Newlyweds Who Eat Differently

jofjltncb6 wrote: »

cwolfman13 wrote: »

Your male counterpart is always going to have higher calorie needs than you regardless of football, etc...my wife has smaller portions than I do...my wife tends to have protein and veg with dinner...I have more protein, more veg, and starches/grains. I eat desert most nights...she doesn't. I have 3-4 snacks per day...she has 1-2 and we both snack on different things. She has egg white omelets for breakfast and a small serving of oats...I have whole eggs for breakfast and a full serving of oats and add peanut butter...etc, etc, etc.

THAT'S SEXIST!!

Women and Men process food differently. What may work for my husband does not work for me. I eat 1/4 cup oats for breakfast with cinnamon and my husband has a huge bowl of oats with peanut butter. It's not sexist to understand that males and females have different nutrition needs.

auddii wrote: »

Megthechef43 wrote: »

jofjltncb6 wrote: »

cwolfman13 wrote: »

Your male counterpart is always going to have higher calorie needs than you regardless of football, etc...my wife has smaller portions than I do...my wife tends to have protein and veg with dinner...I have more protein, more veg, and starches/grains. I eat desert most nights...she doesn't. I have 3-4 snacks per day...she has 1-2 and we both snack on different things. She has egg white omelets for breakfast and a small serving of oats...I have whole eggs for breakfast and a full serving of oats and add peanut butter...etc, etc, etc.

THAT'S SEXIST!!

Women and Men process food differently. What may work for my husband does not work for me. I eat 1/4 cup oats for breakfast with cinnamon and my husband has a huge bowl of oats with peanut butter. It's not sexist to understand that males and females have different nutrition needs.

Well that's... different.

And also totally not true. I usually eat more than my BF when I'm bulking, and he has 8" and 40-50 pounds on me. Me being a woman has nothing to do with how I process food.

My husband and I are the same way. I cook about 1500 calories worth of high-protein meals and let him fill in his calories with whatever else he wants to eat. He usually snacks on nuts, yogurt, dried fruit, gummy candies, jerky, corn chips, and/or ice cream. I usually only have room for a small snack.

Make things like stir fry where he can double the chicken and rice, where you can keep portions where you need and fill with veggies.

I often eat many less carbs and meat than my partner, but I cook all our dinners. It's really not hard to plan a weeks meals that fit his needs then tweak them for your own. Not a completely different meal, but less of certain foods and more of others. You can always make lighter dinners and have him double portion sizes.

Megthechef43 wrote: »

My husband and I are similar to your story. He can't gain weight, he tries but just can't. His metabolism is off the charts. I, on the other hand, look at chocolate and gain weight.

We grill a lot. We will grill the meat so you can portion that out how you like. I eat 3-4oz and he eats his fill. I serve this with a vegetable side that is healthy and I like and a carb side that I usually don't eat. This could be rice or pasta.

That way he can add bbq sauce to his meats and I don't. I can eat lean, clean, and green but he still gets all the food he needs.

Does your husband weigh/measure and log his food?

I suspect his metabolism is more on the charts than you think...

(...and this is from a former "hard-gainer" with a TDEE of ~3400.)

AliceDark wrote: »

auddii wrote: »

Megthechef43 wrote: »

jofjltncb6 wrote: »

cwolfman13 wrote: »

Your male counterpart is always going to have higher calorie needs than you regardless of football, etc...my wife has smaller portions than I do...my wife tends to have protein and veg with dinner...I have more protein, more veg, and starches/grains. I eat desert most nights...she doesn't. I have 3-4 snacks per day...she has 1-2 and we both snack on different things. She has egg white omelets for breakfast and a small serving of oats...I have whole eggs for breakfast and a full serving of oats and add peanut butter...etc, etc, etc.

THAT'S SEXIST!!

Women and Men process food differently. What may work for my husband does not work for me. I eat 1/4 cup oats for breakfast with cinnamon and my husband has a huge bowl of oats with peanut butter. It's not sexist to understand that males and females have different nutrition needs.

Well that's... different.

And also totally not true. I usually eat more than my BF when I'm bulking, and he has 8" and 40-50 pounds on me. Me being a woman has nothing to do with how I process food.

Thank you for pointing that out. My opinion might be faulty. It's not that Men and Women process differently. A calorie burned is a calorie burned. But it looks like you are very active, which is awesome and envious. I don't and I'm working hard to lose weight and maintain a better approach to my diet. In my limited experience (but is not true for the mass population) It's the men in my life that require more calories on a day to day basis.

If you were to put in to a random calorie calculator online (I used Active.com) Height 5'8", Weight 180, Age 25, and Activity level as Active. It would tell you that a Male would need 2901 calories a day, and Female would need 2442.

But my active level is so much lower than my husband's active level which is why he needs way more calories than me. He needs to gain weight while I need to lose it.

As for the comments being sexist, I don't think one gender is superior based on calorie needs from the original comment. He was pointing out that he and his wife eat differently. Everyone is different as you have pointed out.