Does my family want me to fail????

No, log everything, even the really bad days. Maybe the next time your mom makes reservations somewhere, you politely decline to go with her (even if it is to meet family). When she asks why, calmly explain to her again that it is damaging to your weight loss goals. Maybe she'll get the hint. Otherwise, most restaurant chains have their nutrition facts on their website. If not, at least their menus. Try to pre-plan and find something healthy before you go. Good luck! Hang in there.

Hang in there!!! When confronted with the family at a restaurant (thank goodness for internet) I always check out the restaurant menu before we go to dinner and decide what would be the best choice. That's one place MFP has been really handy. I can input info, and adjust until I get the right combination that keeps me on track. Learning so much, and so far, so good. I don't even pick up the menu when I get there, so as not to tempt me. Good luck and have fun with your family!

I don't know if it is sabotage but I know sometimes my mom makes food that isn't exactly the healthiest and of course I am tempted. It can be difficult. The only advice I can give you is: DON'T GIVE UP!!! You can do this! If the restaurant has a website, try looking at the menu beforehand so you have an idea of what would be the better option to order. Good luck!

u might want to ask food to be prepared a certain way without all the calories. or u could make a suggestion to your mom that u would like to pick the restuarant that is healthy in choice. Don't be afraid to tell the waiter how u want your food cooked. they can do this. hope this helps

No. This is the part where you put your big girl panties on. Not good at restaurants? Start planning now. Going to Outback, check MFP food diary...scope out what you could/should have.

Increase your physical activity if you know you just can't pass up those damn blooming onions (with the yummy dipping sauce too). Suggest taking a walk once you get home to help burn off a bit of dinner.

When you order your food, ask them to box up half. They'll do it. That way, if you clean your plate, you've only technically cleaned half of it.

Be smart. Be strong. And for God's sake, don't give up!!! We got your back, girl!

Can you politely remind her of what she agreed to and then suggest alternatives? Perhaps you could meet family and friends at non-food venues like a park or the museum? Even if you were to go to coffee/tea shops instead of restaurants then you could just have a light beverage while others do their snacking... All the best with your choices!

No do not quit MFP. I agree with the others on here - just log everything good or bad and make the healthiest choices that you can! Good luck and enjoy your time with your mom

Go to www.dwlz.com and click on restaurants. Has most every restaurant you can think of including calorie content so you can make better food choices. Hang in there! My mom is the same way when she is not on a diet with me. It makes things difficult. Stick to your guns though and you will be rewarded!

Stick to it!!! There are some great suggetions already. I log everything that I can, even when going out to eat.

Don't quit.. Talk to your mom. I'm sure she loves you and wants the best for you, just explain to her that it's hard for you to make good choices at restaurants and that you don't want to continue to put yourself in that position. I'm sure that if you tell her that the plans she's made make you feel like she's not respecting your efforts she will understand and stop. Food is such a part of our lives that she probably doesn't even realize what she is doing. Try offering other suggestions of ways to get together so that both your needs and her needs are met.

I often ask myself that same question because I have family members very similar to yours. You tell them you want to eat healthier, and they're trying to shove pie, cake, potatoes, and all the things you love in your face. I am coming to grips with that I have a food addiction. I tell my family that "just a little bite" turns into me eating way more than I should, and yet, this does not stop them from offering. You may have to pull the "If you love me, you wouldn't.." card, but if you don't have the strength to do that or it doesn't help, you need to just plan ahead as to what you are going to eat when you go to these places. So many restaurants have their menus online now. When the bread comes out...look the other way. Texting has been a distraction for me, or just drinking water while the bread or desert is out and everyone is eating. You could also post here. Good luck!

Oh my gosh! My parents want so bad for me to slip up and just eat horribly again with them! I refuse! Don't give up! If anything sit her down and explain to her that it hurts that you're trying to make a healthy choice and she keeps making plans to go to unhealthy places.

I used to ask myself that many times. My husband is naturally skinny and loves all the things that make me gain weight. I love the MFP app on my phone. When we do go out to eat, I always ask for a nutrutional menu. It is great because not only do I see the calories involved, my hubby also looks at the information. Many times he even changes his menu choices once he realizes the meal he wants had 1300 calories alone. Even people who do not struggle with their weight sometimes need to be aware of what they are eating. Just because a person is skinny does not mean that they are healthy. They can have high cholesterol and blood pressure and not be aware of it.

Look up the restaurants before you go and see their menu and plan it out.

This really saved me when my dad came to visit.

The only MFP cliche more annoying to me than "my journey" is "its a life-style change" but it really is true. If you want to keep the weight off once its gone you will need to keep your good habits or you'll be right back where you started again. Your mom will probably be visiting again someday or there will be other circumstances where you're going to eat out and here is your opportunity to start learning how to make it work for you!

I so agree with this and ALL the post - this is a life style change so we have to be able to manage ourselves when we eat out...eating out once a week is not really bad if you plan you meal or box half and ask to have the fat removed before cooking (butter, special sauce etc etc etc)

We ALL know that eating out is what we ALL do from time to time, so enjoy yourself, increase your exercise and drink LOTS of WATER before your meal arrives - try eating a salad or some thing at home before leaving for the restaurant.

Remember your MFP Fam is here for your support - download the app to your phone that way you can better see what your are consuming!

Again ENJOY yourself and you can do that without OVER EATING!

Good luck.

I dont think you mom is trying to hurt your or do anything against you eating better. When someone says that to another person they may not think about it the same way you do. Unless you have explained how your making the choices you are they only go by what they think better choices are. Some people dont think eating mcdonalds is a bad choice for food some do. Try and keep positive your mom is trying to have a good time while she is visiting you dont let your new way of life effect that in a negative way.
I have said this before and will say it now FOOD IS NOT THE ENEMY! Eating out isnt something that is a horrible thing to do. How we view food, what we eat on a regular basis, and how much we eat is what has gotten us here in the first place.
It not like in life you are never going to go out to eat again, have junk food again or something sweet again. You can say you dont make good choices at a restaurant but that is a cop out, there is no time like the present to learn how to choose and MAKE better choices. Like many others have said PLAN PLAN PLAN. Look for the best choices you can. If you cant find out do a longer harder workout to adjust for extra calories. Drink water instead of pop or booze. Split the meal in half right away. Eat salad without dressing or dressing on the side. NO cheese will help cut back on cals. Eat lighter breakfast and lunch to balance the say. Chooce chicken and fish, try and cut carbs where you can ask for steamed veggies as a side.

YOU CAN LEARN< YOU CAN MAKE THE BEST CHOICES and when you cant its ok tomorrow is a new day one meal isnt going to ruin everything you worked for ENJOY YOUR VISIT WITH YOUR MOM THATS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING!!