Women only please! (Unless you're a doctor)

You are probably not pregnant if the urine tests keep saying negative and you are that late. You mentioned premenopausal and hot flashes, but did not mention your age. Stress and all the other symptoms you talked about certainly can cause you to skip a period. I do agree with going to a clinic for a test, though they usually do a urine test too. IF you decide to wait though, one recommendation I do have, which you will probably want to hit me for, is you should be treating your body as if you are pregnant. take care of yourself just in case. When I was ttc my doctor told me to act as if I were pregnant, not to smoke or drink and take my prenatal vitamins, etc. You might want to consinder that just in case. (my disclaimer is I am very fertile, it wasn't like it was going to take months and I was going to miss out on wine at New Years or a wedding or anything) Just a thought


Best wishes to you,

If pregnany tests are negative and you've done 5 of them, chances are you probably aren't pregnant - a blood test would be the best way to confirm.

But let's talk about those 1000 calories, and the 700 net. I used to be anorexic, once I got to restricting below 1200 calories and getting into the 0-1000 range... I lost my period. It only took me 1-2 months to get that point and I was not underweight yet when they stopped. Coming from someone that has been there... 700 net calories *really* isn't enough to fuel your body. Even 1000 calories is not enough. Losing your period is your body's way of telling you that it no longer considers you healthy enough to nourish a baby and that it is literally only currently able to keep up with the most basic processes to keep you alive. A 700-1000 calorie diet is not sustainable, it will affect your mood immensely (you said your depressed), and when you lose weight and reach your goal weight and start eating "normally" your body will have adapted to a ridiculously low calorie intake and you will gain weight very quickly.

I know it can be hard to do this a slow and steady way especially when you are comparing yourself to your husband and his weight loss. But I would really encourage you to do this in a more healthy way, consult with a doctor. I have been told to eat no less than 1500 calories and that my net calories shouldn't be lower than 1200 ever, and even that is pushing it. I want to restrict to lower calories because I know I can do it, I've done it before. But I also don't want to open the door to all the psychological and physical issues that come with it, and I want this to be a sustainable change that will last for a lifetime, not just for a year. Good luck to you

I can't say enough good things about Planned Parenthood. They're so wonderfully supportive, understanding and non-judgmental that I *still* go there, at 39 years of age with decent insurance. I like 'em better than my regular doc.

First step - make sure you're not pregnant. Second step - decide what you want to use to prevent getting pregnant. It's likely to be stress, exercise and not eating enough this time, but you can't count on the pull-out method.

well if the only reason your stressing is because you like one glass of wine before bed at night i wouldn't worry. fetal alcohol syndrome is from severe alcoholics... think a 24 pack everynight.

FYI: this is so wrong in so many ways. I certainly hope noone actually listens to this. Sure a glass of wine here or there MIGHT not harm your baby. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome is NOT just for severe alcoholics. There are NO research studies that accurately indicate how much alcohol is a safe amount of alcohol to consume while pregnant because no person in their right mind would sign up to participate in that study! If you (or anyone) thinks they are pregnant consuming alcohol should be postponed!

Can't say that I 100% agree with FAS being only for severe alcholics but I do know several women who were worried about finding out they pregnant after having a few drink-filled nights and they're doctors all gave them pretty much the same speech: the stress placed on your body by worrying about it is worse than the act it self. I've also heard about one glass of red-wine having potential health benefits.

there could be a lot of factors going on with you. Stress is your number 1 thing right now. Stress can reduce your period. Also, burning 300 calories and only getting 700 calories will put your body into stress mode. You have to feed your body. us girls are not like men. they can loose weight quickly. it's there male testosagen. (can't spell) I struggle myself. my husdand can loose weight very quickly. i get bummed and discouraged. don't beat yourself up. a new marriage, it does take some time to get used to. both my husband and I have been married before. we also have kids from our previous marriage and have 1 together. it is a lot of work. i just turned 33 this year. the demands on life can weigh us all down. you and your husband need to find what will work for you. if you are really worried about getting pregnant then you might want to consider other forms for birth control. my youngest son, is the pull out method. doesn't alway go the way we want it planned. i love him to death. maybe taking some time off from work, and getting your house put together, or have a girls night out. just so you can feel like you again. the pressure you are facing can really be a burden at times. i agree with the other girls here. find a free clinic get tested for pregnancy and find a thereapist or someone you can help some help from and confide in. It really helps when you have someone outside listening. I pray for you that all gets better for you. we are all here to help each other out. I hope i didn't say anything to offend you in any way. enjoy life!!! the demands can be challenging. so rewarding!!!! take care sweetie!
Sabrina:happy:

With my first baby I took several home tests... all negative. Found out I was six weeks along when I thought I had the flu!!!! Felt like crap, dr did a test, and I was preggo! I was happy about it, but kinda shocked. All the home tests said I wasn't!

Anyway, that doesn't mean you are, but if you're really worried, you might want to ask a doctor. I wouldn't put that off!!!

I think it is highly unlikely that you are pg. Stress, food (sugar in particular) and exercise plays a huge role in how our hormones act. If you had a sustainable pg your HCG levels would rise and the tests would show a positive. It is not common to get a false negative it's much more common to get a false positive. That being said there is something the Dr. can give you to help you start your next cycle. I personally would go to the Dr. Good luck!

Honestly? As I'm sure everyone and their uncle has said here, it sounds like stress delayed your ovulation (or completely canned it for this cycle), and your body is either having a very long cycle, ramping up to a true ovulation, or you may have just skipped.

Every time I see something like this (someone, somewhere with concerns about their period and potential pregnancy) my answer is always the same: There is little I can do to help, as I'm not in your shoes, but I *highly* recommend reading "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Wescheler. It is a FABULOUS book that can answer a lot of these questions or help you figure out what sorts of things you're seeing based on your own physiology.

*hugs* and good luck to you, though!!

Honestly? As I'm sure everyone and their uncle has said here, it sounds like stress delayed your ovulation (or completely canned it for this cycle), and your body is either having a very long cycle, ramping up to a true ovulation, or you may have just skipped.

Every time I see something like this (someone, somewhere with concerns about their period and potential pregnancy) my answer is always the same: There is little I can do to help, as I'm not in your shoes, but I *highly* recommend reading "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Wescheler. It is a FABULOUS book that can answer a lot of these questions or help you figure out what sorts of things you're seeing based on your own physiology.

*hugs* and good luck to you, though!!

YES! Fabulous book! Double recommend!