If you had a chance for a "do-over" in life, what would you do differently?

Goldsby318
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If you had a chance for a "do-over" in life, what would you do differently?
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  • JustMissTracy
    JustMissTracy Posts: 6,338 Member
    I'd say skip the first hub too, but without that, there'd be no kids....so not that...I'd say my do-over would be a blanket statement like "Don't trust everyone so much, especially when they've already shown you they cant be trusted!" :s
  • sunnybeaches105
    sunnybeaches105 Posts: 2,831 Member
    I made the decisions I did under the pressure of, and with the best knowledge available to me at, that time. My mistakes sheered off quite a bit of arrogance, beat me down, forced me to grow, made me stronger, made me more empathetic and compassionate to others, and turned me into the man I am today. I wouldn't change a damned thing.
  • DragonShoe_GCole
    DragonShoe_GCole Posts: 137 Member
    I would have definitely started Martial Arts (especially boxing, kickboxing & wrestling) at a MUCH earlier age; along with bodybuilding
  • Goldsby318
    Goldsby318 Posts: 2,150 Member
    JustMissTracy wrote: »
    I'd say skip the first hub too, but without that, there'd be no kids....so not that...I'd say my do-over would be a blanket statement like "Don't trust everyone so much, especially when they've already shown you they cant be trusted!" :s

    I agree completely.
  • _John_
    _John_ Posts: 8,646 Member
    I feel blessed to be overall happy with who I am and the decisions I made to get here.

    I'm also lucky and got to say my peace to all my relatives who passed away while they were still alive and coherent and as much the person that meant so much to me as at any point in their lives.

    I might would stress a little bit less about some of the people and forces that tried to alter who I was, and pay attention more to certain things so I could be a better support to some of my friends and family.

    But overall, I'm good.
  • IrmaC94
    IrmaC94 Posts: 39 Member
    My marriage, I would have fought harder for it to work. My kids have tremendously suffered the consequences of two adults who are unable to successfully co-parent.
  • gcibsthom
    gcibsthom Posts: 30,145 Member
    I would never have remarried...
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  • finny11122
    finny11122 Posts: 8,436 Member
    It would be great to change some things , but alot of the bad choices were learning curves and turned me into the great person i am today.
  • ew_david
    ew_david Posts: 3,473 Member
    I would go back to my early twenties self and start lifting instead of cardio-ing and starving myself to death.
  • tryingtolive1
    tryingtolive1 Posts: 245 Member
    Never fall in love.
  • Aine8046
    Aine8046 Posts: 2,122 Member
    edited May 2016
    I'd do grad school right after my undergrad. And in general took my studies much more seriously... I could've been where I am now 10 years ago - unbelievable how much time I lost...
  • abrunner1
    abrunner1 Posts: 5 Member
    loved myself earlier in life
  • Lucy1752
    Lucy1752 Posts: 499 Member
    Not conformed to what was expected when it wasn't what I truly wanted or believed.
  • TurnuptheACDC
    TurnuptheACDC Posts: 318 Member
    I wouldn't have stayed together with a specific Marine for almost 9 years
  • Luke_I_am_your_spotter
    Luke_I_am_your_spotter Posts: 4,179 Member
    wouldn't have gone to law school.
  • pfreeme
    pfreeme Posts: 42 Member
    Accepted myself and others, believe in myself and stopped trying to be who I thought they wanted. Not fear failure, Waste of energy.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Nothing. Every road taken, rough or smooth, and every turn taken, wrong or right, led me to this point in my life. This is where I want to be, with the family and friends I have. We are products of our experiences. Good and bad.
  • gfjazz
    gfjazz Posts: 285 Member
    Not have children
  • actualbettycrocker
    actualbettycrocker Posts: 195 Member
    Not get lost in drinking. Not get drunk the night I was assaulted. Not let my drinking get worse after that. Not gain weight when I finally moved away from home to cope with my depression. Not stop going to therapy. Not stop my antidepressants. Not stay in a relationship with an abusive man for two years. Not almost lose my relationship with my parents. Not let my mother be afraid that I wouldn't be alive the next she woke up.
  • T0M_K
    T0M_K Posts: 7,526 Member
    actualbettycrocker wrote: »
    Not get lost in drinking. Not get drunk the night I was assaulted. Not let my drinking get worse after that. Not gain weight when I finally moved away from home to cope with my depression. Not stop going to therapy. Not stop my antidepressants. Not stay in a relationship with an abusive man for two years. Not almost lose my relationship with my parents. Not let my mother be afraid that I wouldn't be alive the next she woke up.

    awwww honey! *hugs* stop doing the not things and start doing the things you'd do over and over. <3 there IS good inside you! for sure.
  • Peter_Brady
    Peter_Brady Posts: 3,750 Member
    actualbettycrocker wrote: »
    Not get lost in drinking. Not get drunk the night I was assaulted. Not let my drinking get worse after that. Not gain weight when I finally moved away from home to cope with my depression. Not stop going to therapy. Not stop my antidepressants. Not stay in a relationship with an abusive man for two years. Not almost lose my relationship with my parents. Not let my mother be afraid that I wouldn't be alive the next she woke up.

    So much of this could be things my niece would say :'(

    Hope your life is on a better path now
  • JustMissTracy
    JustMissTracy Posts: 6,338 Member
    actualbettycrocker wrote: »
    Not get lost in drinking. Not get drunk the night I was assaulted. Not let my drinking get worse after that. Not gain weight when I finally moved away from home to cope with my depression. Not stop going to therapy. Not stop my antidepressants. Not stay in a relationship with an abusive man for two years. Not almost lose my relationship with my parents. Not let my mother be afraid that I wouldn't be alive the next she woke up.

    I'm so sorry you went through all that, my heart hurts for you xoxo...please feel free to add me if you feel you need a "friend" to lean on.
  • JoelleAnn78
    JoelleAnn78 Posts: 1,492 Member
    I can honestly say I wouldn't change a thing. My life is 100% amazing and beautiful and fulfilling now. Any changes, no matter how small, in the years leading up to that could have lead to something different. Don't wish for changes in past behaviors. Make changes in your current behaviors if you are unhappy.
  • lynn1982
    lynn1982 Posts: 1,439 Member
    Not dropped out of teacher's college for a PhD in history...
  • KassiesJourney
    KassiesJourney Posts: 306 Member
    Go back to Freshman year of highschool and do it all right. Study hard, get good grades, go to a good college, get a good job, start losing weight the right way then. But I also have to remember that if things were different my life wouldn't be what it is now. I probably wouldn't have learned what I did to make it. I wouldn't have fallen in love with my fiancé. I wouldn't have bought our own home.

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