Is there really a weight that is ideal for your body?

I'm 5'2.5" and have been fluctuating between 130-135 (after losing 80 pounds). I had really wanted end up between 125-130 but it's been a slow process so I go in and out of maintenance depending on my mood! Currently I'm in weight loss mode because I had 2-3 really bad food weeks where I just felt hungry all the time and had a hard time with self-control. I had a friend tell me that maybe my body is "at that weight point that is lower than it naturally wants" and that's why I'm getting hungrier and so on. I've heard that kind of thing before and was wondering what other people thought about it. Is there actually a weight where your body "wants to be" or is that a myth?

(disclaimer... this isn't a post about why I'm not losing weight... I'm totally aware that I'm not losing anymore weight because I keep going over my calories! I'm just interested in the concept of an ideal weight for a person's body.)

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  • aub6689
    aub6689 Posts: 351 Member
    A weight your body wants to be at? No, I don't buy into that. I would say this could be more true if applied to a really low body fat percentage.
    Also if you've gained muscle in your weight loss journey, you could have increased your body's base metabolic rate and truly be eating too little and therefore being hungry is your body's way of saying this?
    I think the last 10 lbs are something a lot of people struggle with and that people spread the myth of your body having a preference due to that.
  • BikeTourer
    BikeTourer Posts: 167 Member
    I believe the number a the scale isn't the best indicator of your ideal. You BP, cholesterol ratio, triglycerides, glucose, a1c numbers are much better indicators if your body is happy with your overall choices than the scale.
  • sijomial
    sijomial Posts: 19,809 Member
    No there isn't a weight your body "wants" or a set point - it just reacts to stimulus and feeding.
    If you are underfeeding then hunger is a response, often more mental/emotional rather than physical though.

    You will have an ideal weight for your current age and activity but that needs to be "imposed" on your body rather than occur naturally.

    For a long time I've had an intuitive eating level, unfortunately it's about 250 cals/day more than I actually need. :(


  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    I have done some thinking and my own research on this in the recent past and have come to the conclusion this theory behind "set point" is really called a plateau. How long you stay in that plateau is up to you and is simply changed up or down by your diet (deficit to loose or surplus to gain).

    What I came to was although the body is an amazing and complicated machine, we have complete control over simply by what we feed it and how we exercise it. The two things that make the simple process of CICO not to work as efficiently is if there underlying medication condition involved, and still, this may just require special dietary changes and advice from your medical doctor depending if medication is involved or not.
  • robininfl
    robininfl Posts: 1,137 Member
    edited February 2016
    My body does settle at a healthy weight, and I believe strongly that once you have been fit, your body wants to return to that state. I am 125 if healthy and doing lighter exercise and between 130-135 if carrying more muscle, I am 5'9" with a regular size frame but slight bones genetically (5" wrists), lean build (not much T&A) and not good bone density from eating disorder as a teen, so my healthy weight is probably less than many women of my height, but it is where my body settles and feels good, and I don't really have to focus a lot of effort to maintain it. After having baby #4 i was almost 150, but as soon as I started doing exercise, it settled back down to the same it's always been. While eating disordered, I dropped below 100lb, but again, as soon as I got healthy, it settled at the 125, and since then it doesn't go below 120 ever, and only over 135 postpartum.

    I do think that a healthy weight is the weight you have when eating in moderation and keeping active, doing intentional workouts most days of the week, or working an active job. I believe this to be different for different people, (and of course there are endocrine disorders, etc. that can cause unhealthy weights) but that yeah, a healthy body has a weight it wants to be.
  • Yi5hedr3
    Yi5hedr3 Posts: 2,696 Member
    Your ideal weight will be whatever you end up at when you reach 15-20% body fat.
  • griffinca2
    griffinca2 Posts: 672 Member
    You may want to review your diet; try upping the unsat fat and protein and check your sugar consumption. I was like you (5 1/2") and stuck at 125 - 130; cut the sugar (all sugar natural & added) to abt 45-60 gm, upped the fat slightly and increased the protein. The hunger pangs quit and I lost down to 116/117 which is where I am now; set point is a myth.
  • nxd10
    nxd10 Posts: 4,570 Member
    My body always settles between 150-155 (I'm 5'10"). It did when I was in college and stayed there for years. It did after both kids. It's where my body easily settled after I lost the 38 pounds I did. It likes to be here. If I go under, it pops up easily. If I go over, it pops down easily. This is who I am.
  • Springfield1970
    Springfield1970 Posts: 1,945 Member
    I think it's a body fat thing. I look and feel 10 years younger at sub 20% body fat. That happens to be about 127-129lb at 5'7" while I'm lifting and quite muscular. If not its 126lb and under.
  • Springfield1970
    Springfield1970 Posts: 1,945 Member
    sijomial wrote: »
    No there isn't a weight your body "wants" or a set point - it just reacts to stimulus and feeding.
    If you are underfeeding then hunger is a response, often more mental/emotional rather than physical though.

    You will have an ideal weight for your current age and activity but that needs to be "imposed" on your body rather than occur naturally.

    For a long time I've had an intuitive eating level, unfortunately it's about 250 cals/day more than I actually need. :(


    I'm about the same. 250 cals naturally over. What's that? A glass of wine or two, or a treat. Easily easily done.
  • ald783
    ald783 Posts: 688 Member
    I think there is a weight that is easier to maintain for your body which is why we sometimes settle there, a bit higher than we may ideally want to be or which may be the ideal healthiest weight. It doesn't mean it's a bad weight necessarily, but I think we are capable of getting below that weight with a bit of extra effort.

    I definitely seem to have a weight that I get stuck at, mostly because I can eat and drink a bit more than I probably should and still maintain it. I've been hanging within a few pounds of this weight for 3.5 years now despite wanting to lose another 10 or 15 pounds. I know that I'm capable of losing it and would be a tiny bit healthier if I did, but this weight seems to fit my current lifestyle better.
  • StealthHealth
    StealthHealth Posts: 2,417 Member
    I don't think that "the body" has set points or an ideal weight. But, I do think that, in some circumstances, we can struggle much more to resist the instinctive (survival instincts) urge to eat more.

    Anecdotally these circumstances seem to be:

    when
    • we get to lower BF%
    • when we restrict fun/favourite foods or food groups
    • when we have been dieting for long periods of time
    • when stressed, emotional, tired, overworked
    • when our calorific targets are too low

    From my own experience...
    I had 2-3 really bad food weeks where I just felt hungry all the time and had a hard time with self-control.)

    would be an indication that my loss goals were too aggressive and I needed to ease up for a couple of weeks.
  • GrooveMerchant
    GrooveMerchant Posts: 44 Member
    The only time in my adult life that I've been at an 'ideal' weight according to the charts, was when I was thinking about my health the least. Working two jobs, going to school, eating whatever the kitchen made for the staff at the restaurant where I worked and drinking the rest of my calories in beer right before bed every night.

    I've had my gym membership 15 years now and feel like I constantly worry about food, and that old scale number just seems like an impossibility. This place where I'm stuck sure seems like it's where my body wants to be. My body and I disagree, though.
  • rainbowbow
    rainbowbow Posts: 7,490 Member
    Sorry, set point theory is what you're referring to. And it's bunk.

    Alternatively, if you are in the healthy weight range and we are talking 5 vanity pounds, it may just be easier for your sake to stay there and not stress too much about it.
  • Wheelhouse15
    Wheelhouse15 Posts: 5,575 Member
    edited February 2016
    rainbowbow wrote: »
    Sorry, set point theory is what you're referring to. And it's bunk.

    Alternatively, if you are in the healthy weight range and we are talking 5 vanity pounds, it may just be easier for your sake to stay there and not stress too much about it.

    If set point theory was true it would be the most anti-adaptive thing ever known in evolution. Imagine your body has a set point where your weight causes your health to actually be sub-optimal and can lead to various and serious chronic conditions. Not to mention that it will actually allow for upward adjustments but not downward and depends heavily on overeating and under activity for prolongued periods of time. The theory is just too full of holes to have any real credibility and all observations and data described and predicted by this model can be better explained and predicted in otherways.
  • Everdomad
    Everdomad Posts: 3 Member
    edited February 2016
    I think speaking of your body as wanting something is a way of separating yourself from your behavior. Your body is the weight it is because every ounce of it has entered through your mouth, and you've put it there.

    Edit: Minus the eight pounds or so you entered the world with.
  • Wheelhouse15
    Wheelhouse15 Posts: 5,575 Member
    I'm 5'2.5" and have been fluctuating between 130-135 (after losing 80 pounds). I had really wanted end up between 125-130 but it's been a slow process so I go in and out of maintenance depending on my mood! Currently I'm in weight loss mode because I had 2-3 really bad food weeks where I just felt hungry all the time and had a hard time with self-control. I had a friend tell me that maybe my body is "at that weight point that is lower than it naturally wants" and that's why I'm getting hungrier and so on. I've heard that kind of thing before and was wondering what other people thought about it. Is there actually a weight where your body "wants to be" or is that a myth?

    (disclaimer... this isn't a post about why I'm not losing weight... I'm totally aware that I'm not losing anymore weight because I keep going over my calories! I'm just interested in the concept of an ideal weight for a person's body.)

    The increase in hunger is caused by changes in hormonal levels such as ghrelin and leptin which cause and inhibit hunger. You are literally starving in a controlled manner so you have mechanisms that will try to stop this by causing you to seek out more calories to close the energy gap. Once you stop dieting I recommend reverse dieting as it will help lower the energy gap gradually. Eventually, you will close the gap and your hunger will subside and then you can maintain.
  • ForecasterJason
    ForecasterJason Posts: 2,577 Member
    As someone who has never lost or gained a significant amount of weight in the 4-5 years since I stopped growing, I do think that my current weight is close to where it should be, at least for my age. My BMI is pretty low, but that's where I ended up after growth (and most likely is at least partly due to genetics).
  • lithezebra
    lithezebra Posts: 3,670 Member
    There's an ideal weight range.
  • oatmealclub
    oatmealclub Posts: 1 Member
    edited February 2016
    I remember reading about this in a textbook! The following information is from said textbook:

    "Some researchers believe that the hypothalamus, related brain areas, and chemicals such as CCK and GLP-1 (natural appetite suppressants) comprise a "weight thermostat" of sorts called the weight set point."

    "Weight set point - The weight level that a person is predisposed to maintain, controlled in part by the hypothalamus."

    "Genetic inheritance and early eating practices seem to determine each person's weight set point"

    "Researchers have located two separate areas in the hypothalamus that help control eating. One, the lateral hypothalamus (LH) ... produces hunger when it is activated. When the LH of a laboratory animal is stimulated electrically, the animal eats, even if it has been fed recently."

    "... another area, the ventrimedial hypothalamus (VMH) ... reduces hunger when it is activated. When the VMH is electrically stimulated, laboratory animals stop eating."

    "When a person's weight falls below his or her particular set point, the LH (Lateral Hypothalamus) and certain other brain areas are activated and seek to restore the lost weight by producing hunger and lowering the body's metabolic rate."

    "When a person's weight rises above his or her set point, the VMH (Ventromedial Hypothalamus) and certain other brain areas are activated, and they seek to remove excess weight by reducing hunger and increasing the body's metabolic rate."

    "According the the weight set point theory, when people diet and fall to a weight below their weight set point, their brain starts trying to restore the lost weight. Hypothalamic and related brain activity produce a preoccupation with food and a desire to binge. It also triggers bodily changes that make it hatder to lose weight and easier to gain weight, however little is eaten."

    "Although the weight set point explanation has received considerable debate in the clinical field, it remains widely accepted by theorists and practitioners."

    This information is from Ronald J. Comer's textbook, titled "Abnormal Psychology," eighth edition with the DSM-5 update.

    Personally, I have found that if I lose weight too quickly I become very hungry and gain it all back. I have noticed that if I lose 5lbs and then stay at that weight (actively maintaining, but not trying to lose more), my body responds better. I recently lost about 5lbs and I have maintained my current weight for several months. At first it was difficult, but now it seems almost natural. I eat when I'm hungry, and I don't when I'm not (although I do splurge on desert sometimes). I propose that you can indeed change your weight set point. I believe that losing a lot of weight quickly is what gets us into trouble here. I know we all want to lose it as soon as possible, but perhaps doing it slowly is better in the long-run.
  • lml852014
    lml852014 Posts: 243 Member
    I slightly agree with it just bc I have literally fluctuated anywhere between 130-138 lbs for the past like 8 years no joke. I'll lose and be at 125-130 for months and then fall off somehow and go back to 135ish. I would love to be stuck at 125 bc I feel like I look good at that stage so that is what I'm striving for.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    I believe that achieving certain levels of leanness requires more work and dedication than maintaining another level of leanness that would still have you healthy...but not quite as lean.

    For example, I can maintain about 12% BF pretty easily...this puts me right around 180 Lbs or so...all I have to do is eat well for the most part, indulge occasionally, and exercise regularly...I can still enjoy my craft beers and desert after dinner, etc without much issue...

    If I want to get sub 12% to say, 10%...well, this requires me to be a bit more diligent in my diet approach as well as exercise adherence. I have difficulty doing this while drinking beer regularly...I tend to have to cut out deserts and basically, to maintain sub 12% means my diet has to be kind of boring and I have to be kind of boring...personally, it's not worth it to me...I'm 41 years old and my body is going to naturally want to hold onto a little more body fat than when I was in my 20s...it's not like I'm going to be modeling my underwear anytime soon, so just being pretty friggin' healthy and fit and relatively lean for my age (comparative to gen pop) is good enough for me.
  • hollen_carol
    hollen_carol Posts: 121 Member
    ald783 wrote: »
    I think there is a weight that is easier to maintain for your body which is why we sometimes settle there, a bit higher than we may ideally want to be or which may be the ideal healthiest weight. It doesn't mean it's a bad weight necessarily, but I think we are capable of getting below that weight with a bit of extra effort.

    I definitely seem to have a weight that I get stuck at, mostly because I can eat and drink a bit more than I probably should and still maintain it. I've been hanging within a few pounds of this weight for 3.5 years now despite wanting to lose another 10 or 15 pounds. I know that I'm capable of losing it and would be a tiny bit healthier if I did, but this weight seems to fit my current lifestyle better.

    This ^

    I have been thinking about this so much lately because after losing 50 pounds, I am still 8 pounds away from the ideal weight of 115 pounds (at 5'3" with a medium frame). I am always saying to myself "but I'm older so maybe I need to weigh a little bit more" or "I don't know if I can really do it." Bottom line is I know if I really want it, I will cut my calories and exercise a little bit harder to get there. That's how I did the last 50. So I do want it, I know I do, but now I think I gotta back my words and work harder and just do it! I am a hungry girl too and I give in to it way too much. I was never good at discipline with my children or myself or anyone I love really :(

  • Spliner1969
    Spliner1969 Posts: 3,233 Member
    In the end I think you really can choose the body fat percentage you want. As long as you don't go over 20% or so you should be fine. My personal goal is somewhere around 10-15% in the end. However, there's nothing wrong with someone sitting at 20% or even a little higher as long as the extra weight isn't causing them undue stress for whatever reason (medical reason). The weight that will be for you is going to be dependent on your height and body frame type.

    I believe that the weeks you describe about being hungry were probably due to eating the wrong types of food or not doing enough exercise or drinking enough water. If you eat sweet or salty foods, high carb, high calorie foods you tend to be hungry more. For this reason it's best to eat those types of foods in moderation along with healthy foods (vegetables, good protein, etc.) which are lower in calories and higher in bulk (and fill you up more). They call it "empty calories" for a reason. You can easily blow your daily calorie limit with these types of foods and be left with an empty stomach and hunger.

    So rather than reset your goals upward, I'd keep them where you want them to be (whatever that may be, based on your BMI and your own personal desires) and adjust what you are eating and how often you are eating "empty calories". We all need to be able to eat those things from time to time, but spending a week or two eating out or eating fast food will derail anyone's diet.

    Just my .02. ;)
  • rontafoya
    rontafoya Posts: 365 Member
    It is a complicated issue for me. Personally, I look at a combination of measurements. Body fat percentage (I do own some cheap calipers), waist measurement--I try to keep those below a certain threshold. Also (secondarily), biceps, chest, shoulders, upper thigh, forearms, calves--all of which I try to keep as big as I can given the first set of measurements. Body weight, early on, was the primary consideration. My goal was to lose 30 lbs, but I ended up losing more than that and so my goals are now more in line with the other aforementioned body measurements.
  • scrittrice
    scrittrice Posts: 345 Member
    edited February 2016
    sijomial wrote: »
    No there isn't a weight your body "wants" or a set point - it just reacts to stimulus and feeding.
    If you are underfeeding then hunger is a response, often more mental/emotional rather than physical though.

    You will have an ideal weight for your current age and activity but that needs to be "imposed" on your body rather than occur naturally.

    For a long time I've had an intuitive eating level, unfortunately it's about 250 cals/day more than I actually need. :(


    I'm about the same. 250 cals naturally over. What's that? A glass of wine or two, or a treat. Easily easily done.

    Me too. A couple handfuls of almonds.

    But the whole "set-point theory" has been studied over and over and has never been found to be valid. Your body doesn't "want" anything or gravitate toward anything.
  • LivingtheLeanDream
    LivingtheLeanDream Posts: 13,342 Member
    In my experience I feel we do have 'set points' but we also can get past them. Mine used to be 136lbs, its currently is 133lbs. I think slowly but surely I am altering my set point weight or perhaps that should be my body's natural weight where it finds it easy to stay/maintain at. I have to fight to get lower. Hence me deciding that my weight is healthy and its not necessary to get lower just to see a certain number.
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    In my experience I feel we do have 'set points' but we also can get past them. Mine used to be 136lbs, its currently is 133lbs. I think slowly but surely I am altering my set point weight or perhaps that should be my body's natural weight where it finds it easy to stay/maintain at. I have to fight to get lower. Hence me deciding that my weight is healthy and its not necessary to get lower just to see a certain number.

    I agree with this.

    My 'set point' has been 133/134 pounds for almost 2 years. I managed to get to 132, decreased my deficit a bit then went on vacations and put back on 2 pounds, started to do more intense workouts... Never really managed to lose those 2 pounds. I got way hungrier as a whole, but even if I keep a big deficit for a month, I can't seem to be able to go under 133 anymore (it's actually odd, I pretty much went from losing 1 pound a week to not losing anything even though I only cut my deficit by half AND increased my activity level).

    So yes, I kind of believe it. It doesn't mean I wouldn't be able to get lower if I *really* tried (it would probably mean cutting all breads and sweets, as I can't really cut more otherwise without being too hungry). I'm just not sure I want to bother just to lose a couple vanity pounds (and end up maintaining with less calories too!).