Why hasn't anybody noticed my weight loss?

wannabtight
wannabtight Posts: 187 Member
edited November 30 in Motivation and Support
I guess I was hoping people might notice my weight loss, but no one has yet to say anything. I'm down 15lbs and still have another 25 lbs to lose. I definitely can tell and I definitely feel better? Any thoughts?
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  • Gioeyebrow
    Gioeyebrow Posts: 404 Member
    edited March 2016
    Well i lost 20 and i feel like a look bigger than i did before maybe when you lose the rest theyll be like "wow!"
  • Mike02209
    Mike02209 Posts: 301 Member
    May take some time, I am still waiting as well, after losing 50 lbs so far. But when it does happen it will be so worth it.
  • wannabtight
    wannabtight Posts: 187 Member
    You guys are right and I guess after all I am losing it for myself.
  • LazSommer
    LazSommer Posts: 1,851 Member
    NOTICE ME SENPAI, NOTICE MEEEEEE
  • LazSommer
    LazSommer Posts: 1,851 Member
    That being said I lost over 30 lbs from not too long ago and no one ever really knew. It's harder if they see you frequently for them to notice - coworkers that hadn't seen me in months did, but my family thinks I've been the same weight since about high school it seems.
  • Lizzy622
    Lizzy622 Posts: 3,705 Member
    Have you bought any new clothes? People usually don't notice until you are down a clothes size and buy some new form fitting clothes.
  • OyGeeBiv
    OyGeeBiv Posts: 733 Member
    In my experience, people DO notice, but they may not feel comfortable saying something to you about it. There are actually a lot of people who do not want people to make comments about their body, so it's possible that the people who aren't saying something to you aren't sure how you'd feel about getting comments. You might want to bring it up yourself somehow, to "break the ice" and let them know you're open to talking about it.
  • SueSueDio
    SueSueDio Posts: 4,796 Member
    edited March 2016
    64crayons wrote: »
    In my experience, people DO notice, but they may not feel comfortable saying something to you about it. There are actually a lot of people who do not want people to make comments about their body, so it's possible that the people who aren't saying something to you aren't sure how you'd feel about getting comments. You might want to bring it up yourself somehow, to "break the ice" and let them know you're open to talking about it.

    Good points - I've heard this said as well. It could also be that it's just not that noticeable to others yet, even if you feel it should be - I read somewhere a while back that it takes about 8lbs before any loss is visible in your face, and 16lbs before it's seen on the body. But I would imagine that varies depending on your size and shape to start with, and how often people see you.

    OP, maybe when you drop a size or two you could buy something fitted and make a comment about how you're happy you can wear it now you've lost weight, or something along those lines? That might help break the ice, as @64crayons said. :smile:


    ETA: I've lost 14lbs so far but I'm still over 200, so I don't think it's noticeable to anyone other than my husband yet. Besides which, I was laid off before I started losing so I rarely see the people who were used to the way I looked anyway!
  • Ninkyou
    Ninkyou Posts: 6,666 Member
    Some people may have noticed and just haven't said anything. Sometimes weight loss can be a touchy subject. They may not want to offend you by implying you were heavier before or that you needed to lose a few pounds. Other people don't like getting comments on their own weight loss.

    Just think about who you're doing this for. Are you doing it to fish for compliments or are you doing this because you want to be healthier and make a lifestyle change?
  • Mirasaki
    Mirasaki Posts: 27 Member
    64crayons wrote: »
    In my experience, people DO notice, but they may not feel comfortable saying something to you about it. There are actually a lot of people who do not want people to make comments about their body, so it's possible that the people who aren't saying something to you aren't sure how you'd feel about getting comments. You might want to bring it up yourself somehow, to "break the ice" and let them know you're open to talking about it.

    This is very true, and I think some people don't want to mention anything because someone might be offended by thinking they're saying they were uglier before, or something along that line.
  • lemonychild
    lemonychild Posts: 654 Member
    Why does it matter who notices ?
  • CrabNebula
    CrabNebula Posts: 1,119 Member
    Unless you are already near or at normal weight, 15lbs isn't really that noticeable. Maybe it is enough for observant people to wonder, but they may think that their mind is messing with them and it isn't really any of their business anyway.

    Who cares, you are doing this to be a better you, not fish for head pats.
  • wannabtight
    wannabtight Posts: 187 Member
    Lizzy622 wrote: »
    Have you bought any new clothes? People usually don't notice until you are down a clothes size and buy some new form fitting clothes.

    Haven't bought any new clothes yet, I am waiting to hit the 20lb mark. I should try some of my smaller clothes to see if they fit!
  • Berkgal33
    Berkgal33 Posts: 71 Member
    There is a timeline I have found to be accurate. If you are seriously eating better etc..then I have found you yourself notice changes after 4 weeks, your close friends and family notice after 8 weeks and the world seems to notice after 12 weeks.
  • chaney3000
    chaney3000 Posts: 269 Member
    If people see you all the time they notice it slowly. But if you only see the person ever now and then you will get the "have you lost weight" or "oh my you look so good"
  • concordancia
    concordancia Posts: 5,320 Member
    The only people on my life likely to comment think that "Did you lose weight?" Is just the right thing to say to fat people.
  • sssgilbe
    sssgilbe Posts: 89 Member
    Some people may not comment on a weight loss from concern it could be from a serious health problem.
  • DaisyHamilton
    DaisyHamilton Posts: 575 Member
    LazSommer wrote: »
    NOTICE ME SENPAI, NOTICE MEEEEEE

    Oh my god I love that video
  • jaynee7283
    jaynee7283 Posts: 160 Member
    I agree that people that see you every day may not notice. I saw someone the other day that hadn't seen me in two months, and she noticed. But people I work with every day haven't said a thing.
  • colekelly2535
    colekelly2535 Posts: 1 Member
    It does feel good when people notice but it also gives me anxiety to have all that attention. I find I'm constantly repeating my methods of losing weight to people. They all want to start losing and get healthy but none of them have ever started it.
  • bathmatt12345
    bathmatt12345 Posts: 145 Member
    chaney3000 wrote: »
    If people see you all the time they notice it slowly. But if you only see the person ever now and then you will get the "have you lost weight" or "oh my you look so good"

    THis right here. Then they might say, did you get your hair cut? i.e, you look different.
  • chaney3000
    chaney3000 Posts: 269 Member
    sssgilbe wrote: »
    Some people may not comment on a weight loss from concern it could be from a serious health problem.

    I have been asked if I was sick before by some family that came to visit from out of state
  • nutmegoreo
    nutmegoreo Posts: 15,532 Member
    It was 20lb before anyone commented on my loss. Add another 20, and only a couple people are commenting. Although many more people have been talking about their own diet. I suspect they are wanting to know what I'm doing, but don't want to come right out and ask. They may notice, but don't want to be rude by commenting. Mainly because not everyone wants the attention that comments bring about. Do this for you.
  • treehopper1987
    treehopper1987 Posts: 505 Member
    I lost 25 lbs before anyone said anything to me. That being said, I feel like more and more people are cautious about saying anything to people afraid to hurt their feelings. For example, if they ask if you have been losing weight, and you hadn't then it might make you feel bad.

    Do it for you and welcome any compliments that may come.
  • RoseTheWarrior
    RoseTheWarrior Posts: 2,035 Member
    Lizzy622 wrote: »
    Have you bought any new clothes? People usually don't notice until you are down a clothes size and buy some new form fitting clothes.

    Haven't bought any new clothes yet, I am waiting to hit the 20lb mark. I should try some of my smaller clothes to see if they fit!

    Smaller clothing makes a huge difference. No one said anything about my weight loss until I started buying new clothes. I'm now down 4 sizes (from 24 to 16) and even those who see me all the time can really notice a difference. But even then, it's not until they see old photos/videos that it really sinks in how much I've lost (over 60 lbs now).
  • hzl22
    hzl22 Posts: 157 Member
    Also consider the source .. Some people are quick to point out when you've gained weight but awfully "polite" when you've lost..
  • brb_2013
    brb_2013 Posts: 1,197 Member
    Well, I hope you know you're doing great without the outside reinforcement.

    I had to lose at least 50 until people started noticing. I was super heavy. Now I'm just real heavy and I'm guessing it will happen sooner, maybe 30lbs. But definitely focus more on how you feel.
  • Cave_Goose
    Cave_Goose Posts: 156 Member
    I've known people with dramatic weight changes (both ways) due to illness. It's really awkward to say something only to discover they are battling a life-threatening sickness.

    On the other hand, are you dressing the part? I waited until my jeans started falling off me before I bought new clothes. After that, everyone was commenting on it.
  • Tallawah_
    Tallawah_ Posts: 2,475 Member
    15lb!!! They've noticed!!!....commenting on someone's weight is a tricky area...
  • ironhajee
    ironhajee Posts: 384 Member
    Don't lose weight to be noticed by others. Lose weight to improve your "self" and become the best you can be.

    Also yes I agree with previous posts, commenting on someone's weight can be difficult because some people may be sensitive or offended easily on the subject.

    But congratulations are in order!!! 15 lbs is a significant achievement and I bet it feel just great!

    In one month I've gone from 186lbs to 172.7 lbs and feeling much lighter on my feet! I used to be at 148 lbs but I had a section of life where I just gained SO much weight.
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