Do your spouse or boyfriend look at skinnier women

nikkithefatmodel
nikkithefatmodel Posts: 154 Member
edited November 30 in Chit-Chat
???? My does it n I hate it
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  • HeidiMightyRawr
    HeidiMightyRawr Posts: 3,343 Member
    edited February 2016
    He looks at women he finds attractive, as do I with men I find attractive - but I don't think either of us make it obvious! Sometimes those women are skinnier, sometimes they're not. I honestly don't think their weight or size enters his head, it's more just physical attraction. If he finds them attractive, he'll look.

    The way I see it, it's natural to be attracted to others. It's only bad when he disrespects you in the process...makes you feel less attractive than them, puts you down, compares you or makes a point of looking / checking them out when he knows it upsets you (there are ways to be subtle!)

    If he's not doing any of those things and he makes you feel attractive, wanted, loved, I don't see the issue. Not saying it's not common to feel the way you are, lots of people do, men and women. I just think it's mostly due to insecurities on their part, which need to be addressed so you don't feel bad in the future. Because nobody deserves to feel like that.
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    Skinnier than whom?
  • EvgeniZyntx
    EvgeniZyntx Posts: 24,208 Member
    Don't let her wayward glances deprive you of your butt dreamz.
  • Shyness40
    Shyness40 Posts: 3,430 Member
    HeidiMightyRawr wrote: »
    He looks at women he finds attractive, as do I with men I find attractive - but I don't think either of us make it obvious! Sometimes those women are skinnier, sometimes they're not. I honestly don't think their weight or size enters his head, it's more just physical attraction. If he finds them attractive, he'll look.

    The way I see it, it's natural to be attracted to others. It's only bad when he disrespects you in the process...makes you feel less attractive than them, puts you down, compares you or makes a point of looking / checking them out when he knows it upsets you (there are ways to be subtle!)

    If he's not doing any of those things and he makes you feel attractive, wanted, loved, I don't see the issue. Not saying it's not common to feel the way you are, lots of people do, men and women. I just think it's mostly due to insecurities on their part, which need to be addressed so you don't feel bad in the future. Because nobody deserves to feel like that.

    Couldn't have said it any better.
  • whmscll
    whmscll Posts: 2,255 Member
    Sure, my husband will always glance at an attractive woman. But he loves my body, regardless of what size it happens to be at any given time (I tend to yo-yo, unfortunately), tells me he loves my body on a regular basis, and, more importantly SHOWS me that he does with lots of affection, hugs, snuggles and nookie. He puts down his book to watch me undress for bed every night, will detour into the room to give me a hug if he sees me naked from the shower and not yet dressed, etc. So his glancing at other women does not bother me one iota.
  • pixlikesitcrazy
    pixlikesitcrazy Posts: 248 Member
    I'm tiny, so no, but he points out hot girls to me all the time, usually so I can go hit on them LOL
  • arditarose
    arditarose Posts: 15,573 Member
    I'm sure my boyfriend looks at all sorts of other women. Maybe thinner, heavier, blonds, bigger boobs, smaller butts, bigger butts. He is a man. Men like all kinds of women.
  • Peter_Brady
    Peter_Brady Posts: 3,750 Member
    arditarose wrote: »
    I'm sure my boyfriend looks at all sorts of other women. Maybe thinner, heavier, blonds, bigger boobs, smaller butts, bigger butts. He is a man. Men like all kinds of women.

    TRUTH
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,341 Member
    I think i look at more women than my husband does.
  • nutmegoreo
    nutmegoreo Posts: 15,532 Member
    edited February 2016
    NVM
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  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    My husband is most interested in if a woman is naked or not. Size doesn't really matter to him.
  • queenliz99
    queenliz99 Posts: 15,317 Member
    So?
  • CourtLHM
    CourtLHM Posts: 181 Member
    edited February 2016
    nikkithefatmodel wrote: »
    ???? My does it n I hate it

    Yea. The only chicks he stares at in stores are skinny. He says about heavier girls in movies or pics "she's pretty even tho she's heavy" but he's NEVER stared at a hot heavy chick in public. I don't hate it cuz I don't care anymore.
  • _incogNEATo_
    _incogNEATo_ Posts: 4,537 Member
    My spouse doesn't, but my boyfriend does. It kinda bothers me, but not as bad as it would bother my spouse to know that I have a boyfriend.
  • queenliz99
    queenliz99 Posts: 15,317 Member
    _incogNEATo_ wrote: »
    My spouse doesn't, but my boyfriend does. It kinda bothers me, but not as bad as it would bother my spouse to know that I have a boyfriend.

    Being incognito helps
  • senecarr
    senecarr Posts: 5,377 Member
    I just turn my waifu's eyes if she does that.
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  • arditarose
    arditarose Posts: 15,573 Member
    senecarr wrote: »
    I just turn my waifu's eyes if she does that.
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    wtf is going on here.
    ?
  • beagletracks
    beagletracks Posts: 6,034 Member
    Ummmmmm. No. Wouldn't marry a person who disrespected me like that. My body pillow is a total gentleman and only has eyes for me.
  • arditarose
    arditarose Posts: 15,573 Member
    peppermintpudgy wrote: »
    Ummmmmm. No. Wouldn't marry a person who disrespected me like that. My body pillow is a total gentleman and only has eyes for me.

    lolz. OKAY.
  • SueSueDio
    SueSueDio Posts: 4,796 Member
    My husband does look at slimmer and/or more beautiful women, but I also look at men who are slimmer and/or more handsome than him. I think it's natural to look at people you find attractive, and it doesn't mean that the person you're with is UNattractive to you in comparison or that you want to run off with the person you're looking at.

    As one of the above posters said, it's only bad if it's also disrespectful. I used to be bothered by the fact that hubby likes pictures of underwear models. It took a while of his reassuring me that he loves me and finds me attractive and sexy too (regardless of the extra weight) before I was completely comfortable with that, but now I don't mind.

    A dear friend once said to me that his dad's quote for these situations was "it doesn't matter where you get your appetite, so long as you eat at home". :wink:
  • Carlos_421
    Carlos_421 Posts: 5,132 Member
    edited February 2016
    ...nope.
  • squishprincess
    squishprincess Posts: 371 Member
    isnt that a troll account
  • zoeysasha37
    zoeysasha37 Posts: 7,088 Member
    zyxst wrote: »
    My husband is most interested in if a woman is naked or not. Size doesn't really matter to him.

    Exactly. He wouldn't care as long as they where wearing their birthday suit
  • Nikki10129
    Nikki10129 Posts: 292 Member
    lol tbh I find it weird when people say they only have eyes for their significant other. I'll often talk to my roommate about how dreamy people are, celebrities or just people we know and all she can talk about is how the only man she thinks is hot is her bf, and she doesn't even look at other guys anymore.

    I'm sorry, but before you started dating him we literally spoke for hours about how beautiful one of the guys in our lecture was, and now you don't even think he's cute? I call baloney! It's fine to look at other people you find attractive.
  • tristen_leigh
    tristen_leigh Posts: 214 Member
    Humans are physically attracted to other humans. That primal instinct doesn't magically turn off when you're in a relationship.
  • sunnybeaches105
    sunnybeaches105 Posts: 2,831 Member
    MFP. Solving marital problems on the interwebs. One dysfunctional couple at a time.
  • robot_potato
    robot_potato Posts: 1,535 Member
    His eyes may wander, and that's ok, so long as they are the only body part that does. I window shop too, we're only human.
  • zoeysasha37
    zoeysasha37 Posts: 7,088 Member
    How do you think your spouse will feel about the buttocks augmentation then ? If she /he likes thinner ladies then how do you think they will react to you making your rear larger ? I'm not against cosmetic procedures at all, like I mentioned in your past threads. I've had plenty myself. I was just curious if your spouse is for or against the procedure?
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    nikkithefatmodel wrote: »
    ???? My does it n I hate it

    You're married to her? I didn't get that impression from your last thread. Congrats! I think it's wonderful that your being of the same gender no longer prohibits you from being married.

    Since you hate her looking at skinnier women, and you are planning another butt augmentation, how does she feel about your upcoming procedure?
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