My bf keeps calling me fat

Your boyfriend is a dick. He shouldnt make you feel bad. Dont listen to him and go do things and wear clothes that make you feel good and congratulations on the weight loss! Remember to keep on the healthy way of losing and not fad diets, so you can stick with it. Good luck!

He'd be an ex, not a bf.

If you can safely leave him, do so. NO ONE who insults you and hurts you like that is worth it. I don't care how cute, or "sweet", or otherwise awesome he appears to be - the kind of man who insults you and calls you fat doesn't value you as a person, and you deserve better than that.

drop him like a bad habit!

I have been in your situation, my (now ex) husband used to call me 'tubby' - I weighed 56kgs at the time !!! ...and despite feeling happy in myself it soon knocked my confidence and cutting a long and boring story short I lost too much weight as I starved myself and ended up in hospital.. That was not good.

You need someone to be there for you and support you and show you how to love the skin you are in.. He doesn't deserve you and by the sounds of things, you can do a whole lot better than that.. He sounds like a real dick! (Sorry)

Don't let other people bring you down, high five on the weight loss to date.. Do it for you and no one else! Just remember, slow and steady is key as you are likely to maintain the weight loss rather than piling it all on (and some) from some fad crazed diet..

Keep smiling...

blueboxgeek wrote: »

Every time he calls you fat.....kick him in the nuts..... that should sort it x

yes this lol

Man, in my opinion you need to dump that twatwaffle like a bad habit. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life. You're working on yourself so he can go eat a bag of dicks.

This is so sad and I am sorry you are going through this. Me and my bf have our issues and thankfully my weight isn't one. When I meet him I weighed 268 lbs when I was pregnant with our daughter I got to 300 lbs. My last weigh in I was 257.

I was in a relationship when I was in my late 20's and I was about 180 the guy didn't like it and put me on a 'diet'. I couldn't eat over 1000 calories a day and had to walk an hour of the morning and evening. It was hard because if I didn't follow his rules I got yelled at. Eventually I left the relationship. Looking back I was in an abusive situation.

I tell you this because it's never ok to let someone make you feel that way. If someone loves you they want what is best for you and will only build you up, not tare you down. You are beautiful and smart and worth so much more than this.

katkins3 wrote: »

Have you told him clearly that calling you fat is hurting you and you want it stopped for good? If he can't quit this behavior, there will probably be other problems in the future. Bad habits have to be addressed or they just keep growing.

Yes. this would like, if Men/boys would actually listen.
but since we do not listen, it wouldn't work.

Negative talk = Negative action,
and eventually he would put 2 and 2 together.

You need to tell him that you will not be treated that way and make plans to move on. Name calling is not okay.

How much does he weigh? Because that's how much weight you need to drop like a bad habit! If he's not sensitive or smart enough to know that what he is saying is hurtful then time to move on to someone that will appreciate you for you.

Just break up.

Yep I agree with the others... Get rid
But honey get out of the baggy old clothes and rock your little dresses, I bet you look a hundred times better than you believe you do. He's done a number on you by chipping away at your confidence and self belief. Don't let him do that to you girl, you're much stronger than you realise

aanelson72 wrote: »

Scamd83 wrote: »

I think if you're staying with someone who's calling you names you need more help than anyone here can offer. I mean if excess weight is a problem for you, you can lose that. If an actual person is a problem for you, you can lose them as well.

Boom! Well said!
No one who loves and cares for you should make you feel bad. Lose the loser.

OMG exactly, I'm sorry but I feel like mollycoddling someone in this situation reinforces their behavior patterns. NO this person does not ask to be victimised but a change in attitude can drastically change her situation.

'Nuh uh girlfriend, you dump his *kitten*' attitude is just miss-placed, what doe it really achieve? There are bigger issues here.

Fact is only you have the power to change both the situation with your partner and your fitness situation. (weight loss please insert specific goal here).

- You are talking to a bunch of strangers instead of the person who has upset you. Please stop and think about what this achieves in your real life apart from momentary moral boost via the internet
- you are staying in an environment which is having negative affects on your mental health - with every fat comment you hear it's damaging and you have a choice to not live like that
- losing 2KG in 3 weeks is brilliant but please set realistic expectations this is a long term journey not a short term fix which will make your LBD all of a sudden feel amazing when you put it on
- work from the inside out - you can feel amazing in a LBD at 80KG as much as 55KG so work on yourself mentally and a persons hateful words will not be able to penetrate your awesomeness

Get out of those habits into some positive ones you will find your situation drastically improves.

I'm sorry to have to tell you this, but you're still massively overweight. Fortunately, I have created a new weight-loss plan, which is both fast-acting and 100% effective! All you need to do is follow these simple steps, and you can look forward to a slimmer you:

1) Call bf

2) Dump him

The average person who follows my plan will lose approximately 80-90kg in dead weight almost instantly. Guaranteed results!