Does my family want me to fail????

I often ask myself that same question because I have family members very similar to yours. You tell them you want to eat healthier, and they're trying to shove pie, cake, potatoes, and all the things you love in your face. I am coming to grips with that I have a food addiction. I tell my family that "just a little bite" turns into me eating way more than I should, and yet, this does not stop them from offering. You may have to pull the "If you love me, you wouldn't.." card, but if you don't have the strength to do that or it doesn't help, you need to just plan ahead as to what you are going to eat when you go to these places. So many restaurants have their menus online now. When the bread comes out...look the other way. Texting has been a distraction for me, or just drinking water while the bread or desert is out and everyone is eating. You could also post here. Good luck!

Oh my gosh! My parents want so bad for me to slip up and just eat horribly again with them! I refuse! Don't give up! If anything sit her down and explain to her that it hurts that you're trying to make a healthy choice and she keeps making plans to go to unhealthy places.

I used to ask myself that many times. My husband is naturally skinny and loves all the things that make me gain weight. I love the MFP app on my phone. When we do go out to eat, I always ask for a nutrutional menu. It is great because not only do I see the calories involved, my hubby also looks at the information. Many times he even changes his menu choices once he realizes the meal he wants had 1300 calories alone. Even people who do not struggle with their weight sometimes need to be aware of what they are eating. Just because a person is skinny does not mean that they are healthy. They can have high cholesterol and blood pressure and not be aware of it.

Look up the restaurants before you go and see their menu and plan it out.

This really saved me when my dad came to visit.

The only MFP cliche more annoying to me than "my journey" is "its a life-style change" but it really is true. If you want to keep the weight off once its gone you will need to keep your good habits or you'll be right back where you started again. Your mom will probably be visiting again someday or there will be other circumstances where you're going to eat out and here is your opportunity to start learning how to make it work for you!

I so agree with this and ALL the post - this is a life style change so we have to be able to manage ourselves when we eat out...eating out once a week is not really bad if you plan you meal or box half and ask to have the fat removed before cooking (butter, special sauce etc etc etc)

We ALL know that eating out is what we ALL do from time to time, so enjoy yourself, increase your exercise and drink LOTS of WATER before your meal arrives - try eating a salad or some thing at home before leaving for the restaurant.

Remember your MFP Fam is here for your support - download the app to your phone that way you can better see what your are consuming!

Again ENJOY yourself and you can do that without OVER EATING!

Good luck.

I dont think you mom is trying to hurt your or do anything against you eating better. When someone says that to another person they may not think about it the same way you do. Unless you have explained how your making the choices you are they only go by what they think better choices are. Some people dont think eating mcdonalds is a bad choice for food some do. Try and keep positive your mom is trying to have a good time while she is visiting you dont let your new way of life effect that in a negative way.
I have said this before and will say it now FOOD IS NOT THE ENEMY! Eating out isnt something that is a horrible thing to do. How we view food, what we eat on a regular basis, and how much we eat is what has gotten us here in the first place.
It not like in life you are never going to go out to eat again, have junk food again or something sweet again. You can say you dont make good choices at a restaurant but that is a cop out, there is no time like the present to learn how to choose and MAKE better choices. Like many others have said PLAN PLAN PLAN. Look for the best choices you can. If you cant find out do a longer harder workout to adjust for extra calories. Drink water instead of pop or booze. Split the meal in half right away. Eat salad without dressing or dressing on the side. NO cheese will help cut back on cals. Eat lighter breakfast and lunch to balance the say. Chooce chicken and fish, try and cut carbs where you can ask for steamed veggies as a side.

YOU CAN LEARN< YOU CAN MAKE THE BEST CHOICES and when you cant its ok tomorrow is a new day one meal isnt going to ruin everything you worked for ENJOY YOUR VISIT WITH YOUR MOM THATS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING!!

I know what you mean....my mom is the exact same way and she's so thin she's never worried about food.
My parents eat out all the time and live right around the corner...my husband often works through dinner and they are always calling and asking me to go to dinner with them. Just tonight I was over there swiming and I caught them feeding my kids hot dogs and chinese food leftovers for dinner!
Anyways, I found a GREAT website DWLZ.com it's "Dottie's weight loss zone" and she has a ton of restaurant menus broken down (very simply) and even includes Weight Watcher points. It's the best way to know exactly what you're eating to continue logging it.
Good Luck!

Look up the restaurants before you go and see their menu and plan it out.

This really saved me when my dad came to visit.

The only MFP cliche more annoying to me than "my journey" is "its a life-style change" but it really is true. If you want to keep the weight off once its gone you will need to keep your good habits or you'll be right back where you started again. Your mom will probably be visiting again someday or there will be other circumstances where you're going to eat out and here is your opportunity to start learning how to make it work for you!

I agree with all the post - this is a life-style change, so we all must learned to manage ourselves when eating out. Let's face it, eating out is what we do, and doing it once a week can be fine, if we make healthier choices. I agree review the menue before leaving, box 1/2, asked them to cook without adding the butter, special sauces etc etc etc.

Remember you MFP Fam is here for you...don't give up and remember how you got here! Increase your exercise for the
week(s) that you will be eating out, EAT some thing HEALTHY prior to arrive at the restaurant and once there DRINK LOTS OF WATER before the meal arrives.

Don't hold yourslef hostage, relax and know you can manage yourself, and if you slip up, then be prepared the next day to get back on track. Heck we all trip up even when we don't eat out...(smile)

You can do this! :flowerforyou:

To echo everyone else...MFP will actually provide you with support during these tough times. Everyone has a story and, believe it or not, there will be people in your same--or similar--situations.

Try to increase your activity if you know you'll be splurging those weeks. At the very least, you won't put on any weight. Then you can get back on your regular fitness plan when the weeks are over.

Best of luck!

No don't quit. See if you can find the menu's online and plan your meals that way.

This is a great idea! I would go online to the restaurant's menu, pick out what I wanted before I went that way when they bring you the menu just hand it back and not look at it. This way you already know what you want and you can't be persuaded to change your mind. I've done this several times and have saved me several extra days of working out.

And for sure DON'T GIVE UP! This is just a test and we all know you can pass it!