I am so upset, this friend from church is having a wedding and they have deleted me from Facebook an

Ethical communication is the way to go. I'd ask a friend if they deleted me why and that I heard that they were getting married and I didn't get an invite and ask why that was. I'd also be open to accepting their answer, some friendships aren't meant to last forever, and I've learned I can't hold onto someone who doesn't want to be in my life. If I did something that they shared with me that I didn't realize was an error on my part in the friendship, I'd own it and apologize. If I had done something intentional to harm them I'd own up to it and apologize.

Also if I wasn't invited to a wedding I wouldn't crash it, a wedding between two people isn't about me, and it would be selfish to butt my way into something I wasn't invited to, the only exceptions would be unless I'm the bride

(((HUGS))))
Not for OP, for Betty Vallencourt, who is an innocent bystander in this train wreck and who does not deserve to be dragged into this.
Walk away, Betty.

Ok so this friend who deleted you is from church? And already "judging" you for something that hasn't given you the opportunity to explain yourself? What kind of church is that? I wouldn't care if I wasn't invited and got deleted, it would tell me right there and there that's not a true friend to keep. Move on!

Op i think you should show up to this wedding in a Halloween costume, possibly Spiderman and run up to the alter and kiss the groom. Also don't forget to bring a gift !

Just grow break up.

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I suspect it may be because of a falling out I had with her sister where she yelled at me for wanting to crash this other mutual friends wedding a few years ago. Would it be rude to just ask why I wasn't invited and make sure it wasn't because of this and she hates me?

You have a reputation for crashing weddings and going where you are not invited. Obviously they want to keep the guest list smaller and are trying hard to keep known crashers in the dark so they don't have to pay for unwanted guests. Let it be. Why is it so important that you go to everyone's wedding anyway?

I agree with earlnabby. This may be a family wedding; and with maybe a few extremely close friends, too. Accept the fact that you were deleted from FB and not invited and stop trying to make excuses. Don't crash their day . . . you will only make an @$$ of yourself. FB is a 'social networking site' that is 'full of drama' and those who make it drama and keep things stirred up by the things they post or the things others post to their remarks. I'd suggest, first getting off FB; and after the wedding to 'congratulate' the couple on their nuptials and leave it be; maybe deleting her as a friend on FB so that you don't constantly have the reminder of what appears to be a misunderstanding or oversight. Just let it be - don't ruin their day. You'll end up regretting crashing the wedding and definitely get that reputation as a 'party/wedding crasher'. The one who suggested that you turn up in a Halloween costume is being as petty as you are sounding. Of course, you are going to do what you please; much like a family member of mine. She reacts, then wonders why others are mad at her. One reason I got off FB was so that I did not have to deal with the drama. She had blocked me; but, I had no way to answer or remark back to her; and her posts continued coming up on my Wall - when I turned around and blocked her - I no longer had to see her remarks.

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GRITSandSLUTS wrote: »

earlnabby wrote: »

rerebaba wrote: »

I suspect it may be because of a falling out I had with her sister where she yelled at me for wanting to crash this other mutual friends wedding a few years ago. Would it be rude to just ask why I wasn't invited and make sure it wasn't because of this and she hates me?

You have a reputation for crashing weddings and going where you are not invited. Obviously they want to keep the guest list smaller and are trying hard to keep known crashers in the dark so they don't have to pay for unwanted guests. Let it be. Why is it so important that you go to everyone's wedding anyway?

I agree with earlnabby. This may be a family wedding; and with maybe a few extremely close friends, too. Accept the fact that you were deleted from FB and not invited and stop trying to make excuses. Don't crash their day . . . you will only make an @$$ of yourself. FB is a 'social networking site' that is 'full of drama' and those who make it drama and keep things stirred up by the things they post or the things others post to their remarks. I'd suggest, first getting off FB; and after the wedding to 'congratulate' the couple on their nuptials and leave it be; maybe deleting her as a friend on FB so that you don't constantly have the reminder of what appears to be a misunderstanding or oversight. Just let it be - don't ruin their day. You'll end up regretting crashing the wedding and definitely get that reputation as a 'party/wedding crasher'. The one who suggested that you turn up in a Halloween costume is being as petty as you are sounding. Of course, you are going to do what you please; much like a family member of mine. She reacts, then wonders why others are mad at her. One reason I got off FB was so that I did not have to deal with the drama. She had blocked me; but, I had no way to answer or remark back to her; and her posts continued coming up on my Wall - when I turned around and blocked her - I no longer had to see her remarks.

Clearly i was joking about anyone running into a wedding dressed as Spiderman. This op is likely trolling. There was another similar thread removed because it was obviously a troll thread then this one pops up.....so just wanted to clarify that i would never seriously advise anyone to dress as Spiderman for a wedding especially if they weren't even invited

Walking to my closet, confused, to hang up my Spider-Man costume. When will I learn to ignore great-sounding internet advice? It's always too good to be true. Betty would understand.

I don't use facebook, never have, likely never will. All I hear on here most times about it is drama related. If you didn't have facebook you wouldn't be involved in this whole crazy drama. You wouldn't be worried about who said what, did what, you wouldn't know and would likely not care if you did know.

I say let it go girl! If this is one of your biggest concerns in life at the moment which is sounds like... move on, get a hobby, go for a run, delete facebook before you do any of those things listed. Do a meal plan for the week on MFP, check out some new fun recipes and do some weekly cooking with them today for the week.

Facebook = way way too much drama for any one person, relationships that aren't real, broken relationships, unhealthy and dishonesty. You sound a bit like a drama person... I don't know why you weren't invited, but you weren't... so time to move on from.
THE END!

Let it all go............seriously if you weren't invited there was reason and life is NOT always about US once I learned that life was much simpler. Guessing about the whys is more brain work than is worth. Why do you want to go to the wedding of someone that doesn't want you as a friend or at their wedding. I don't know your age, I'm guessing a big on the younger side. Life does get harder than this... so save some energy for those times. I don't mean that snarky or rude but seriously..... get off Facebook if it's all bothering you that much!

Some ppl handle facebook fine and enjoy it for various reasons... some take it so seriously and live and breathe by it. I think perhaps you're a person that may benefit by deleting it for awhile and living life in real time without worrying about everyone elses life.

Yes I said I'm not a facebook user, but a thread like this involving facebook drama happens on here quite often ask anyone on here.

Plan an activity the day of the wedding that doesn't involve any of parties that have mystified you or hurt your feelings.. go to the park, read a book, head out of town for the weekend, try a new class at the gym, take your dog for a walk. Something, anything that will get you so you're not still wondering at that point and obsessing about 'why me'.

Likely? It's not all about you! What someone else thinks of us is NOT our business!

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Why would you bump this zombie thread????

reference, dear