Frustrated With Outside Opinions

BrooklynApple88 · May 2016

So, today I walked into my relative's home and someone asked me what I ate today. I said, "Pizza." So then I had to hear a whole speech about how I need to stay away from pizza because it's so fattening and greasy. Then I also had to hear about green juices, vegetable soup, and making homemade potato chips to "cut all the grease and fat out."

I said, " Trust me, I'm doing fine. I made sure I had enough calories to enjoy a greasy slice of pizza." Then they went on about how I need to cut pizza out completely and eat fruits and vegetables. I need to drink this type of milk, cut out this, add this, this vegetable is good for the blood, no Chinese food, eat fast food once a month, blah, blah. I'm so annoyed. People are really uneducated about what it takes to lose weight. I loathe the restrictive attitude. If I ate like what they suggested, then I'd end up bored and unsuccessful. They noticed the 45 pounds I've lost in 8 months, but still give their unsolicited advice. Sigh. They just don't get it.

misskarne · May 2016

I feel like at some point in the conversation the words "It's none of your business" should have slipped out...

Zella_11 · May 2016

Awesome work on the weight loss! Keep doing what you are doing--disregard what others have to say about it.

Anaris2014 · May 2016

....just before (or after) punching them in the face.

You're doing it your way, and it's working for you. Sounds like a perfect result to me.

[The author of this post does not advocate, nor condone, violence].

KateTii · May 2016

People really don't get it. Unfortunately, all you can control is your reaction. I've learnt that the best way to avoid these types of "lectures" is a short and simple "I'm fine". The reasons why they probe about food vary, but unfortunately, you can't stop them.

hiyomi · May 2016

Yep, I get this alllll the time from friends and its getting quite annoying. I've often wondered at times what I should do/say to them as well..Its hard to tell someone no, and not be rude about it, because no matter how you look at it, or how I look at it, I feel like I'm being rude. lol Example, this past Saturday I wanted a burger and fries, and I chose that particular place because I knew the calorie count from there, the meal was like 1,000 calories, but I made it fit into my day. Anywho, my friend kept saying "why dont u get subway and its less calories, why don't u just get a pizza and eat 1-2 slices and its less calories". I didn't want no damn pizza, and feel way more satisfied eating a burger+fries rather than 1-2 slices of pizza! But its hard to explain it to them...Basically I get more food for a little more calories, and I was fine with it, but they can't understand that. They say "oh well i can eat 1-2 slices and be fine". But then they actually go order pizza and eat the whole damn thing by themselves! *rants* I feel you! I do!

AnvilHead · May 2016

When people think it's okay to rudely stick their noses in my business and try to tell me how to run my life, I think it's equally okay for me to rudely tell them to pound sand up their *kitten* and mind their own business in return. Fair is fair.

SinomenJen · May 2016

I get a really "serious" voice going and say" Under the advisement of my doctor and nutritionist, I am following the most prescribed CICO life plan.

kimdawnhayden · May 2016

They are probably just jealous you had pizza and they didn't.

SezxyStef · May 2016

honestly esp since it's family you have a choice.

Smile and nod

or

re-educate them if possible.

but at the same time how do they know you are counting calories aka trying to lose weight? did you mention it?

I have yet to have anyone anywhere tell me anything like that esp family...mainly because I didn't say anything to anyone about my efforts...I just did it.

CattOfTheGarage · May 2016

"I see that what you're doing is succeeding. Let me tell you why it's wrong and you should do it some other way."

Honestly, I'd only go down the "education" route if people are genuinely interested. If they're just lecturing you and it's getting up your nose, try and change the subject.

viren19890 · May 2016

Sometimes problem is "eating whatever you can and still lose weight" sounds too good to be true. So what do people do when an unknown is introduced ? yes! shoot it down.

For me- if it gets overwhelming - I look at my hands and my fingers, if I'm standing next to a mirror then look into a mirror. If there has been no physical changes in me -that means whatever nonsense is being spewed isn't affecting me.

So I let them continue, I just smirk with a smug look on my face. That's right stay delusional, you'd be back to me asking for advice once you crash and burn (metaphorically) in your diet plans.

Results speak for themselves PERIOD.

BruinsGal_91 · May 2016

BrooklynApple88 wrote: »

So, today I walked into my relative's home and someone asked me what I ate today. I said, "Pizza." So then I had to hear a whole speech about how I need to stay away from pizza because it's so fattening and greasy. Then I also had to hear about green juices, vegetable soup, and making homemade potato chips to "cut all the grease and fat out."

I said, " Trust me, I'm doing fine. I made sure I had enough calories to enjoy a greasy slice of pizza." Then they went on about how I need to cut pizza out completely and eat fruits and vegetables. I need to drink this type of milk, cut out this, add this, this vegetable is good for the blood, no Chinese food, eat fast food once a month, blah, blah. I'm so annoyed. People are really uneducated about what it takes to lose weight. I loathe the restrictive attitude. If I ate like what they suggested, then I'd end up bored and unsuccessful. They noticed the 45 pounds I've lost in 8 months, but still give their unsolicited advice. Sigh. They just don't get it.

Ah, but you obviously get it. And that's the important thing. Well done you! I've lost 20lbs in five months, and I eat pizza nearly every week, and a green smoothie has never passed my lips. Give up pizza? Never!

CurlyCockney · May 2016

Nod/smile/move on.

fr33sia12 · May 2016

I totally agree, if it's working for you and you're happy then lectures from other people about "what you're doing wrong" are pointless and annoying.

This kind of thing happens no matter what you're eating. I'm very happily losing weight and very happily eating a healthy diet, cutting out certain foods because I want to do this for me and I get told similar things too, that I'm doing it wrong for cutting out foods, that I can still lose weight by eating pizza, chips, sweets etc (which I know is true) but never mind the fact that I don't want to eat those types of foods. Someone will always have an opinion on what you're doing and will love telling you it's wrong.

victoria_1024 · May 2016

You have to just learn to ignore that stuff. I used to get those comments until I lost almost 90 lbs and I've been successfully keeping it off. Now I'm more likely to have someone tell me to eat a cheeseburger because I'm clearly wasting away to nothing. People always have to make some kind of comment.

Carlos_421 · May 2016

Sounds like half the threads here on MFP...

ilex70 · May 2016

victoria_1024 wrote: »

You have to just learn to ignore that stuff. I used to get those comments until I lost almost 90 lbs and I've been successfully keeping it off. Now I'm more likely to have someone tell me to eat a cheeseburger because I'm clearly wasting away to nothing. People always have to make some kind of comment.

For real. My husband just commented to me a couple of days ago "My mom saw your recent picture and said you need to be careful you don't make yourself sick because you are getting really thin in your face."

Um, I'm near the top of normal BMI here.

He knows she is full of it. Then OTOH he will still comment sometimes or give me a look like "should you be eating that?"

JenHuedy · May 2016

Usually I just smile and nod. But I think the next time I run into a know-it-all I'm going to ask them "Why?" And when they give me some Dr. Oz reasoning, I'll again ask, "Why?" and just keep going "why?" until they run out of answers. I call it the Toddler Maneuver.

jennifer_417 · May 2016

This is the exact reason I never really talked about what I was doing to lose weight. Errbody got an opinion. I figured I'd let my results speak for themselves. But I realize that there are times when it's unavoidable, and those times I just nod and smile, and make noncommittal noises.

Nachise · May 2016

People who start out losing weight on fad diets never develop a realistic relationship with food. I am so done with that. My mantra is to eat real food in moderation without having to cut out entire classes of food. What you eat in any given day should reflect that.

People cut out gluten without knowing why gluten should be avoided for some people. People cut out carbs without knowing what are the nutritional powerhouses, and what is junk. People try to cut out fat without realizing that they are depriving themselves of the nutritional bioavailability of some vegetables. They have no idea that fat free processed foods have more sugar and sodium than their "fattier" counterparts.

Dammit. If I want to munch on a candy bar once or twice a month, I am going to have a candy bar. I log, I exercise, I eat.

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