coaches' wife tells me off/what would you have done?

I probably would have said the same thing, and then filed a complaint with the league. That is total BS! Especially since you told her you were skipping all the year end stuff. Not your fault she took it upon herself and bought a trophy.

I would ignore her and not get myself into any kind of drama by spreading the word. If she treats you that way then she's bound to treat others that way once they rub her the wrong way. People show their true colors on their own. I also agree with McKay who says to try to look at the situation from an outside perspective. Maybe your son mentioned to his buddy on the team that he was bummed he missed the pizza party? Or bummed that he didn't get a trophy? I'm not saying you did anything wrong and I know my brother has to make difficult decisions regarding money with his 3 children all in a lot of different activities. They always ask their kid's what is most important to them...the pizza party, the trophy, the sports banquet, whatever...and the kids get to pick one event. She definitely handled voicing her opinion the wrong way regardless.

You did the right thing> It is hard raising 3 kids in this economy!! ! She had no right to do that to you! I hope yoiu will move on and set it behind youi. You are a good mom!! Hugs! :flowerforyou:

I would not give credence to a thing she said. When someone acts the way this woman did I believe it speaks to how miserable she may be in her own life. You did not need to even explain to her your situation. However when you did she should have been more compassionate and understanding.

You should be proud of yourself for doing the most you can for your children and not feel belittled by someone who feels the need to tell everyone how to raise their children. The most important part is that you did what you could so your son could play baseball.....that is what kids remember not the pizza parties and trophies at that age.

Honestly, I don't know what I would have done. Probably walked away after giving her a mouthful of my own and then do everything in my power to have her removed from team sports in the future.

Too bad there are people like her in this world.

She sounds so charming! NOT! Sorry you had to deal with that. I'd have been ringing her doorbell, so you handled it well! You don't owe her squat, but she needs to be reported - over the coach's head since he's married to her. Have a good cry to get the anger out of your system, and then send her one last email and tell her since she wants to be so judgmental, maybe she should have another kid, because it's apparent her PMS is showing! {{HUGS}} Hope your day improves. :flowerforyou:

My husband coached a T-Ball team this year, and I was the team mom. How dare she talk to you like that??? I would IMMEDIATELY report her actions to the League!!! She should no longer be allowed to be involved with a team. She should not be harassing anyone!

I agree totally. She crossed the line.

Your financial situation is none of her business. She is being nosy and rude. I'm glad you are reporting it.

If it is a town team, or a Rec dept...SOMEONE is above her....they have to have a director or head of sports. Take it to them.

I completely agree.

I would report her, if she said this to you what has she said to other families. That is NOT the type of person I would want as my son's team mom!!

I would have said, " Thanks for your comments. In the future, please keep them to yourself."

Then I would have turned and walked away. I wouldn't have given her any explanation as to what my financial situation may be or what constraints I ma be facing. None of her business.