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    • How can I motivate my gf to lose weight and tone up?

    Posts: 13 Member
    edited December 2024 in Motivation and Support
    She isn't really fat (yet), but she has gained some weight and lost all her muscle tone during winter due to laziness. First time in life she has belly now. She complains about it almost constantly but doesn't do anything to fix it. No diet, no exercise.How to get from words to action?

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    • Posts: 808 Member
      This has to be trolling.
    • Posts: 3,373 Member
      OP you don't. She has to want to do it for herself, though you can demonstrate your own commitment to health and fitness by ensuring your are fit and healthy yourself.

    • Posts: 26,018 Member
      How can I motivate my gf to lose weight and tone up?

      You ... don't.
    • Posts: 6 Member
      Be a role model doing you self and worry about your self snd if she sees how serious you are sell follow but if she don't oh well... You can't change a person you
    • Posts: 6,666 Member
      You don't. If she wants to do something about it, she will. Otherwise you just have to listen to her complain about it. End of story.
    • Posts: 26,368 Member
      You don't. And if you don't like her that way, do her a favor and just break up.
    • Posts: 182 Member
      I disagree with almost everyone on the thread..

      Exept for msanitmal.. Start a routine, tell her you enjoy doing it and you'd like her company.. Make it a couple thing.

      But DON'T tell her she's getting chunky, & lazy..

      Chances are she already knows anyway
    • Posts: 31 Member
      The best way to motivate her is by finding opportunities that you can do TOGETHER - walks, eating healthier, etc.! You can't make her change, she has got to want it herself! She also has to know that no matter what, you still love her the way she is!
    • Posts: 41,865 Member
      edited April 2016
      You're going to get *kitten* slapped trying...
    • Posts: 423 Member
      I'm so thankful for my husband who encourages me. He never once has ever critiqued my body and always makes me feel beautiful. However, yes when I've complained about my troubled spots, he doesn't agree with me but says, lets work out together and we can both keep each other accountable as he also needed to lose weight. I've gone from 168 to 147 and he does compliment me a lot but he always did. I do look much smaller now compared to where I was. I'm around 5'6 so my bmi is healthy now. Still want to lose more. So...my advice? Pray for her! That's what I asked my hubby to do for me and he did. Prayer works. She may also start to want to if she sees you taking good care of yourself as well. For my hubby and me, we get competitive lol!
    • Posts: 6,208 Member
      No awesome points for OP :/
    • Posts: 34,415 Member
      OP, this thread would go much better for you here if you were the wife trying to get her husband to improve his health.
    • Posts: 308 Member
      How bout you start cooking healthy meals for the 2 of you & do the dishes by yourself afterwards while your at it. Take her hiking, learn to play tennis together or pickle ball, join a kickball league or grab a frisbee & head to the park. She may want to be doing healthy things but is compromising to spend quality time with you!
    • Posts: 2,238 Member
      StealthHealth wrote: »
      Get her to put on her running shoes, take her outside, hand her your phone and get her to check out this thread (and the other one you started) about how she is lazy and fat, and then run away as fast as you can.

      She should burn at least 3000 calories smashing up your phone, chasing you down, and then kicking the *kitten* out of you.

      Okay, that was simply great :lol:
    • Posts: 2,238 Member
      And yeah, on a serious note, you can't force someone else to change. I think it's fair game, though, to try to find a sport or physical activity you both enjoy and can do together. Many people hate "exercise" but love sports.
    • Posts: 668 Member
      I read here all the time that there's no fast way to drop weight. How wrong that is. All your girlfriend needs to do is dump you. Instant weight loss.
    • Posts: 679 Member
      Motivation is pretty much a false hope anyway. I am not always motivated to lose weight, but what I am doing is making habits that I stick with to the best of my ability.
      When she complains about it does she say she wants to do something about it? If so, ask her if you can do anything to help and then stick to it.
      Weight loss has to come from the person needing to lose weight. People outside can be supporters or sabotagers or non-factors, but they can't actually make someone lose or gain weight. The best you can do is help make it easier on her when she actually wants it for herself.
      Just be supportive of her whatever she does, she is probably judging herself far more harshly than anyone else ever will. Help her feel good about herself.
    • Posts: 51 Member
      Motivation only gets the journey started, habit keeps it going... If and when your girlfriend decides she wants to do something about her weight, she will do it - it took me 39 years to get to where I am today, that is 164lb lighter than I was on 15th of November 2012, which is the day I chose to lose weight.

      Support her and one day she might decide to do something - plus just because you think she's getting too heavy, doesn't mean that it's the truth... Opinions are not fact my friend xXx
    • Posts: 28 Member
      walk
    • Posts: 103 Member
      She'd loose what 200 lbs if she got u off her back.
    • Posts: 103 Member
      jofjltncb6 wrote: »
      OP, this thread would go much better for you here if you were the wife trying to get her husband to improve his health.

      Nope I think that's messed up too.
    • Posts: 103 Member
      kcerrillo wrote: »
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      Nope I think that's messed up too.

    • Posts: 212 Member
      MYOB.
      Let your girlfriend think for herself.
      If you really find her to be in the wrong health-wise/diet-wise AND it disturbs you, move on.
    • Posts: 902 Member
      ... If her weight is such an issue, maybe it is time you two sit down and have a serious talk? I didn't read the other thread(s?), but pretty much, talk to her. Don't sit and insult her, talk to her about how you feel.
    • Posts: 131 Member
      Don't feed the troll, ya'll XD XD XD
    • Posts: 34,415 Member
      kcerrillo wrote: »
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      Nope I think that's messed up too.

      It would still, on average, go better.
    • Posts: 35,719 Member
      ArmandsBerzs wrote: »
      She isn't really fat (yet), but she has gained some weight and lost all her muscle tone during winter due to laziness. First time in life she has belly now. She complains about it almost constantly but doesn't do anything to fix it. No diet, no exercise.How to get from words to action?

      You can't. End of.
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