My boss made me feel like crap....

mrstoripowell
mrstoripowell Posts: 31 Member
edited September 29 in Motivation and Support
I told him I lost alot of weight! I went from 235 pounds in January to 216 pounds now! He said that i was disgusting for letting myself get that heavy and i told him not everyone is a twig like him! I acted unaffected but he really hurt my feelings......i felt like i was about to cry........I dont know how to feel about it.......he just messed up my whole positive vibe thing I had going on........I need a bit of guidance......
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  • nomorefatbitch
    nomorefatbitch Posts: 279
    Sweetheart, you should be PROUD of your accomplishments.

    You don't need advice, you need a boss who isn't an *kitten*!!

    Congratulations on your progress and keep up the good work :)
  • katm427
    katm427 Posts: 227 Member
    Honey, don't listen to that! The weight loss you've achieved to this point is admirable. What your boss thinks doesn't matter, I promise. I know it's hard to hear things like that. =/
  • RunningAddict
    RunningAddict Posts: 548 Member
    Don't focus on his comment too much. I have found recently that when people criticize me it really motivates me to try harder. Criticizism isn't always a bad thing, just use it to your advantage. He's only one person out of how many in this world? Keep thinking positive! :happy:
  • autiemommy
    autiemommy Posts: 238
    Wow! A boss said that. Hmmmm. You are doing great dont let stupid ignorant people bring you down keep doing what your doing. Cause you can always loose the weight but he will always be a a**hole..
  • Newkell
    Newkell Posts: 379 Member
    don't let him ruin your day. You just keep pushing ahead. You are on the right track. That is a wonderful weight loss. Keep up the good work.
  • thetrishwarp
    thetrishwarp Posts: 838 Member
    How insensitive! I'm honestly appalled and offended on your behalf. But girl - that weight loss is a huge accomplishment. So what if you *were* heavy - the point is you're motivated and dedicated and KICKING *kitten* - and look where you are now! When people make comments to me, I take it as motivation to exceed their expectations as a big $%^& you to them!

    So give'r - you're doing great!!!
  • MZNIKKIBOO
    MZNIKKIBOO Posts: 190
    how rude! we are ladies carry children & different body types from men overall! screw his opinion your a strong woman who is on a road to new found values that are much more positive then him!
  • tproctor
    tproctor Posts: 90 Member
    Tell your boss to kiss your *kitten* right in the crack! What a tool!!!

    WE are all proud of you!
  • shanna0413
    shanna0413 Posts: 600 Member
    I am so sorry that happened to you. That is a very negative very unhappy person to make that type of comment. You are doing a great job, please don't let someone like that make you feel bad. You are better person than he is to have been able to walk away. I would have told him to shove it up his a** lol. Just remember you are taking steps to lose weight and become a healthy person, what is he doing to stop being so negative? Good luck to you on your journey.
  • maryd4love
    maryd4love Posts: 164 Member
    - Try your best to not let somone like him ruin anything you had going on. He does not deserve anymore of your time. You just need to tell him that he hurt your feelings. and walk out. do not give him time to respond.
  • shanna0413
    shanna0413 Posts: 600 Member
    I am so sorry that happened to you. That is a very negative very unhappy person to make that type of comment. You are doing a great job, please don't let someone like that make you feel bad. You are better person than he is to have been able to walk away. I would have told him to shove it up his a** lol. Just remember you are taking steps to lose weight and become a healthy person, what is he doing to stop being so negative? Good luck to you on your journey.
  • MissingMinnesota
    MissingMinnesota Posts: 7,486 Member
    You are doing great. I actually think you should go to HR about what he said. Don't let someone that wants to drag you down effect you. Keep focused so you can go back and show him how great you do.
  • BuddhaBabeee
    BuddhaBabeee Posts: 105
    Ew lol what a hater. Ignore him.
  • likes2bwet
    likes2bwet Posts: 275 Member
    Girl, DITCH him! Especially as a boss...that was very unprofessional. You should hold your head up high and be proud of who you are and what you are becoming. You don't need the negativity....just saying...chin up you are doing GREAT!! :flowerforyou:
  • crystallized
    crystallized Posts: 23 Member
    First off, don't listen to him. Going from 235 to 216 is quite an accomplishment! Some people lose weight without trying, and some people keep weight off while they eat like crap. Not everyone's bodies are the same. Keep that in mind.

    Some people are just cruel in nature and don't care. I really feel sorry for people like that. You took a positive step toward losing weight and I commend you for sticking with it this long. I too started my weight loss at 235, and I'm down to 193. It is a long road that includes disciplining yourself to eat better and be more active.

    Stick to this website to inspire you and you'll go a long way toward your weight loss goal. If you ever need encouragement, just send me a message anytime =P We're all in this together.

    -Paul
  • DRJJ2004
    DRJJ2004 Posts: 186 Member
    Wow!! What a jerk! Don't worry about him..you've done a great job so far!! He's an idiot. People who feel the need to cut other people down are just making up for some kind of insecurity that they have. Keep up the good work!!!

    Hugs!
  • wbgolden
    wbgolden Posts: 2,066 Member
    Be strong. You're better.

    AWESOME results!!! Keep at it!
  • misscfe
    misscfe Posts: 295 Member
    You are doing an awesome job! Keep it up!
  • anna_lisa
    anna_lisa Posts: 486 Member
    I am so sorry this happened to you. I think when people make these comments it is truely a reflection of the other persons issues. I hope you are able to feel better. Your accomplishments are your own. Don't let you meany boss take that away from you..........A person that would foster and spread sadness can't be a happy person.
  • aa1440
    aa1440 Posts: 956 Member
    That's border line harassment. Your boss has a boss. If not, go to the corprate office. He should not be allowed to talk to you that way.
  • kykykenna
    kykykenna Posts: 656 Member
    You don't need advice, you need a boss who isn't an *kitten*!!

    PERFECT!!!!!!!! Keep going girlie!!!!! Screw him!!
  • cjsgrimlin
    cjsgrimlin Posts: 246
    That is really mean. Don't let it get you down, you have done wonderful. You need to keep up your efforts true, but you never know he might be suffering and your happiness has him more depressed. Still he's raining on your parade, so Break out the umbrella and dance in the rain!!! You'll get more fun from it! Try not to let people's jealous vibes hurt you too bad, I know its really hard, but just think there are so much more of us that will tell you you have done great here. Start dancing, you've earned it!!!
  • jadedm
    jadedm Posts: 31 Member
    First off.. There is something within his self as to the reason why he would say that to someone else.. And then used the word "Disgusting"? HOW dare he? I'll file verbal harassment on him just to be a meanie. First off, I'm sure the little fruit cake isn't the best lookin' guy in the world and for him to sit and say that you are disgusting for a certain size is unprofessional in the matters of conversation. He should keep that " You shouldn't let yourself get fat" attitude to himself. Everyone has reasons why and when people try and do something about it..IT's still a problem. Obviously he doesn't want you to catch up with him and show him out of the water. Your motivation should be in yourself and how you feel about how you look...and feel in your new body. That's your motivation right there also..people who throw shade on hard work and effort. Whereever you work...he won't be there long. Because you don't talk to NOONE like that..and it always comes back to you twice fold... Keep going mama! I wish I was at your size right now. I started at 297 and Now I'm at 258.. Still have a long ways to go..but it's further away from 300 and closer to a healthier life style. So tell him to "shove it." that's if you aren't afraid of getting suspended.. xDD lol
  • StephanieBLucas7
    StephanieBLucas7 Posts: 4
    Unfortunately people that are unhappy with something in their own lives feel a need to make others feel bad too. You know the old saying, "misery loves company." He is a jerk and is probably just trying to find a way to deal with his own insecurities. Don't let him get you down. You are on a forward path to making yourself healthier and happier, don't let anyone get in your way!
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    There are always THOSE people. Don't let his ol' featherweight a-- have enough control over you to keep you down. There are just people, even people we could be close to, who prefer us overweight because it means we're not as "good" as they are. We behave with less confidence when we're not fit and living healthy, and some people thrive on this. It's sad, but your boss is one of those people. He can't feel good unless he makes someone else feel bad. I believe the professional term is: hater.

    Do your thing, hun.
  • cheryl3660
    cheryl3660 Posts: 182 Member
    Clearly he only feels better about himself when he criticizes other people. I know it's hard, but ignore him. That is his own warped opinion. You are awesome and deserve to be proud of your hard work!
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    That's border line harassment. Your boss has a boss. If not, go to the corprate office. He should not be allowed to talk to you that way.

    I don't think there's a border line about it. That's unprofessional and uncalled for. Report his obnoxious *kitten*.

    And if he is the boss (small business owner)... GET OUT of that situation. *kitten* like that don't deserve good employees like you. But the longer you stay in a situation like that, the more it drags you down. It's like being in a bad relationship.
  • Bella1hud
    Bella1hud Posts: 530 Member
    What's disgusting is his attitude. Is he always that callous? I hope he doesn't work in any type of service industry and or have to deal with people!

    You just remind yourself who you are doing this for...you! Surround yourself as much as possible with positive people. And talk to us on MFP regularly , we all share in different struggles and generally have someone in our lives that is not particularly supportive.
    He is the one that has the problem of being judgemental, perhaps he isn't familiar with " Judge not lest ye be judged"...
  • natskedat
    natskedat Posts: 570 Member
    Words are hurtful. I'm so sorry. You deserve some serious congratulations for losing an incredible amount of weight! Well done, and keep up the great job!
  • mrstoripowell
    mrstoripowell Posts: 31 Member
    Thanks for all the support and advice! I was just taken aback by such a nasty comment at work!!!! I have never had that said to me.........anyway thank yall so much!!! I might just take this to HR if he says anything else about me.......
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