.

    but on a side note I am insecure about my game
  • MiloBloom83
    MiloBloom83 Posts: 2,724 Member
    Jacwhite22 wrote: »
    No. They just don't want the drama. Take Lace from the Bachelor.....she was really hot....week #1...Then you got to really see the crazy and she went from a 10 to a 4

    High maintenance is just a personality trait, and it goes both ways. A 7 can become a 10 if she's cool AF...
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    high maintenance people can be exhausting.
  • sunnybeaches105
    sunnybeaches105 Posts: 2,831 Member
    High maintenance as in she wears clothes, bathes and doesn't want to pay for dinner? Or high maintenance as in she requires a new Porsche for Christmas? Someone needs to buy me a new Porsche . . .
  • ashleybreanna13
    ashleybreanna13 Posts: 249 Member
    Jacwhite22 wrote: »
    No. They just don't want the drama. Take Lace from the Bachelor.....she was really hot....week #1...Then you got to really see the crazy and she went from a 10 to a 4

    That *kitten* is crazy. Like, has some screws, nuts, & bolts missing, crazy.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    High maintenance as in she wears clothes, bathes and doesn't want to pay for dinner? Or high maintenance as in she requires a new Porsche for Christmas? Someone needs to buy me a new Porsche . . .

    Personally, I only consider someone "high maintenance" if I have to constantly contribute to the maintaining of am adversely effected by said maintenance. so wherever that falls on your "bathing to annual new luxury car" scale.
  • ashleybreanna13
    ashleybreanna13 Posts: 249 Member
    If she can't be happy on her own terms, & needs you to make her happy with materialistic items, she isn't ready to take on the responsibility of a relationship.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Not sure what some would consider "high maintenance". I don't consider treating my wife with respect high maintenance. I love spending money on her. Taking luxurious vacations with her. I bought her a new jeep for Christmas. She didn't ask for or expect any of these things, but it makes my day when I see her reaction. I feel like I do all these things for me, because I am happiest when she is happy.
  • _Captivated_
    _Captivated_ Posts: 5,669 Member
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    Not sure what some would consider "high maintenance". I don't consider treating my wife with respect high maintenance. I love spending money on her. Taking luxurious vacations with her. I bought her a new jeep for Christmas. She didn't ask for or expect any of these things, but it makes my day when I see her reaction. I feel like I do all these things for me, because I am happiest when she is happy.

    You are the coolest husband on MFP. For real.
  • 47Jacqueline
    47Jacqueline Posts: 6,993 Member
    Yes. High maintenance means I value the things I do that make me happy and successful. Anyone who doesn't support that doesn't understand what a relationship involves.
  • ValerieMartini2Olives
    ValerieMartini2Olives Posts: 3,024 Member
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    Not sure what some would consider "high maintenance". I don't consider treating my wife with respect high maintenance. I love spending money on her. Taking luxurious vacations with her. I bought her a new jeep for Christmas. She didn't ask for or expect any of these things, but it makes my day when I see her reaction. I feel like I do all these things for me, because I am happiest when she is happy.

    You are the coolest husband on MFP. For real.

    Agreed.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    Not sure what some would consider "high maintenance". I don't consider treating my wife with respect high maintenance. I love spending money on her. Taking luxurious vacations with her. I bought her a new jeep for Christmas. She didn't ask for or expect any of these things, but it makes my day when I see her reaction. I feel like I do all these things for me, because I am happiest when she is happy.

    You are the coolest husband on MFP. For real.

    Agreed.
    I appreciate that. My wife is the cool one. I met a woman that I would not want to be without, so I want to make her happy.

  • yourhiddengem
    yourhiddengem Posts: 171 Member
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    I feel like I do all these things for me, because I am happiest when she is happy.

    That's one of the sweetest things I've read in a while :)
  • deniseteas
    deniseteas Posts: 42 Member
    amazing....lucky lady for sure ...and you a lucky man...thats rare these days

    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    Not sure what some would consider "high maintenance". I don't consider treating my wife with respect high maintenance. I love spending money on her. Taking luxurious vacations with her. I bought her a new jeep for Christmas. She didn't ask for or expect any of these things, but it makes my day when I see her reaction. I feel like I do all these things for me, because I am happiest when she is happy.

    You are the coolest husband on MFP. For real.

    Agreed.
    I appreciate that. My wife is the cool one. I met a woman that I would not want to be without, so I want to make her happy.

  • djeffreys10
    djeffreys10 Posts: 2,312 Member
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    Not sure what some would consider "high maintenance". I don't consider treating my wife with respect high maintenance. I love spending money on her. Taking luxurious vacations with her. I bought her a new jeep for Christmas. She didn't ask for or expect any of these things, but it makes my day when I see her reaction. I feel like I do all these things for me, because I am happiest when she is happy.

    High maintenance means she EXPECTS those things. If you enjoy doing things for her and she appreciates it, that's one thing. If she expects you to constantly spoil her with material things and can't be happy and just appreciate her time with you without that other stuff, she is high maintenance and not worth it.

  • SeanNJ
    SeanNJ Posts: 153 Member
    Whether or not a person is "high maintenance" has absolutely nothing to do with that person, and instead is solely indicated by the perception of their significant other.

    If your spouse doesn't mind rubbing your feet every 37 minutes for exactly 114 seconds on each foot, and accepts the repercussions of failing to do so (which might involve purple nurples), then you are not high maintenance.

    If your spouse gets irritated by your occasional desire to have sliced tomato on your grilled cheese sandwich, then you are high maintenance.

    It's not an objective thing.
  • LindsayB072
    LindsayB072 Posts: 399 Member
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    Not sure what some would consider "high maintenance". I don't consider treating my wife with respect high maintenance. I love spending money on her. Taking luxurious vacations with her. I bought her a new jeep for Christmas. She didn't ask for or expect any of these things, but it makes my day when I see her reaction. I feel like I do all these things for me, because I am happiest when she is happy.

    High maintenance means she EXPECTS those things. If you enjoy doing things for her and she appreciates it, that's one thing. If she expects you to constantly spoil her with material things and can't be happy and just appreciate her time with you without that other stuff, she is high maintenance and not worth it.

    Yes! All of this.
  • pie_eyes
    pie_eyes Posts: 12,964 Member
    Define high maintenance
  • Tigg_er
    Tigg_er Posts: 22,001 Member
    ^^ look above your post up 1
  • JustMissTracy
    JustMissTracy Posts: 6,338 Member
    High maintenance people, in general, exhaust me. Their needs and demands are overwhelming. I prefer men and women in my life who are very down to earth, easy going, and relatable.
  • pie_eyes
    pie_eyes Posts: 12,964 Member
    As far as maintenance goes, I take care of myself in that regard. I think high maintenance is, I need a face scrub, baby powder, facial moisturizer, deodorant and some gloves to clean the house with.

    Am I high maintenance? Is the things I request objectionable?
  • JeffreyMGiron
    JeffreyMGiron Posts: 3,582 Member
    edited January 2016
    pie_eyes wrote: »
    As far as maintenance goes, I take care of myself in that regard. I think high maintenance is, I need a face scrub, baby powder, facial moisturizer, deodorant and some gloves to clean the house with.

    Am I high maintenance? Is the things I request objectionable?

    I dont think taking care of yourself is high maintenance, but at the same time some girls are shocked to hear that i use facial scrub and lotion alot, and i carry chapstick around almost always.

    I think High maintenance is just anyone who needs something done for them everyday the exact same way and if they dont have it, they throw a big fit and do not let it go.
    I forget to wash my face sometimes and it doesn't kill me, but anything past 2 days i cant do, i need to take care of myself.
  • provencal73
    provencal73 Posts: 1,275 Member
    @sunnybeaches105 well damn.. I want a Porsche too. Actually... I'd rather have a Jeep Wrangler Rubicon fitted with all the "bells and whistles."
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  • ponycyndi
    ponycyndi Posts: 858 Member
    Wives aren't high maintenance, kids are.
  • moya_bleh
    moya_bleh Posts: 1,375 Member
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    Not sure what some would consider "high maintenance". I don't consider treating my wife with respect high maintenance. I love spending money on her. Taking luxurious vacations with her. I bought her a new jeep for Christmas. She didn't ask for or expect any of these things, but it makes my day when I see her reaction. I feel like I do all these things for me, because I am happiest when she is happy.

    High maintenance means she EXPECTS those things. If you enjoy doing things for her and she appreciates it, that's one thing. If she expects you to constantly spoil her with material things and can't be happy and just appreciate her time with you without that other stuff, she is high maintenance and not worth it.

    Dingdingdingding we have a winner, folks!
  • jenmar222
    jenmar222 Posts: 9,271 Member
    High maintenance is just a personality trait, and it goes both ways. A 7 can become a 10 if she's cool AF...

    Yes!!! Can a 6 become a solid 9?
  • Of_Monsters_and_Meat
    Of_Monsters_and_Meat Posts: 1,022 Member
    ponycyndi wrote: »
    Wives aren't high maintenance, kids are.

    I think we are talking about having a mistress.
  • Rabid_Hamster
    Rabid_Hamster Posts: 338 Member
    jenmar22 wrote: »
    High maintenance is just a personality trait, and it goes both ways. A 7 can become a 10 if she's cool AF...

    Yes!!! Can a 6 become a solid 9?

    It's possible... at least in my book.
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