I'm tired of being tired and fat!

It will probably help you stay with it a lot more if you just eat less of what you love. I found I can easily consume half of what I could and still feel full. Eat more small meals that contain protein and fiber so that you'll feel full longer. And don't try to do too much too fast, it sounds like you almost starve yourself and consume too few calories. You also don't need to workout everyday, I lost 70 lbs in 7 months only doing 2 spin classes a week (and consuming 3000+ calories per day). For exercise, find something you love to do and do it, for me it was spinning.

So sorry you've hit a stumbling block. Yes, it is quite difficult to focus on your eating habits and health, particularly if that isn't something that's habit. I do know people who've lost a lost of weight quickly either via surgery or illness. As for those on television, if you notice, they are highly medically supervised and workout around 6 hours a day. The math of it all is that it takes a deficit of 3500 calories to burn up a pound and it takes 3500 calories added to up your weight a pound. The math is the simple part...the mental part is the trick, in my opinion. You have to get to the place where you love yourself enough to take the time and effort to make the necessary changes. Easier said than done.

I am not a "fast" loser...it took me a couple of decades to put on all this weight. So far it's taken me 1 1/2 years to lose the amount I've lost so far. The journey continues! I eat clean, exercise most days (recent injuries have prevented me from doing my usual routine and I miss that!). Without being able to see your food and exercise diary, hard to make any recommendations. However, do know that it is possible to do without choosing surgery, medication or extreme nutritional changes. I will be happy to help further...just give me a shout.

Like we all have, I've tried this several times. Those were practice attempts. What's working for me now is just doing one better than I did last week on EVERYTHING. I do one more crunch, throw one more punch or walk one more step. That might be the only improvement is just one more BUT it something. It also works with my food. I may give in and eat that burger and fires, ok, no problem. Next week I may just have the burger and no fries or maybe just the fries. I don't care what others are saying, IT'S BETTER THAN I DID LAST WEEK. If I keep getting just one tiny bit better, slowly I'm improving and I've accomplished more than I did in the past.

Failure isn't failure unless you let it keep you down.

115, is a really hard goal to reach! Try to work on 5-10 lbs at a time and focus on slow and steady weight loss.

I ran like crazy, even finished a marathon recently but my weight plateaued at 125. (i'm only 5'2'')

I am now going to try to watch my caloric intake and focus on healthy eating, not dieting.

Good luck. It's never easy but it's worth the effort.

It sounds to me like you mind has to catch up to your body. Losing weight is a very hard and difficult thing, but you must mentally prepare yourself before you begin to lose weight. If you don't have that mind set, then you are not going to accomplish anything. Try to surround yourself with people who are also into fitness and those that will support you.
Once you do all those things and have a positive attitude, then girl you will be on your way. DON'T GIVE UP!!

When i felt like i couldn't keep going, my true friends would tell me how it was and tell me to get my *kitten* up and get my s**t together. I'm the kind of person that needs that true honesty, telling me how it is, no holds bar, once you hear it, you don't ever want to hear it again, so i just get out and get active.

So please don't give up, you have a tool here that will really help you, now, the rest is up to you.

Stay Strong
~Chika

So many days I feel the same way you do.

the best thing for health in my opinion : exercise. Walk... bike... zumba... swimming. It doesn't have to marathon running! and don't compare yourself to other people on different fitness levels. You do something good for yourself, and your heart, and your body, and feel good about it. It also really helps me with depression.

I also fully agree with Chika and Rachel C....

It is harder mentally than many people realize, and you really need to be surrounded with supportive people. Saboteurs will get to you otherwise! No excuses mentality is difficult, but a good one to have.

For food, I absolutely must have treats here and there or I go crazy. The great thing about fitness pal, is that I can just calculate how much exercise I need to do so that I can burn off the food, and eat what I want (within a controlled portion). Losing weight doesn't mean eating only lettuce. We set ourselves up for failure if we are too restrictive. A life style change has to be a life style you can live with.

Start week one with a lot of the same foods you normally eat, only measuring them and counting calories. When you start to find that you can fill up better on food#1, instead of a small portion of food #2 for the same calories, your mind set starts to change on its own. well, I'd rather have more of food#1 then! Also add veggies or fruit for snacks instead of the usual. Little changes bit by bit and it will start to come naturally.

I am only 15 pounds away from my goal weight, and I still struggle and struggle, unable to lose those 15 pounds. I struggle with binge eating, depression, and motivation. It is a mental game. Just don't give up. If you keep trying, you will make daily steps to being healthy.

First of all, take a deep breath!

Second, don't overwhelm yourself with the thought that you must lose 115 pounds, you must work out every day, you must only eat healthy foods, etc. Take it slow. Goal 1 should be to reduce your caloric intake. Period. Don't worry about an exercise routine just yet- move around as much as you can, take walks, swim, but don't stress about it. Get your calories under control first.

My answer is a combination of what "hroush" and "melsinct" said, plus a few details.

Don't eat like a rabbit if you're not going to enjoy it. Eat what you like, just eat less of it. Weigh and measure if you have to in order to get a good grasp of what a normal portion is and then go from there. I've lost over 60 pounds and have still eaten pizza, chocolate, etc, just WAY less than I used to. Substitues have helped me immensely as well. There are low-fat/light versions of just about everthing out there and they're mostly as good as the full fat versions.

And try not to do everything at once. I know there's a ton of information out there and it would be great to lose like 20 pounds in a week like you see on Biggest Loser or other weight loss shows but seriously, for normal people who don't have 24/7 access to a gym and a kitchen full of only certain foods, that's just not do-able. Start out by commiting to log everything for a week, then concentrate on meeting your calorie goals, then start exercising....you get my point, one step at a time, one new goal every week (or even every two weeks).

If this gets overwhelming and frustrating, you are bound to quit and have a binge. So if you start feeling that, think about why you're stressing and maybe take a step back and just concentrate on one less thing for a week or two...it can be as simple as that.

Please don't try to take the easy route by using pills unless your doc prescribes them - some can be very dangerous. Plus you won't learn how to change your habits and you'll likely gain all the weight back anyway. Trust me, I've tried everything to and finally figured out the only way to do this is one day at a time, as corny as that sounds, and slowly break my bad habits.

I could go on forever so I'll stop now - please give yourself a break, be patient and focus on your health, not so much what the scale says. Good luck and feel free to friend me if you'd like.

I agree with what everyone else has said - make small changes to start with then more small changes, instead of drastically changing everything all at once.

If you are having issues just meeting the calorie intake requirements, you could start with trying to lose 1/2 pound and getting used to meeting those goals with smaller portions of your normal foods and slowly work your way to higher amounts per week, giving your body (and mind!) time to adjust to the new lifestyle you are setting up for yourself!

"And try not to do everything at once."

Amen, a thousand times. The mental part of this process is much more difficult than the physical part. Recognize it for the very challenging (and yet rewarding!) adventure it is going to be. Take it slow. Incorporate diet and actiivty changes that you can, for the most part, sustain over time.

I like to think of this whole process as very, very self-indulgent. I take the time to shop for the very sweetest fruits, to cook the most delicious meals, to find the exercise that best fits me. It's when I am down on myself that I don't bother to do any of those things, to my detriment.

You are proposing to make huge changes in your life. Take yourself seriously. Respect the magnitude of your undertaking and what it will take to be successful.

Good luck!