Question for the Ladies (Serious Replies Please)

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  • mer1cose
    mer1cose Posts: 90 Member
    mskessler89 wrote: »
    mer1cose wrote: »
    Ok so... new question... what could I bring to surprise her with once we get to the hotel? Clothing that I'd like her to wear (like a new dress)?

    Personally, I'd be super happy if a bottle of chilled champagne were waiting, or if there was lingerie wrapped up for me. My husband knows my preferences (and size!), but the lingerie especially is a very personal thing and should be ventured into cautiously.

    Honestly, buying Stuff can be difficult. If you just wrote her a card saying how excited you were to spend a lovely weekend together, that would probably be plenty to make her feel cared for.

    Thank you! It's funny you mention lingerie.. she never buys herself anything nice in that area and I gave her a really pretty bra/underwear set a while back that she absolutely loved.. was wondering if that would be ok to do again.. The card is an amazing idea.. love it!
  • mer1cose
    mer1cose Posts: 90 Member
    aduck2016 wrote: »
    Forget dinner...I'd prefer maid service for the day...that's just me though

    The one thing I've heard the most in this thread is that most men don't do much to help around the house... I will make sure that doesn't become an issue. Thanks for taking the time.
  • TravisJHunt
    TravisJHunt Posts: 533 Member
    I know you were looking for the ladies but I can tell you what's done it for me in the past. I've taken a few extra hours off work and cleaned up on top of the dinner. Coming home to a clean house with dinner made is one of the best things I can do for my wife. Flowers for that added touch!
  • aduck2016
    aduck2016 Posts: 26 Member
    I don't think it's trying too hard if whatever you do speaks to your wife...we all have our "thing", sounds like you know her well!
  • maplesyrup10
    maplesyrup10 Posts: 52 Member
    Not to sound materialistic, but buy them something they may have mentioned wanting before but wouldn't buy for themselves. It shows they are worth it and that you paid attention to things they say.
  • mer1cose
    mer1cose Posts: 90 Member
    aduck2016 wrote: »
    I don't think it's trying too hard if whatever you do speaks to your wife...we all have our "thing", sounds like you know her well!

    Thank you... That's kinda how I see it as well :smile:
  • mer1cose
    mer1cose Posts: 90 Member
    maplesyrup10 wrote: »
    Not to sound materialistic, but buy them something they may have mentioned wanting before but wouldn't buy for themselves. It shows they are worth it and that you paid attention to things they say.

    She buys nothing for herself... nothing nice at least.. thank you for taking the time to comment :smiley:
  • drpsamin
    drpsamin Posts: 265 Member
    Food that I can eat and food that I like to eat..
  • mer1cose
    mer1cose Posts: 90 Member
    drpsamin wrote: »
    Food that I can eat and food that I like to eat..

    LOVE this! hahaha! Awesome :wink:
  • tincanonastring
    tincanonastring Posts: 3,944 Member
    mer1cose wrote: »
    aduck2016 wrote: »
    Forget dinner...I'd prefer maid service for the day...that's just me though

    The one thing I've heard the most in this thread is that most men don't do much to help around the house... I will make sure that doesn't become an issue. Thanks for taking the time.

    Seriously! C'mon brothers (if any of y'all are reading this). Step up your housekeeping game!
  • tincanonastring
    tincanonastring Posts: 3,944 Member
    OP - Just a thought: does she have a Pinterest profile? You might be able to creep some good ideas for jewelry, shoes (my wife goes nuts when I find shoes that are like the ones she pinned), clothing, and even little trinkets.
  • mer1cose
    mer1cose Posts: 90 Member
    tincanonastring wrote: »
    OP - Just a thought: does she have a Pinterest profile? You might be able to creep some good ideas for jewelry, shoes (my wife goes nuts when I find shoes that are like the ones she pinned), clothing, and even little trinkets.

    Thank you my friend! Someone else also mentioned that but 99% of her Pinterest profile is about food that she's made. I'll keep creepin though.
  • killielila
    killielila Posts: 30 Member
    Wow wonder if i can leave this thread open and try kick my other half to bmore romantic ...
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    mer1cose wrote: »
    mskessler89 wrote: »
    mer1cose wrote: »
    Ok so... new question... what could I bring to surprise her with once we get to the hotel? Clothing that I'd like her to wear (like a new dress)?

    Personally, I'd be super happy if a bottle of chilled champagne were waiting, or if there was lingerie wrapped up for me. My husband knows my preferences (and size!), but the lingerie especially is a very personal thing and should be ventured into cautiously.

    Honestly, buying Stuff can be difficult. If you just wrote her a card saying how excited you were to spend a lovely weekend together, that would probably be plenty to make her feel cared for.

    Thank you! It's funny you mention lingerie.. she never buys herself anything nice in that area and I gave her a really pretty bra/underwear set a while back that she absolutely loved.. was wondering if that would be ok to do again.. The card is an amazing idea.. love it!

    I like this idea!
  • azulvioleta6
    azulvioleta6 Posts: 4,195 Member
    Everybody wants something different...just wanted to throw out that buying clothes was a "do not cross" line for me. I had someone do that once and it was really, really uncomfortable. The kind of relationship makes a difference though--probably not a good idea to do this in a new relationship. In a marriage or more established relationship, it would have a different tone.

    My SO brought me a steaming pile of cow manure yesterday, which made me extraordinarily happy. I am an avid gardener but I do not have a truck to haul such things, so it was a GREAT gift...for me. Most girls probably would not want cow poop...to each her own. :) You have to tailor to her specific personality.
  • RebeccaNaegle
    RebeccaNaegle Posts: 236 Member
    make a dessert too... her fav wine or drink. Maybe even fresh flowers... lucky girl! good luck!
  • aduck2016
    aduck2016 Posts: 26 Member
    All I need to add is a big DON'T...after posting about needing advice from just "the ladies"...you probably shouldn't inbox your responders with friend requests and offers to "chat". I doubt this bozo has any time to make dinner for his wife or clean the house because he's too busy bugging other women. Have a great day all!
  • tincanonastring
    tincanonastring Posts: 3,944 Member
    aduck2016 wrote: »
    All I need to add is a big DON'T...after posting about needing advice from just "the ladies"...you probably shouldn't inbox your responders with friend requests and offers to "chat". I doubt this bozo has any time to make dinner for his wife or clean the house because he's too busy bugging other women. Have a great day all!

    Aww, I didn't get a friend request to chat! :(
  • aduck2016
    aduck2016 Posts: 26 Member
    tincanonastring wrote: »
    aduck2016 wrote: »
    All I need to add is a big DON'T...after posting about needing advice from just "the ladies"...you probably shouldn't inbox your responders with friend requests and offers to "chat". I doubt this bozo has any time to make dinner for his wife or clean the house because he's too busy bugging other women. Have a great day all!

    Aww, I didn't get a friend request to chat! :(

    Lol
  • zoeysasha37
    zoeysasha37 Posts: 7,088 Member
    azulvioleta6 wrote: »
    Everybody wants something different...just wanted to throw out that buying clothes was a "do not cross" line for me. I had someone do that once and it was really, really uncomfortable. The kind of relationship makes a difference though--probably not a good idea to do this in a new relationship. In a marriage or more established relationship, it would have a different tone.

    My SO brought me a steaming pile of cow manure yesterday, which made me extraordinarily happy. I am an avid gardener but I do not have a truck to haul such things, so it was a GREAT gift...for me. Most girls probably would not want cow poop...to each her own. :) You have to tailor to her specific personality.

    Yes but nobody here wants to hear about your cow kitten porn. This isn't an xrated site
  • mer1cose
    mer1cose Posts: 90 Member
    edited April 2016
    Excuse me... There was no ulterior motive for sending a FR. I thought that since people were kind enough to respond to this thread, that I could reach out to people for other ideas without having to post a thread. Saying, "hope to chat sometime" does not mean that I'm trying to flirt with you. Please don't flatter yourself. It amazes me how negative people are and how they jump to conclusions. Just because you've had bad experiences with people does not give you the right to post negative comments or name call. Have a good day.
  • aduck2016
    aduck2016 Posts: 26 Member
    mer1cose wrote: »
    Excuse me... There was no ulterior motive for sending a FR. I thought that since people were kind enough to respond to this thread, that I could reach out to people for other ideas without having to post a thread. Saying, "hope to chat sometime" does not mean that I'm trying to flirt with you. Please don't flatter yourself. It amazes me how negative people are and how they jump to conclusions. Just because you've had bad experiences with people does not give you the right to post negative comments or name call. Have a good day.

    Haha nice try...and I will have a nice day thanks.
  • mer1cose
    mer1cose Posts: 90 Member
    aduck2016 wrote: »
    mer1cose wrote: »
    Excuse me... There was no ulterior motive for sending a FR. I thought that since people were kind enough to respond to this thread, that I could reach out to people for other ideas without having to post a thread. Saying, "hope to chat sometime" does not mean that I'm trying to flirt with you. Please don't flatter yourself. It amazes me how negative people are and how they jump to conclusions. Just because you've had bad experiences with people does not give you the right to post negative comments or name call. Have a good day.

    Haha nice try...and I will have a nice day thanks.

    Nice try? Whatever. Sorry you have such bad experiences.. be well.
  • blueeyez939
    blueeyez939 Posts: 35 Member
    I agree, make sure the meal fits her diet well and make sure she doesn't have to do any cleanup afterwards..... It's not cooking dinner that wears us out, it's the cleanup after that we hate lol so her not having to clean up after the dinner will likely be appreciated more than the actual dinner. But really, just the fact that you put so much thought into doing something special for her is sure to make her day!
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