Ughhhh

Interesting. I get stressed when I'm supposed to hang with friends but need to go to the gym.

housenoob wrote: »

@arditarose so glad that you feel me!!!!!

What? no

I thought this was a site for adults?

housenoob wrote: »

jemhh wrote: »

Take a walk outside.

Make a friend who likes to go to the gym with you.

How often do you hang out with friends anyway?

I literally hang out with my friends all day(college)

You can afford to take time out of memory making to go exercise and you'll do it if it is a high enough priority for you.

God, I remember spending *so much* time with friends when I was at uni, yet was still at the gym most days, working 2 jobs, and, y'know, sometimes studying too...
This is a great time in your life to learn about balance, cos it only gets busier from here on out.
My favourite way of dealing with stress is exercise, funnily enough. So there you go, two birds, one stone.

housenoob wrote: »

jemhh wrote: »

Take a walk outside.

Make a friend who likes to go to the gym with you.

How often do you hang out with friends anyway?

I literally hang out with my friends all day(college)

Maybe try hanging out with your friends less so that you're not still in college at 25?

arditarose wrote: »

housenoob wrote: »

@arditarose so glad that you feel me!!!!!

What? no

You did say pretty much the same thing.

I bet you could go to the gym a few times a week at 6 AM when you friends are sleeping. Also you could probably miss watching an episode of some soap opera in the afternoon with them and it wouldn't have a long term impact on your bonding with them.

Or as others have said, go the gym with them. My college age son works out with several friends, they push each other in the gym and get to be together.

Admit to yourself that if you're conflicted, fitness isn't your priority.

It takes commitment and consistency for results. Half measures won't work. If you would rather spend time with your friends, then spend time with your friends.

Missing a few moments with your friends here and there won't kill you. As many others have said, now is time in your life to really start learning about balance and setting boundaries, both for yourself and others. Exercise is great for stress management and important for you health. Find the time. Your friends will still be there an hour later.

Also, try encouraging your friends to do outdoor activities like going for a walk or hiking. That way you can engage in fitness activities and hang out with your friends.

I used to feel like you. I felt bad turning down an invitation with friends, but then I realized I needed to be a priority. That could be several different things: sleep, studying, working out.

You need to realize that you will miss out on some things, but your life won't be awful or end because of it. Are you always going to be there for everything? Probably not once you're out of college and have other stuff going on (work, family, relationship, volunteer opportunities, etc.).

If you want to workout, you'll make it work. It's an hour (give or take). You won't miss out on some huge thing in that hour-ish time.

amyr271 wrote: »

jofjltncb6 wrote: »

arditarose wrote: »

housenoob wrote: »

@arditarose so glad that you feel me!!!!!

What? no

You did say pretty much the same thing.

I took it as the opposite. OP doesn't like missing out on social events to go to the gym. Arditarose doesn't like missing out on the gym to go to social events?

This. I guess it is the same issue though. But opposite, ha.

In reality I find balance. I do kind of plan my week in advance and make sure I can hit all training days while still being social.

No matter how often you hang out with your friends, you can manage 30 minutes a day a few times a week to work out. I doubt your lives are that exciting where something amazing is happening every minute of every day. I would guess that mostly you're all just sitting around watching TV. By being afraid of missing out on that, you're missing out on your desired body.