You can't eat that!

ummijaaz560 · May 2016

So many people actually believe that one must starve themselves while trying to lose weight. Yesterday I made a coffee crumb cake that was on the counter cooling. My sister in law comes by and smells the cinnamon glory wafting through the house.
She asks what's that delicious smell? I said I made a coffee crumb cake and I can't wait to taste it. "Oh did you give up already? Because you can't eat that!
Why can't I? Because you're on a diet right? I'm fine don't worry I say, not feeling like explaining it's accounted for because it's not like she'll believe me. Smh, I purposely took a giant bite and watched her head explode like those jet commercials

Is there a way you explain to ppl I don't have to starve and can eat what I want within my calories? Or do you just ignore it?

Rocknut53 · May 2016

That's why I don't tell people I'm doing this. When they notice I've lost they always ask, "how much?" and I reply, "a few pounds."

booksandchocolate12 · May 2016

I just ignore it. It doesn't matter to me what other people do or believe.

If people get pushy with me, I'll push back, but that doesn't happen that often.

lizzy_satellite · May 2016

You already said it - "I don't have to starve and can eat what I want within my calories". If people can't wrap their heads around that simple statement, it's their issue!

ummijaaz560 · May 2016

I haven't directly said I'm dieting to anyone. They all have noticed my weight loss, or have seen my new gym equipment set up in my dining room.
And for goodness sakes don't I dare pass on a meal from the food pushers. The "are you on a diet" questions start flying.

shabaity · May 2016

Food pushers make me so glad that most of my family can't cook. The only ones who would notice are my co workers and most just brush it off as being tired of smelling the food we make

StrongAndHealthyMommy · May 2016

I would of done the same. Usually I take a little extra and say uummmmm yummy yummy. And take another bite and laugh

Maxematics · May 2016

Unfortunately most people losing weight or trying to be fit in general will hear this from time to time. I'm 5'3.5" and 110 pounds. A certain coworker reminds me I need to keep a "womanly" figure constantly. Whenever there is cake at work, she will say "Oh, but YOU don't/can't eat stuff like THAT!" and my response is always "Oh, I can/do and I will!" as I cut a nice sized piece and eat it. I try to be civil to keep the peace, but sometimes it's annoying. I think subconsciously certain people want to believe that deprivation is the only way to be successful with regard to weight loss/physical health. That way they don't have to take responsibility for their own shortcomings while simultaneously trying to instill guilt in others to feel better about themselves.

ummijaaz560 · May 2016

It's funny how no one ever told me what I couldn't eat when my meal plate was enough for 3 people. No one gave a crap.

kommodevaran · May 2016

synacious wrote: »

Unfortunately most people losing weight or trying to be fit in general will hear this from time to time. I'm 5'3.5" and 110 pounds. A certain coworker reminds me I need to keep a "womanly" figure constantly. Whenever there is cake at work, she will say "Oh, but YOU don't/can't eat stuff like THAT!" and my response is always "Oh, I can/do and I will!" as I cut a nice sized piece and eat it. I try to be civil to keep the peace, but sometimes it's annoying. I think subconsciously certain people want to believe that deprivation is the only way to be successful with regard to weight loss/physical health. That way they don't have to take responsibility for their own shortcomings while simultaneously trying to instill guilt in others to feel better about themselves.

I truly believed that thin people never eat cake. They just pose with cake. It's just that when I eat cake, I eat the whole cake, and I'll eat cake every day, and I'll also eat large amounts of chips, ice cream and chocolate. Eating lots of sweets makes me lethargic. Thin people don't usually eat the whole cake, and when they eat chips, they don't also eat lots of ice cream, candy and chips, at least not without moving more, a lot more, or skipping meals, to compensate.

For me, it was just a disconnect. At last understanding dosage and frequency and totals, I have no trouble keeping to my calorie goal (most of the time).

AspenDan · May 2016

I get that crap all the time at work..people see me eating "clean" foods so often that when I do have mac n cheese or reeces or whatever, they give me sht, and say I'm being bad..dude, back off, I lost this weight by myself, and I don't need your opinions lol.

arniedog74 · May 2016

I never tell anyone what I'm doing as far as trying to lose weight. No one thinks I need to lose. It's not up to them. I may not be terribly over weight, but I am uncomfortable with myself. So, I just do what I want and keep my mouth shut. They notice that I don't eat all the junk that is brought into work. But, they have no idea I'm actually trying to lose weight. I also don't say anything, because I always have the struggle of giving up. If they don't know I'm trying, they can't give me crap when I quit.

lemonychild · May 2016

Lol their eyes almost bulging out when they see me with ice cream everyday ...

upoffthemat · May 2016

I have stopped caring what others think about my food choices. I used to binge and hide what I ate from people all the time, now I just eat what I choose to eat. For the most part people are actually more concerned about having food I will eat available and when I tell them I will manage they seem surprised.

PaulaWallaDingDong · May 2016

ummijaaz560 wrote: »

[snip]

"Oh did you give up already?"

[snip]

That right there is worthy of a busted lip. (just because I'm a pacifist, it doesn't mean I don't feel rage.)

ummijaaz560 · May 2016

PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »

ummijaaz560 wrote: »

[snip]

"Oh did you give up already?"

[snip]

That right there is worthy of a busted lip. (just because I'm a pacifist, it doesn't mean I don't feel rage.)

I can't even with that shade she tried to throw in!
I'm going to let her believe I've given up until she sees me at goal.

STEVE142142 · May 2016

My opinion that's why diets don't work. Diets have a negative connotation and you're constantly sacrificing something you enjoy. I've been on diets before and had a miserable time and that's why I failed.

What I've begun is a lifestyle change we are on educating myself on how much and what to eat.
More than anything I've become accountable to myself because I don't want to go back.

Make a long story short I went on vacation ate too much drink too much one month later I'm down 10 and a half pounds from before I went on vacation. Enjoy the crumb cake cuz I've been enjoyed it myself on this journey everything in moderation.

newheavensearth · May 2016

No one has ever said that to me because I eat almost whatever I want but they still see me losing or maintaining. They also know that I exercise like a mad woman, so the assumption is that I burn off everything I eat, therefore I get to eat what I want. Totally not true. If it's a special occasion, I do extra before and after to earn some wiggle room. If it's a treat, I plan for it. If it's a suprise treat and I really want it, I cut back elsewhere.

All my friends are into juicing and they can't wrap their heads around permanent weight loss being a lifestyle change. They think I'm crazy for still doing this instead of just crash dieting for swimsuit season and that I'm punishing myself. This is how it is for me, I'm used to it, and I've accepted that this does not have to be punishment and deprivation. I'd rather eat 1300 calories of good food than drink 1300 calories of green juice and be crabby.

nuttynanners · May 2016

My boyfriend knows not to question me. He knows that I carefully consider what I eat.

My friends, however, don't have a clue. When they ask me why I'm not getting a 3am food truck sandwich with them, I just say "No thanks, I'm good"... because otherwise I'd sound judgemental.

miss_ek · May 2016

I went through the same thing with my weight loss journey and simply I make it clear. you can eat WHATEVER you want its HOW Much you eat.

You can't eat that!

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