Some of these friend requests...

I don't feel any obligation to accept friend requests...it's not personal, it's not like we know each other. I probably turn down at least half of the FRs I get.
Also, I don't mind too much if a guy is what I call a 'pretty girl collector' if he has some actual substance and involvement in the website.

I never used to go to the activity feed page. I still have to force myself sometimes. So for the longest time I was a deadbeat friend lol. I thought people were just collecting friends for show, a la Friendster/Myspace.

I logged back in last Nov. after remembering I even had an account and I found that I had like 3 friends left lol. I guess people take their pruning very serious which is why I don't send requests for fear that I can't live up to friendship duties. I feel deeply honored to receive them though and lately I've been working on being more interactive and supportive. I'm starting to witness the beauty of this community.

I have to say though, if you decline friend requests you're a bit cold hearted IMO. This place is a blip on the internet... health & fitness is the one indisputable thing that matters in all our lives.... we're all gonna die someday and our time on MFP will be brief..... so when someone thinks enough of you to send you a friend request and you decline it? Wow, that is horrible to me. And giving up on someone because they haven't logged in for 8 days? Where is the unconditional love and acceptance? Because if it's not on a forum devoted to health & wellness than I am at a loss as to what that says about the human race.

Peace. *single tear*

ClubSilencio wrote: »

I never used to go to the activity feed page. I still have to force myself sometimes. So for the longest time I was a deadbeat friend lol. I thought people were just collecting friends for show, a la Friendster/Myspace.

I logged back in last Nov. after remembering I even had an account and I found that I had like 3 friends left lol. I guess people take their pruning very serious which is why I don't send requests for fear that I can't live up to friendship duties. I feel deeply honored to receive them though and lately I've been working on being more interactive and supportive. I'm starting to witness the beauty of this community.

I have to say though, if you decline friend requests you're a bit cold hearted IMO. This place is a blip on the internet... health & fitness is the one indisputable thing that matters in all our lives.... we're all gonna die someday and our time on MFP will be brief..... so when someone thinks enough of you to send you a friend request and you decline it? Wow, that is horrible to me. And giving up on someone because they haven't logged in for 8 days? Where is the unconditional love and acceptance? Because if it's not on a forum devoted to health & wellness than I am at a loss as to what that says about the human race.

Peace. *single tear*

..*sob*..so beautiful..

_SummerGirl_ wrote: »

lauranorr wrote: »

I'm always happy when I get a friend request. I accept and sent out instructions on our secret handshake and get sizing information for our matching embroidered jackets

This is hilarious!

I love! Sending you a fr right now

I usually just go with a gut feeling. I don't think showing off what we've worked for is a bad thing on this website. Most of the time, the profile picture isn't meant to be a part of their introduction but a way to show off an achievement on their own profile. And I rarely look at people's friend lists but on the few occasions that I did both, men and women, had mostly women on theirs, so I don't think it has to be a sign they're collecting. And even if people do get a little flirty, I don't consider this is a super bad thing, as long as it's respectful and people accept a no when they get one.

However, I have received a few weird messages. Not even friend requests but messages where they tell me stuff that's in no way related to anything I've posted about or wrote on my profile and then say they'd like to add me. Well, uh...do it? I'm not gonna go and do that for you. But I don't know, they might be spam.

thehexenbiest wrote: »

I don't think showing off what we've worked for is a bad thing on this website. Most of the time, the profile picture isn't meant to be a part of their introduction but a way to show off an achievement on their own profile.

Totally agree. After all, this is a fitness website, and as someone stated earlier, friends on other sites, such as FB, often ridicule others when they post progress photos there. If you can't post them here, and get nice feedback, where can you? And I have only seen one woman's photos that were "edgy" and borderline NSFW, but still, they were showing her progress. She has taken those photos down since. And yes, she is on my FL as well.

And even if people do get a little flirty, I don't consider this is a super bad thing, as long as it's respectful and people accept a no when they get one.

A little flirting can be fun. People just have to know the boundaries and respect them.

synchkat wrote: »

GymRatSF wrote: »

I've yet to get a single friend request with a message so hence no friends as it seems strange that someone wouldn't at least write something in the request.

@GymRatSF maybe no one knows what to say to Superman

@synchkat would a batman shirt have been better?

GymRatSF wrote: »

synchkat wrote: »

GymRatSF wrote: »

I've yet to get a single friend request with a message so hence no friends as it seems strange that someone wouldn't at least write something in the request.

@GymRatSF maybe no one knows what to say to Superman

@synchkat would a batman shirt have been better?

Well clearly yes.
geez

lauranorr wrote: »

ashleystidham wrote: »

_SummerGirl_ wrote: »

lauranorr wrote: »

I'm always happy when I get a friend request. I accept and sent out instructions on our secret handshake and get sizing information for our matching embroidered jackets

This is hilarious!

I love! Sending you a fr right now

ashleystidham wrote: »

_SummerGirl_ wrote: »

lauranorr wrote: »

I'm always happy when I get a friend request. I accept and sent out instructions on our secret handshake and get sizing information for our matching embroidered jackets

This is hilarious!

I love! Sending you a fr right now

Received and accepted! Not only will you receive this awesome jacket....

But now and for a limited time only as a special bonus gift you'll receive this epic jumpsuit..
(Totally matching mine of course....;)

Sooooo worth it, I'm gonna rock the jumpsuit everyday

bdgfn wrote: »

My profile specifically states to send me a message, yet I continue to get requests without a message. I will go ahead and accept if I have interacted with the person before, or if they are on some of my other friends FLs. For now I generally send a message back to the rest saying I need a message. So far, that has worked. I have only deleted one person from my FL so far, and she was nothing but a drama queen on here looking for sympathy and using MFP like FB.

If people are using the MFP app you can't actually read a profile it doesn't show up!

Is this still a thing?

I take offense to this lol I posted my pic cause I busted my *kitten* and lost 115lbs and was proud of what I accomplished

That's a joke btw, before anyone gets their knickers all twisted.