Army Wife-I want to blame my husband

It is easy to play the blame game instead of admitting we need to change ourselves. My hubby is retired Army.

ohhhh can I blame him too? As long as he's a scapegoat let's load him up... Just kidding.

Check out a Ketogenic diet.. so filling.

skwilson is right, it is easy to blame others. Although your husband is not completely innocent, it's not entirely his fault. He is only influencing you a little negatively. If you're here on MFP, it's obvious you want to make a change in yourself!

Look around for recipes that are low calorie yet filling. This means lots of protein and fiber. Two of my favorite sites to get recipes from are www.dashingdish.com and www.skinnytaste.com

Also, it is easy to cook double recipes so your husband has plenty to eat, and you can still eat a lower calorie portion. Any food leftover you can eat for lunch the next day, again in a portion for your needs.

My husband is also very active and can eat 4000 calories a day and still LOSE weight. I understand it can be frustrating. I treat myself more often than I ought to because it's hard not to want to enjoy tasty treats when he's eating them too! I am able to control myself a lot of times, though.

You just gotta figure out a pattern that works for you and your husband. Talk to him and let him know you're trying to get healthier so you can lose the extra fat you've gained. Hopefully he will understand and support you in the loving way that he should. And if he's still hungry after you make dinner, tell him to go chug a giant glass of milk!

As always, you can look here for support, and feel free to add me as a friend.

Why should your low calorie meals effect him? Does he just eat more to be full, or you eat less of what you cook for him? My husband works in law enforcement and the schedules can be crazy but for us I dont change my schedule for him.....I eat breakfast lunch and dinner just the same, and leave the left overs for him.
I know each situation is different but we have to take care of ourselves before we can take care of others. I wouldnt be trying to mold myself in my husbands schedule if it is causing unhealthy and sleep deprivation for me.
Do what you need to do to check yourself first and then work with your hubby on other 'healthy' aspects.

I don't know what you go thru since I don't have any military in my family but since he is complaining maybe you can have a compromising conversation with him. Can you cook meals ahead for him? He can reheat when he is up at 1 AM and you can sleep. Do you always have to be up with him? I don't cook 2 meals either but I follow portion control and add salad to my meal. Like skip the pasta but make a vegetable to go with the meat. I guess that would be 1 1/2 meal. In my house anytime he wants to order pizza, I get an alternate meal like a healthier sub. I have fruit around, to eat as snacks. Its not the perfect setup but it is working. Good Luck!

It's easy to blame someone else but like your husband I work late and eat late... supper for me is usually around 8 pm! I still cook for my family and none of them are on a diet! I cook and eat the same things I always did I don't make lowfat meals or starve myself. I walk late in the evenings which makes me sleep so much better! Be it treadmill or around the neighborhood. My advice is this.... walk when you can and use a smaller plate! Sounds dumb I know but while the rest of my family is eating off of a traditional 12 inch plate my plate is half that size! I only fill it once and that is what I have for supper. American's have increased the size of there plates over the years. Have you ever noticed the old antique plates are only 10 inches? Think about it.. if you ate off of a big plate you would fill it. I think you will notice that you will loose weight by walking and drinking water and using that smaller plate. If you eat all diet food you will fail. Your body adjusts to that and when you go back to eating "regular" food you gain weight back! I started my fitness pal late when I had already been on a diet I have currently lost 26lbs and a friend notice and we now walk together. Find a friend to walk with and just do it! If YOU are not ready to commit to a few TINY things in your daily routine it won't work...YOU have to want to do it.... so break out the sneakers and the smaller plate!!

Go ahead and continue making the meals you are now... just add some fruits, vegetables and salad as side dishes. Then fill up 1/2 your plate with salad, 1/4 with fruit/veggies and leave the remaining 1/4 for whatever it is that you prepared for your husband. It is easy to eat the same meals if you add just a few more healthier selections to choose from. Cantaloupe, watermelon, grapes, lettuce, green beans, carrots, apples, bananas, oranges, broccoli... these are all inexpensive things to keep handy that are also quick to prepare and put on the table. Good luck!

Salad and potatoes - Cook the same main meat and veggies for both of you, but serve him a potato and serve yourself a salad - those ones that come in a bag are great for this kind of dining. I have a husband who is a carpenter and works hard all day and is starving by the end of the day, so I know exactly where you're coming from.

I want to blame my husband for me not eating right, but it's not his fault but mine all by myself. Because he chooses to load up on soda's and fast food that's him. I tell him the stuff is not good for him, but that's as far as it goes in one ear and out the other. I decided to think about myself, I decided to think about my health and make a choice to live my life the right way. I get up and go exercise 4 days out of the week, he chooses to stay in bed. 1 day he chooses to exercise and over do it. I don't say anything I keep going! What I am saying is, do this for yourself, get up and get moving and eating right for yourself. You blamed him, now what? It's your turn to make it right. You only have one body and it belongs to you only...what you gonna do now? I don't mean to sound harsh, but I want you to do what's right for you!!!!