Afraid of failure.

Honest. Just take it one day at a time. Don't worry about the past or next month. Focus each day on making it the best you can. It's not easy. I don't know of anyone who thinks it's easy but it's worth it. You're worth it.

My favorite mfp quote that has guided me through 2 years here..
"If you never give up, then you can never fail."

So very true!

The only failure in life is having never tried. Every time we fail we get to learn something about ourselves or the situation. We grow. We learn. We survive. We thrive. I have been afraid of many things. It is so very easy to build up the fear in our minds until it is so out of control that we feel paralyzed by it. And yet, when you do what you fear, you find out that it wasn't that big of a deal anyway.

You have already lost 5 pounds. You have already set up a goal. You want to be around for your children and grand children. Use them as your beacon. Every time you feel scared, think of what you would tell them if they came to you being afraid. You tell them it is okay. So tell yourself, it is okay. Because it is! Take one step at a time.

The only failure would be to not do what you know you should. It will be up and down but that is not failure it is life. You deserve to feel good about yourself and your kids should see that. Make a commitment to yourself that you will log your food every day regardless whether you go over or not. Choose something you love to do and commit to do it x times a week. Those are two things that will get you started and are doable for anyone. The community here on mfp will support you. Remember we are all struggling to meet our goals and sometimes life gets in the way. We are cheering for you!!! Go get what you want!

you're here which means you are learning that you want to change. That's why failure is ok. JPrewitt made valid, honest points.
I've been a member since 2012. At my highest weight 220lbs at 5'2". I got down to 150, then I made mistakes, failed got back to 171 now I'm back and currently 159. We learn and it's okay. MFP is an awesome tool. Good luck and feel free to friend me!

Many times we chose to not do something rather than try, because we think we'll fail. What makes that funny (odd, not "haha") is that by NOT trying whatever it is, we guarantee failure versus whatever chance there is for success. I realize that is applying logic to an emotional issue, but it doesn't make it any less true. Since I started my own journey towards a healthier & more active life about 1.5 years ago, I've realized that. Now, I do what scares me. Fear is a super power. It makes us run faster, lift more, and push us beyond the limits we think we have. Use it to your advantage.
You said "I want to be healthy, so I can keep up with my kids and live to meet the rest of my grand babies." Let that be the bigger motivator to get you started: The fear of not being around to meet the rest of your grand babies and watching them grow up. continually find new things to keep you motivated and working towards your goal: Things big enough to help you choose those million RIGHT decisions to reach your goal. Maybe it's that trip of a lifetime you always wanted to take, or fitting into those jeans you used to wear, or any combination of a billion things. That part is up to you. It all starts with "why." Once you focus on that, everything else starts to fall into place.

Then keep telling yourself you won't fail. Stop doubting yourself. Block out the temptation to fall back into an unhealthy lifestyle. Surround yourself with only positive influences - this includes friends/family who are on the same path as yourself (I suggest joining the gym and making friends there that will help motivate you; and the family/current friends will join the bandwagon when they see your success), keep only healthy food in your house, etc. Don't deprive yourself. Though. Remember consistency is key, but a treat here and there is necessary to stay on track as well. Just like rest days. You've got this!

NikkiTygg wrote: »

I have been battling with me weight for most of my life. I was 135lbs in my "prime" after 4 kids and over a million bad decisions I'm sitting at 225lbs (after a recent loss of 5lbs) I want to be healthy, so I can keep up with my kids and live to meet the rest of my grand babies.

5 lbs is a great start! Every pound you take off is a step to a healthier you. Every day you watch your calorie intake or be more active is a positive change. Just keep going and you are succeeding at improving your health.

I don't really think of failure with weight loss. That is too dramatic for me. I just get through each day. I log everything every day. I weigh myself once a week. Nothing gets too crazy. The worst that has happened in a year working on this is my weight staying the same for awhile but even then I am at my lowest weight in 5 years so I'm still better off than I was. If today I ate too much or gained a pound then I just make a change tomorrow. If my weight isn't shifting I try to log more accurately or increase my activity. Not every day will be perfect and awesome. We start over new every day with our choices anyway.

Steph38878 wrote: »

Honest. Just take it one day at a time. Don't worry about the past or next month. Focus each day on making it the best you can. It's not easy. I don't know of anyone who thinks it's easy but it's worth it. You're worth it.

But also remember one "bad" day is not failure, only a bump.