Am I too old for him?

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  • sc487
    sc487 Posts: 102 Member
    My wife is 13 years older than me. I think I was 27 when I first asked her out. We've been together 4 years. Age is just a number.
  • Yogirunner68
    Yogirunner68 Posts: 58 Member
    Just echoing what most have stated, if you are both happy, nuts to what anyone else might say/think. My husband is 10 years younger than me. We have been married for almost nine years now and all's well.
  • Antd420
    Antd420 Posts: 161 Member
    windime wrote: »
    So I started dating this guy, very interested in him but just found out his age. He is 29, I am 37. Is he too young for me? Anyone here with a similar age gap in their relationship?

    My wife is 42 and I'm 35
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    My wife and I have the same age difference. Except, in our case, I am the older. Never been a problem. 25th Anniversary coming up.
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  • Lovee_Dove7
    Lovee_Dove7 Posts: 742 Member
    windime wrote: »
    So I started dating this guy, very interested in him but just found out his age. He is 29, I am 37. Is he too young for me? Anyone here with a similar age gap in their relationship?

    I think so; those ages are two totally different phases of life.
    But we are all different, so maybe this is okay for you and him.
    It depends on your goals, expectations and mindset.
  • saramickeydee
    saramickeydee Posts: 115 Member
    We doing this now? Cool!
    My wife is so old she knew Burger King when he was just a prince.
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  • saramickeydee
    saramickeydee Posts: 115 Member
    Noel_57 wrote: »
    My wife is so old, she swam in the Dead Sea when it was still alive. :o

    My wife is so old the last time she heard that one she was riding on her dinosaur.
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  • saramickeydee
    saramickeydee Posts: 115 Member
    Tapping out. Clearly a master. B)
  • wonko221
    wonko221 Posts: 292 Member
    windime wrote: »
    So I started dating this guy, very interested in him but just found out his age. He is 29, I am 37. Is he too young for me? Anyone here with a similar age gap in their relationship?

    I've just started dating my girlfriend this past January. I turned 38 in March, she turns 30 in July.

    Our age shows up a bit in conversation; she knows more about pop culture from the 2000s, and i know more about the 90s....

    but our interests line up, we have similar senses of humor, she's smart, kind, beautiful, fierce, and i love her. She's not too young for me, and as long as she'll keep this old man around, i'm happy.
  • wonko221
    wonko221 Posts: 292 Member
    mankars wrote: »
    windime wrote: »
    So I started dating this guy, very interested in him but just found out his age. He is 29, I am 37. Is he too young for me? Anyone here with a similar age gap in their relationship?

    It's fine unless you both are seriously thinking to share your future (aka marriage) together.
    What if he wants kids & you don't??

    Remember.... Ashton Kutcher & Demi Moore marriage fell apart mainly because she couldn't give him any kids of their own.

    All the best.

    I try real hard in my life not to base major decisions on, or even consider, what Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore did. It's worked well so far.
  • Panda_Poptarts
    Panda_Poptarts Posts: 971 Member
    My husband was legally drinking when I was born.

    Stop overthinking it.
  • csuhar
    csuhar Posts: 779 Member
    In general, as long as things are legal, the age gap doesn't matter. What I would expect could be problematic is more a "stage of life" difference, which is entirely dependent on the individuals involved. For example, if one member wants to keep clubbing but the other has "outgrown the club scene" and wants to focus more on picket fences than velvet ropes, that can be an issue.
  • RebeccaNaegle
    RebeccaNaegle Posts: 236 Member
    I am 32. My fiancé is 48. We couldn't be happier. I love the age difference. Sometimes I might wonder if he misses women his age, but if he did I guess he'd go be with them. haha. Who cares about age if you're happy. Life is too short to worry about that. :smiley:
  • Sblunt16
    Sblunt16 Posts: 4 Member
    Panda_Poptarts wrote: »
    My husband was legally drinking when I was born.

    Stop overthinking it.


    Best response ever!! Lol

  • Scamd83
    Scamd83 Posts: 808 Member
    dagost17 wrote: »
    If it works, go for it. I'm going to be 31 and sadly, I have not found a mature man in the 28-31 year old range :# Hell, even the 35/36 year olds I've dated were immature!

    If by mature you mean mundane and unlikely to do anything idiotic, I'm 33 and pretty much that. So we do exist, says me, the self appointed spokesman for all mundane 30+ year old males.
  • ldowdesw
    ldowdesw Posts: 222 Member
    In 100 years we'll all be dead and no one will give a toss what we did, so just get on and damn well enjoy the ride!! Every pun intended;)
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  • usmc01462
    usmc01462 Posts: 1,944 Member
    who cares as long as your happy and he is an adult
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,031 Member
    edited April 2016
    windime wrote: »
    So I started dating this guy, very interested in him but just found out his age. He is 29, I am 37. Is he too young for me? Anyone here with a similar age gap in their relationship?

    Does it bother you, does it bother him? That's all that matters really.
  • paige1435
    paige1435 Posts: 7 Member
    I'm 19 and my boyfriend will be 26 in September. My mom is 42 and her husband is 32. Age is just a number :)
  • nash_ap
    nash_ap Posts: 5 Member
    windime wrote: »
    So I started dating this guy, very interested in him but just found out his age. He is 29, I am 37. Is he too young for me? Anyone here with a similar age gap in their relationship?

    My wife is older than me by 18 years, and we've been married for 5. Who cares about the number; it's the personality and the looks that count :).
  • barbara3213
    barbara3213 Posts: 98 Member
    My husband married his first wife when he was 27 and she was 60. Not rich or attractive, I guess it was love. Lasted I over 25 years. There's a ton more to the story but I won't go into it here.
  • namlaloca1
    namlaloca1 Posts: 26 Member
    Nickle526 wrote: »
    I think an age gap can be a problem if people are in completely different stages of life, such as one person still wanting kids, and the other one is done having children. I had a relationship with a significant age gap, and the biggest issue is that since my ex had much more life experience, he felt that it gave him permission to basically treat me like a child and not let me figure things out on my own and make my own choices. But I don't think an age gap is a problem by itself :)

    I agreed with this wholeheartedly. Stage of life and not being treated as an equal is where age gaps have issues. But also think that when you're in your late 20s is where age gaps can become a little wider, as in dating older. Think early 20s and younger (from personal experience and from others) is when dating at a significant age gap of 5-10 or greater could be an issue long term.
  • gohawks1988
    gohawks1988 Posts: 23 Member
    Half your age plus seven is the rule generally... So 37 / 2 = 18.5+7=25.5 So he's 27...you're cool. :smile:
  • SFBMCBuck
    SFBMCBuck Posts: 63 Member
    A guy should never get involved with an older woman. As a matter of fact she should be half his age +5.
  • LiftingRiot
    LiftingRiot Posts: 6,946 Member
    yes your too old.... for any man.... start buying cats
  • wilsoncl6
    wilsoncl6 Posts: 1,280 Member
    Age is really not important, it's maturity and expectations that count. My first girlfriend after I turned 18 was 32 and it was definitely the best experience of my young life. We broke up because she was more immature than I was. Every woman I've dated after that, except one, has been at least 10 years older than me. The only woman I dated in my age range was way too immature and insecure for me and lasted less than 2 months.

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