Irritated by excuses

I"m with you. I was one of those people too. I still catch myself doing it but really, you make your own choices. Once you start focusing on what's important, it's like a game to go around those excuses. I really like your post because you are telling it like it is. Keep up the good work!

I get irritated all the time! My favorite is when people ask why they're not losing weight, and ask for help. Then they say, well, I wont exercise, and I won't stop eating pizza, pasta, etc.
I get it, I really do. I was the girl who just would stop mid workout because it was "too hard". I was the girl who would order a medium pizza and demolish it myself because, heck, it's got all the food groups and therefor, must be okay!
NOT ANYMORE! If the workout is too hard, I modify. If I want pizza, I have a slice, or I make my own. I've accepted that I got myself into this fat mess, and only I can get myself out.

I get irritated in the beginning until it dawns on me that I use to be the same way at one point of time.

I can't fault anyone because they haven't reached the level I'm at in my journey. I had to swim through my own BS to get here and it wasn't easy. Now with that said, what I am not is a enabler. If I see someone making excuses I will call them on it because I know thats what they need even if they don't realize it. I don't give pats on the backs...I tell you to brush that ish off, suck it up and get back on the horse. Put on your big boy and big girl pants on because pity parties are for children.

Honestly, I just feel kind of sorry for people who make excuses like that. Because losing weight isn't really *that* hard - it's basic math, not rocket science.

I just think it's easier to blame others or a medical condition than it is to take a serious look in the mirror. Most of us on here know how rewarding it can be to take accountability and responsibility, but the people making excuses are afraid. And that just makes me sad for them.

I used to make excuses, a hell of a lot of excuses but now i know that it's all my fault and i got myself fat so i'm going to have to get myself unfat. Only you can help you ..

Honestly, I just feel kind of sorry for people who make excuses like that. Because losing weight isn't really *that* hard - it's basic math, not rocket science.

I just think it's easier to blame others or a medical condition than it is to take a serious look in the mirror. Most of us on here know how rewarding it can be to take accountability and responsibility, but the people making excuses are afraid. And that just makes me sad for them.

I don't think I could have said it better!

Of course medical conditions, injuries, etc. can complicate the processs, but its obvious from MFP, or The Biggest Loser, or even Weight Watchers that it CAN be done with some serious resolve, the right support, and the right information. Excuses are almost certainly a manifestation of fear.

It is my sincere hope that everyone comes to the breaking point (as many of the above posters and myself clearly did) where you say, "That's enough. I'm not going to look/feel/be ok being in the physical state that I am anymore. "

Im not really irritated,why should I be. Other peoples excuses have no impact on my life. You say yourself you used to be one who made tons of excuses too, I would think you would be a little more understanding of it since youve been there yourself. Who knows maybe your excuses irritated someone else. People will eventually figure it out like you did or they wont.

I agree!!

I think the one thing I hate the most is ppl belly aching about diet pop. It is like really? Your going to use the fact you don't like diet pop as an excuse to stay fat? No matter how many times you tell them, you get used to it fast and then you can't go back with out tasting all the syrup ickiness! I have a friend that drinks a ton of pop a day. There is no telling how much weight she could lose just by cutting out all of the calories from the pop.
I have another friend who has health problem after health problem that I GUARANTEE are associated with her weight but she still won't do anything about it. I just can't understand sitting there and not even trying.

I've heard all the excuses in the book in work recently! The other girl in my office lost a bit of weight last year and when she hit plateau she gave up, while I kept going. Now she's getting married and her bridesmaids are more determined to lose weight than she is because she "can't be bothered going to get her dress taken in"

I've also heard the "none of my clothes would fit" - well you're always buying new ones, so why not aim for a size smaller??

I was fat, I used all the excuses before, then I woke up and realised I was unhealthy, unfit and a fat, wobbly mess! I did something about it, and I'm proud of what I've achieved so far....

I hear ya! Irritated...maybe not, but I just want to say, NO EXCUSES, PEOPLE!!! If I can do this ANYONE CAN!! But I really believe that in order to be successful and maintain success one needs to be in the right frame of mind.

I made excuses for years. Too busy. Too many kids. Kids are little. Kids are too big. Too many organizations or activities. I deserve to eat what I want. I am happy fat (That was the biggest LIE I told myself) Too tired. Too sick. My family loves me the way I am etc etc.

I finally decided to change and change I have! Just recently, now that I'm trying to maintain and not lose weight I've been caught making excuses again namely: I should be happy with where I am, my weight is low, my BMI is on the low side of healthy etc.. But yesterday it finally occured to me--- I WANT MORE!! And why not!?! I can make it happen...NO MORE EXCUSES!! My arms are toned. Why not my abs!?!? Why not my butt!?!? Why not!?!? :-D

I have been overweight for the last twenty years because I've been eating crap food eighty percent of the time and not moving my body. No other reason. No medical condition, nada. I wish I had those years back - I feel so good now that I am more than halfway to goal and I am working out daily. NO excuse not to - I used my job, the kids activities, the house....you name it.

I get irritated in the beginning until it dawns on me that I use to be the same way at one point of time.

I can't fault anyone because they haven't reached the level I'm at in my journey. I had to swim through my own BS to get here and it wasn't easy. Now with that said, what I am not is a enabler. If I see someone making excuses I will call them on it because I know thats what they need even if they don't realize it. I don't give pats on the backs...I tell you to brush that ish off, suck it up and get back on the horse. Put on your big boy and big girl pants on because pity parties are for children.

This is a great post, and you look great, btw. It's completely true; that 90% of the time, the excuses are born from fear of facing whatever it is that keeps the weight on. Whether it's depression, anxiety, daddy/momy issues, unhappiness etc, if you don't deal with why your eating patterns or lifestyle are the way they are, you'll always find an excuse for why you can't/won't change. I know for me, I have to get past the self-defeatest thought process I've had for longer than I can remember. I figure I"ll never get there, so I give up before I even start. You can't be disappointed if you don't bother trying, right? WRONG.

But it's very, very hard to change your way of thinking, and a constant battle to keep from returning to that thought process even after you start to change. For me, I try to think of it this way; if I really want something that I enjoy (i.e. a new electronic gadget or a trip somewhere) I make it happen, even if it means I have $2 to my name when it's all said and done - because I set my heart on it and anytime an obstacle gets in my way, I think of way around it. I just have to get that way about my weight loss, exercise and eating habits.

As you said, when others start spouting the excuses - no enabling, just encouragement

I just want to say that you don't develop PCOS through poor lifestyle choices. My niece has PCOS, and she developed symptoms before puberty. She now runs relay races and is very active, physically, she eats sensibly, but she still struggles with the symptoms of PCOS. It's not something you can eat or live your way into through poor lifestyle choices, and it's not something you can "cure" by eating less or exercising more. That's not to say that one shouldn't exercise and keep their diet in check--of course they should in order to help reduce symptoms. But PCOS isn't a disease of low willpower. If you have PCOS, you have it whether you run marathons or spend all the day eating chocolate pecan clusters.

http://women.webmd.com/tc/polycystic-ovary-syndrome-pcos-treatment-overview

Not trying to detract from your point--yes, many people have excuses, which really aren't any of our business. But PCOS isn't an excuse, it's an incurable disorder that makes weight gain likely and weight loss much more difficult than for the average person.

Kris

Thank you for saying this - I have PCOS too - and while I don't blame my weight on it - I do agree its not something caused by my weight - but it is worsened by weight gain. I had my first symptoms of PCOS when I was a kid - and I wasn't overweight. I didn't fully understand PCOS until a few years ago when I was given a full diagnosis - and was over 300 pounds. Anyway - I will never use PCOS as an excuse to not lose weight- if anything having it has empowered me to take control of my body because if I ever want to be healthy and fertile - it's up to me.