How rude is it?

I don't think it's rude.
I'm supposed to be going to my in laws. (tahoe forest) They eat pretty good for the most part, I just have to watch my portion sizes. I'm going to bring my jillian michaels dvd with me. I'm also going to go for walks with my mother in law, I don't like walking alone up there because there have been a lot of mountain lion sighting, and the fact that there have been a few times that his mom has seen bears roaming around during the day.

BTW everyone tells me that if you see a bear try to look bigger and make noise it will scare it. Well I'm 5ft tall, looking big isn't that easy, I could probably scare off a small cub, but I can be loud. I've been told I am very loud for such a little person.

I also do not believe it to be rude! In order for anyone to succeed we need to surround ourselves with good influences! If you explain it to them and they become offended then I would simply say I want a better life for myself and in order for me to keep moving towards my goal I need to eat certain things. And then take your foods cook and eat them without making a big deal about it! Family will learn to respect this as my family has. They took it personal at first and then when they saw my body and the results and even came to my house and saw that I eat the same there, it was much easier!!!! Hope this helps, Good Luck!

As a parent, I would not feel slighted if my daughter felt the need for "healthier" alternatives to what she felt was going to be unhealthy food.

But one quick mention - food for thought, if you will. Would you be doing the exact same thing if, say, you were going to spend 4 days at your best friends home? My point is this: on this journey we call weight loss/healthy living, we need to learn to live within the environments we cannot control. The steak: eat a smaller piece. The potato: eat half, little or no butter added. The breakfast: one egg, one slice of bacon will not undo your hard work. Do you see what I mean?

As a long time "dieter" I derail myself when I "give in" but I'm actually "giving in" to huge quantity of foods, not the foods themselves.

Good luck - enjoy your visit!

I guess you could, but it might make others feel like you a judging their choices. Tread lightly.

Is it rude or do I just chalk up the 4 days to a complete loss?

Why don't you ask them instead of us if they'd be offended?

And I don't see how it's a complete loss if you still are within you calorie goal...just because you are eating different foods doesn't make them less healthy.

My parents invited me over for a cook-out and i took my own food. I ended up eating some of there's but they were very supportive and know I am trying to get healthier. It should be fine.

Sorry. They will likely find it rude if you bring your own food. I know from experience. I've done it and my hosts were offended. Family, but offended. If you're concerned enough not to offend, just count your calories as usual and eat less.

Hollycat