Doing this on my own :(

SamanthaLouiseMence · May 2016

I'm new to this, I'm 25, 5ft1, single mother of a beautiful little boy who's about to turn 1. I've struggled to loose all the weight I gained when I was pregnant, I don't have anyone supporting me, so a little support and motivation from this app would be nice if anyone's willing

I'm currently 14.12 stone and I'm trying to get down to 8 stone… its a lot I know and I shouldn't of let myself get to this weight now, but I did unfortunately
So some friends on here would be a great help I think xx

wizzybeth · May 2016

Change that to "I'm gonna do this on my OWN! YEAH!!! "

Honestly, the motivation HAS to come from within.

Your moods will switch daily, you have to be committed to doing it no matter how you feel. Some people post on here "I never get any positive feedback on my feed, so I guess I'll quit MFP" and I'm like...what? The positive feedback or social interaction should be the GRAVY, not the meat and potatoes of what you're trying to accomplish.

(and yes, you can have meat, potatoes, and gravy, as long as you fit it in for your daily plan, lol)

YOU have to believe in yourself. YOU have to commit to do it even when you don't feel like it, when you have a bad day, when you have an "oh no I ate everything in sight all day" day and get RIGHT BACK to the plan immediately. You have to want this for YOU and for your son. Nobody can want it more than you.

That said you will find these message boards can be a tremendous source of encouragement, inspiration, and even irritation and anger, lol. Do read all the sticky threads - the sexypants thread especially. They are there to help you with common pitfalls, misconceptions, and helps to keep you on the path to a new, healthy you.

But YOU have to stay on that path.

wizzybeth · May 2016

That said - I've suffered through many a "turning away" period - I messed up, then was ashamed, then filled with self loathing, and stopped logging and tracking. Then I had to come back anyway, usually with many more pounds to lose than if I had just been forgiving of myself for messing up a long time previous. Don't let occasional setbacks get you down. Just pick yourself up ASAP and get right back at it.

wizzybeth · May 2016

HERE is a link to a list of the most helpful posts in the history of MFP. Even if you don't read the entire thread (some are very long threads, lol) read the first few posts in each one.

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10300319/most-helpful-posts-general-diet-and-weight-loss-help-must-reads#latest

jessiferrrb · May 2016

all that being said though, it's great to have mfpals who understand what you're trying to accomplish and who can relate to your good days and bad. people who know your frustrations and elations with weight loss and gains and plateaus. so go ahead and add people, if you think someone said something insightful, or funny, or kind, don't be afraid to reach out. it can make a difference.

BadAssAries · May 2016

Add me! I believe in multiple sources of motivation, especially on days when I want to "rest." I find this site & my little collection of friends AWESOME for that purpose.

mostein · May 2016

Feel free to add me if you'd like. I am also a single mother

wizzybeth · May 2016

jessiferrrb wrote: »

all that being said though, it's great to have mfpals who understand what you're trying to accomplish and who can relate to your good days and bad. people who know your frustrations and elations with weight loss and gains and plateaus. so go ahead and add people, if you think someone said something insightful, or funny, or kind, don't be afraid to reach out. it can make a difference.

Oh I certainly did not mean to discount the value of having friends to cheer you and encourage you!

I only meant that ultimately, your motivation cannot be dependent on other people motivating you.

Doing this on my own :(

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