Lost 13lbs since January but no one notices!

paperpudding wrote: »

OP if you read through this forum you will see other threads of people complaining that everyone is commenting on their weight loss and it is none of their business.
Or people say 'you've lost weight, you look great' and they are offended because it implied they didnt look great before.

Little wonder most people think it best to just say nothing.

I agree with this.
You also have to be careful as someone could be ill and that's why losing weight

I've lost 13lb in the last month and no one's commented. I think because i was only 140lb to start with it isnt that much of a drastic change but i can see differences in my before pictures to now and I feel loads better which is what really counts.
Your friends also might not feed comfortable saying perhaps those who know you're dieting would but others might be worried of offending. Potentially omg you look great did you lose weight could be taken as rude by some people.
Dont worry about what others think so long as youre pleased with your progress

All the drama...I usually stick with "you look great!" unless the person is someone I know well who has told me they are working on losing weight.

And, yes, you have to do it for yourself. But I still think that it's pretty normal to want the people who know you to notice.

OP, go shopping woman. Get clothes that fit and flatter you now.

I can relate a bit OP- I'm also 50, dropped 20 pounds and nobody said a word to me. I'm a lot taller than you so perhaps it was somewhat less noticeable, but I felt like I was on top of the world- fitting my clothes better and feeling very fit. At first it kind of made me a little sad that even family and close friends said nothing. I wasn't sure why. Maybe because they didn't want to appear rude? Was it my age? I don't know. But then I came to the conclusion that it didn't matter anyways. I did it for me, not them. It's been a few months that I've been at this new (old) weight now and I am content. Go get a new pair of dark jeans or something and you'll feel fine!

mou_254 wrote: »

I lost 34 lbs, and I'm a 23 year old woman and people still don't notice!

You're looking great too, mou.

I would never comment on someone's weight, so I wouldn't let it bother you. Perhaps they feel the same way! What is important is how you feel about your loss. I personally hate it when someone brings it up to me, but I get embarrassed easily.

There have been three people in my life that have lost significant amounts of weight after a serious medical problem. My coworker lost 100lbs after his cancer came back. My Mother in law just lost 50lbs last year after having her gall bladder removed and having to change her diet,and she really wasn't that big to begin with. My grandmother lost a ton of weight after going through chemo for colon cancer.

So, I don't bring it up unless we're talking about it and it's pretty clear that the loss is intentional and there isn't an underlying reason for it.

Besides, people notice. They're just not going to mention anything to you before you say something celebratory to them.

keepupwithjack wrote: »

I feel your pain. My hubby and I are both losing weight. He has lost almost 35. I've lost 28. Everyone I know is telling me how great he looks. Very few people have noticed my weight loss.

I suspect they have noticed but the lack of saying something has more to do either how commenting on women's weight is a more sensitive and taboo topic than commenting on men's.

I lost 15 kg (33 lbs) before anyone seemed to notice ... and then it was one person in the office who very hesitantly came up to me and asked me if I'd lost some weight.

Then I went away on holiday for almost a month, and when I returned from that ... after I'd been out of sight for a while ... that's when a few others noticed and the comments began.

At first, I didn't mind the comments ... but some were not very complimentary. When you lose weight, for some reason that opens the door for every type of comment. And then they start to get really repetitive. I can't tell you the number of times I've been told, "Don't lose too much weight!"

It has been a year since the commenting started and I've been the same weight for the last 6 months now (25 kg/55 lbs lost in total). Fortunately most of the commenting has stopped. People are finally starting to see my weight as I see it ... normal. But comments do persist. Just the other week, while carrying a glass of water out of the kitchen, someone said to me, "Are you STILL on that diet??"

Ten pounds is a dress size, so yes, time to pick up a few new pieces, at least to get you through to your next weight loss break through! Also, a smaller size doesn't necessarily mean it's "tight". You may be used to looser, baggy clothes, and it may feel weird at first to actually feel the clothing skimming your body. However, that is the most flattering, and nothing beats beautifully tailored clothes to accentuate your new figure! NOW let's see who is the "invisible middle aged woman!"