Couples with different goals! One gaining, one losing.

CoffeeNCardio wrote: »

My husband and me are in the same place. It's quite simple. He eats literally the lion's share of anything I make, takes a huge huge lunch to work, and I eat much smaller portions of the same stuff. A lot of it is calorically dense, but that doesn't really matter if you eat less of it.

I'm going for 1420, he needs 2801.

Exactly- even our numbers are close! I typically cook a healthy-ish entree for dinner, he eats most, and we can each supplement it how we want. I also have to watch him eat ginormous bowls of ice cream.

My husband is not trying to gain, he's actually trying to lose too, and had list about 40 lbs in the past year. But he has no problem eating lots more than me! LOL!

Your partner can add more fats & carbs, like olive oil or butter, bread, pasta, eat calorie dense goods like nuts, peanut butter, ice cream, booze, basically more of anything he likes.

The main thing that makes me nuts is the constant snacking when I'm trying not to, but I cant tell him not to eat!!

It's primarily just portions in our house. Husband gets 12 oz of chicken, salad, and a baked potato; I get the same salad without the extra dressing and cheese and croutons he adds and a weighed piece of the meat to fit my goals. Or whatever - even if I don't have time to cook and make him a frozen pizza, I have two slices and he gets the rest, and we throw some raw vegetables on a plate to share. He gets plenty of butter on his steamed veg, I don't; he gets bread, pasta, or rice with everything, I don't; he gets seconds or a late-night snack, I don't.

I'm not losing anymore (have been maintaining for a couple years) but that will be reality in our house for the rest of our lives because he's a six-foot active guy who lifts and is often trying to put on mass, and I'm eight inches shorter, much lighter, and primarily a runner, so while I also exercise regularly our energy needs are just not the same and never will be. I cannot eat like him unless I want to weigh what he weighs.

I don't live with my boyfriend but I think that makes it harder! I'm on a cut and regardless if he is cutting or bulking he can easily have 700+ more calories a day than me (tall, active job, muscle mass).

Since we don't live together and visits are weekly rather than daily, we usually have takeaway together or go out for dinner. I just have to have smaller portions and be confident in the fact i'll make it up on the other days.

But it's not too hard - i'll have a ham and salad sub, he will have a schnitzel with mayo and avocado sub. When there are the pig out days, I just accept it and move on!

My husband and I are in the same position as you. We eat the same food, just he gets double the amount I get.