People who change when you lose weight

thats very sad to read. you should be so proud of what you have acheived.

The reason they are saying this is pure jealousy. You look fantastic and they must just be stuck in a rut. Let them make comments at the end of the day, your the one who knows how much work you have had to put in and you will reap the rewards )

I'm sorry you're surrounded by so much negativity. I guess all you can do is ignore them and be happy with yourself.

Isn't it sad when people don't support our efforts. Just remember people are probably jelous! You've done really well don't let others spoil it for u

Isn't it sad when people don't support our efforts. Just remember people are probably jelous! You've done really well don't let others spoil it for u

Completely understand! I had all the support in the world when I began my journey and after the weight and inches started to come off and I started to feel more self-confident and good about my body people started making comments on how much I ate (or didn't eat) what i was (or wasn't eating) and how I am obsessed with my weight. Sometimes I just want to scream that I'm not the unhealthy one, they are. instead I just let it roll off my back and know that I started this journey for myself, not for them.

They be sippin on that HATERade hahaha dont sweat them, they are probably jealous that they dont look as awesome as you

Tell them straight up "Hey, I don't comment when I see you eating stuff that I don't, so why do you think it's okay to comment on what I eat."

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be proud of the weight you have lost,just ask them if they have a problem with it and to get a life
.i started my diet yesterday and i will be over the moon when i loose that amount.

Also well done on your weight loss it's amazing x

Insecure, negative, jealous people exist and will always come against those of us who are succeeding at something. Understand that you are probably looking very beautiful, your hard work is paying off, and the lazy, unmotivated people around you are a bit jealous. They will steal your joy IF YOU LET THEM. The key is not to let them. How?
You could realize that they ARE insecure and pity them. You could come up with some quick comebacks (make a light joke of it all-poke some fun at them and at yourself-very healthy) such as "Yeah, starvation's not where it's at" or "I've decided there is no future in unhealthy habits" or "Yes, I an eating today-thought I'd copy you for a change" or "Way to be discouraging, guys" or sarcastic version "Way to be encouraging, guys"etc.
They may not really get how negative and discouraging they are.
My daughter has learned to say to me "That's not encourging" if I slip up in the area of negativity. I think it great of her-strong, intelligent, and brave.
Best Wishes.

I understand! I have MS and some other health issues. I started my health journey last yr. I lost about 25lbs. before I found this site. I got new clothes b/c the old ones were too big. My one co worker critiques my clothing, my lunch, my hair...etc. She is not a happy person. She struggles w/ her weight and her self esteem. However, she is not willing to 'give up' what she thinks she deserves to accomplish healthy goals (meaning..'I had a rough day, I deserve that piece of cake...or....to lay on the couch and do nothing..)

After a long day at work, I will go home and force myself to do cardio. Yes, I did say 'force'. Cardio is the last thing I want to do after a full day of work. But when I finish w/ the cardio, I am in such a better place mentally as well as physically!

Yoga is my best friend. I love practicing yoga!
My family and friends think I am nuts but I can move better and I do not get winded.
I ask you...who is 'nuts'?????

Remember, this is your gift to yourself! I will continue to eat right, exercise and just have fun for ME...to hell w/ the nay sayers!

You are doing great. This is for you! ((((HUGS))))

I have to share something not related to health choices, but very much related to weight loss. My mom worked in an office full of busybody know it alls who couldn't do their share of work but had all the time in the world to contemplate and then comment on my mom's weight loss.

This has reaaally tainted my perspective when it comes to negative/stupid comments regarding weight loss and I am afraid I am not very kind in response.

You see my mom got very very sick. She had been struggling with trying to lose weightfor all of my known memory of her. My dad would be oh so helpful by making fun of her when she tried to exercise, and I'm afraid that until I was old enough to understand that this was wrong, I followed suit as did my brother.

Well, mom started feeling nausious all of the time. she had successfully been cleared of having had breast cancer and declared cancer free for over 5 years when she lost her voice and started feeling pukey. It progressed to not being able to keep down food at all and finding food she used to love tasting nasty to her. At first she was happy at loosing weight, she had stopped smoking because it just didn't appeal to her anymore. People complemented her and when I would go to her office say something about her weight loss. In my head I knew it was bad, but neither of us wanted to face it. Neither did the docs, they kept saying it was sinus related. After 6 months they finally decided to do actual tests and said she had lymphoma, by then she was really really tiny.

These stupid biddies would come to me and say "your mom really needs to stop losing weight she's getting to skinny, we are worried about her." Yet the whole time they were shoving their work off on to her, when they were actually hired to HELP her!

She would sit in her office and hack up stuff all the time and puke right after trying to eat and these self-absorbed morons were acting like she was losing weight on purpose. When she went into the hospital she weighed 98 lbs and looked like a concentration camp victim. I would have given any thing to have been able to see her eat and keep it down!

My point in this story is that people need to think about what could be going on in the other person's lives before they open their mouths to criticize or offer un asked for advise! Unless you are super close to someone, you just don't know, they could be skinny because they have cancer!

So my idea of the perfect response to that sort of thing would be to look them straight in the eye and ask "How far can you run?" "Can you run up the stairs" or what ever other fitness goal you have obtained ( I wouldn't challenge anyone to a push up contest because I would lose ;-> ) If they say yes then make em throw down, if they say no then say I can and then tell them how great it makes you feel and that they should try it them selves and offer them help/support/advice and then let them know "because I would love it if you could be around a long time and I feel like you are shaving years off of your life by being unfit" or however diplomatically you can put it.

Good luck and keep up the great work> I need to go kick some circuit training butt now!

Nsiren
I get the same thing, except coworkers now are saying " Stop right there, Don't lose any more, not one pound." I appreciate the concern behind their motives, but I could easily take off another 10 lbs without getting too thin. I tell them they don't know what these scrubs are hiding.
To shut them up I went to my dr for a visit after reaching the 45 lbs total loss point and he said I was doing fine. I even brought him an eating and exercise log I printed from MFP to show him what I am doing, which he kept in my chart.
Learn to recognize that yes there is probably some jealousy there but listen to the ones who say they admire your stamina. The others just don't know what to do with such a positive role model. There are not as many of those in our society as negativity feeders.
You stay with it, lady and feel good about turning heads.

You're doing amazing in this journey & people just can't handle success when it isn't their own.
I was clearly overweight still when people were telling me "if you turn sideways, we'll lose you" or "you're fading away into nothing"
I'm 5'10 and weigh 158lbs. With my frame, I could stand to get down to 140-145. I'm NOT fading away.
I also receive comments all the time from my In-laws (when i refuse dessert, etc) "oh stop, just eat it, you can starve yourself again tomorrow" OR if i eat a meal and say that i'm full they say "well you only feel full because you're so used to starving yourself"

wtf.

I've never went hungry. I've never "starved myself" and I'm doing this with hardwork and dedication. People can't always handle that, especially if they don't have what it takes to do what you're doing. They think you can't POSSIBLY have MORE dedication then them (that would make them feel lazy) so they just throw out the starving yourself comments to make themselves feel better, because that MUST be what YOU'RE doing differently then them.

It's frustrating, but at the end of the day, do this for YOU!! You know your body, you know your goals and your aspirations. THAT matters, not what someone says who really isn't in your situation and who really shouldn't be in your business.