Relationships and Weight Loss?

Hahaha ohh man.

So I lost about 50lbs in 2014, but eventually I stopped being so vigorous with my logging at Christmas time (went on a vacation, was lenient because it was the holidays, and then New Year, etc etc). Started a new relationship in January andddd gained 30lbs back between then and just recently.

The problem was a bunch of things, starting with a really crappy harassment situation at work, coupled with a move to a whole different city, and then going out on dates and trying all the restaurants in my new town with my new SO. We enabled each other to indulge really really often.

BUT I'm getting back down to business now because my confidence is the lowest it's been since I first started using MFP, and even though I'm with someone, I want to feel and look good for me AND for him. And thankfully he's really supportive, and weighs things out for me whenever he cooks, tries not to snack when I can't, etc. If he weren't, I know it would be much harder.

Only you care about yourself. Other people don't care about your weight loss. If they want you, they only want you to go out and eat with them, which is not exactly helping your wt loss.

I lost so much weight and got to a size 2 with my ex. In my current relationship, I've gained almost 40 lbs. I completely believe relationships matter.

I find that I lose weight and try to stay in shape when I'm happy in my relationship. But I eat my emotions. So being in a destructive relationship for a year, I gained 20 lbs. out of the relationship now and I'm aleady down 4.5 lbs! I don't know that relationships matter, but how you feel does!!

my relationship with my ex was likely a factor in my weight gain. I lost my job and went on EI about 2 weeks before he injured himself and had to go on medical EI so for months we just sat around all day every day watching tv or him playing video games while I did whatever on my computer. it was winter so we weren't doing a whole lot. plus him being a pretty typical guy, was happy to eat pizza every day and we were always at his place so I ate whatever he made or ordered. that was before I started using this site and watching what I was eating and I gained those 30 pounds real fast lol. it really is all about choices though because my current partner doesn't work or do much of anything besides being a parent of a toddler about half the week but because I choose to watch my calorie intake and go to the gym, I'm losing the weight in spite of being sedentary and dating someone who's equally sedentary.

dbkyser wrote: »

How much has relationships contributed to your weight loss success or failure.
I think relationships can play a huge part in someones health and fitness, whether it be a good or bad relationship experience.

Well, I want to stay healthy and alive to enjoy my life to the fullest with my family so I guess there is that.

I definitely think relationships can affect weight loss/gain if you let it. I'm a prime example. Before my boyfriend moved in last year I was doing great. I got down to my lowest weight ever since high school (158), then he moved in and my healthy eating pretty much went down the drain and I stopped walking as much. Not to mention we would eat out more (he loves Chinese buffets and meals that are generally really high in calories). Before I knew it, this year I was back up to 185. My boyfriend doesn't really care much about his weight. He can eat all day long and still maintain a weight of 205 lbs and he's 6'0". It was a wake up call for me that I couldn't live like that and I had to do what was best for me, even though I would hear the generic "I love you just the way you look". He's supportive, but in the beginning he didn't understand why I wanted to lose weight. Now he understands and even admitted that my confidence was much higher when I weighed less. A few times a week I'll make meals that he'll eat, but I can eat, too. Though generally I'll make my dinner and he'll come home and eat what he wants. I simply make my routine a priority now.

Works out great with my current gf. We both are working on losing fat and being active. We go on runs and walks together, have signed up and participated in 5K/10K's as a couple as well. She's a bit faster than me and has a lot less to lose than I do, but I am slowly catching up. We also work on eating healthier and watch our calories.

I know I put on quite a bit of weight being with DH. I was very comfortable in my relationship and didn't worry about keeping up appearances. Unfortunately, the extra weight was not good for my health. My husband was very supportive when I started my journey. He has been very encouraging. Around mid November, he decided he wanted to work to become healthier as well. He is not overweight, but wanted to tone up and build some muscle. Although your goals are not the same, I love having a workout partner. We have worked on building up our home gym and we set aside a 90 min block each night to go down there together and workout. We both wear our own headphones and listen to our own music, but having him down there is great! I was beginning to lose motivation in November and had a 7 week span where the weight was not budging - having him start exercising with me helped me gain my motivation back!

Two main factors caused a 30ish lb gain over five years. One was university and the other was becoming comfortable with my partner. He doesn't have the best eating habits (he can not eat at all at work some days!) so I would make sure he got a good dinner at night, which meant me as well even though I was at home eating during the day if not at University!

We are getting married in August and mid-January this year I finally had my moment that it was time to stop being unhappy with this extra weight and to get rid of it. I'm now down almost 20lbs with another 20 or so to go. Maybe a few more after that as I have never been 'thin' in my whole life so I'm not sure what weight would look good on me!

My partner has been supportive of me and is proud. He still shares in the dinners I make, all I do is make sure my portion size is appropriate to me

As others have said, relationships can affect activity levels and food choices, but it still comes down to inner-motivation.

I have always had an interest in fitness during relationships, but it also meant eating disorders in my teens and early twenties. In those relationships, only one boyfriend didn't care much about his appearance (although towards the end, he would work out with me). Ironically, it was this boyfriend that my disordered eating was the most out of control.

With my husband now, we workout together, including weight lifting, and mostly eat the same meals. He is very supportive of the fact that I do this to be healthy and fit instead of just skinny.

My wife and I are both into health and fitness and nutrition so things tend to go pretty smoothly. We're both lean, healthy, and fit people and enjoy doing those things that keep us that way.

I was at my goal weight when I met my husband. I worked out regularly and ate a bizarre diet of chips with hummus and fruit and cheese. Started out maintaining and he lost 20 lbs from my healthy cooking. A year later I went through some issues and the workouts dwindled, the quick foods increased as did my weight. Went on medication I knew would make me gain but for sanity's sake I took it. 50 pounds up a year later. Husband up 30. I had to get my life and my weight under control. Husband was completely supportive as I went to weigh watchers where I am a lifetime member, lost 80 lbs in the late 90s and became a leader. Didn't work for me this time, so after trying on my own with little success I went to a medical weight loss program. Turned out I'm insulin resistant and need to eat low carb in order to lose weight. Who knew? Changed my diet. Food in the house is different now. There are carbs here for my husband but I don't eat them and there are no longer starches served at dinner. He supports me 100% in my efforts in diet and even more in exercise. He's even thinking of exercising himself.