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amusedmonkey wrote: »kommodevaran wrote: »Don't compare yourself to others. Especially not to someone of another gender. Men typically lose faster and build more muscles than women, because of their higher levels of testosterone. But men also need to have a lower fat% to be healthy, so it evens out. Don't be jealous.
Please don't "kill yourself". You don't have to, and shouldn't, exhaust yourself or eat a boring diet. Move more and eat food you like in appropriate portions. That's what it takes. It also takes a long, long time. So it's important that you like what you're doing, if you want to get noticeable results. One week won't make much difference for your weight. How much you can lose per week, depends on how much you have to lose. With 40 pounds to lose they would come off at 1.5 per week at this stage. Later it will be slower. Weight also fluctuates independently from fat loss/gain, so you need lots of data points over a long time to see the trend.
Thank you for the words of encouragement.
Its a huge change for me and I struggle with it everyday. I went from pizza & snacks to fish & broccoli its torture in the beginning lol
Your husband is a man, likely taller and heavier than you are, and as you said he is more active. Eating the same quantities would result in more weight loss for him than you because he has a bigger more muscular body to fuel. If anything, you are actually doing better than your husband. Losses beyond 1% of your body weight a week are not healthy.
Not much to add to the above post regarding weight fluctuations and portions except that by torturing yourself you are setting yourself up for failure. You may need close to a year to lose all of your desired weight, so the easier you make it for yourself the better. Count your calories as accurately as possible and trust the process. What exactly is making this a struggle? Are you feeling hungry all the time? Are you not enjoying your food choices? Are you being tempted by other choices? Because each of these can be tackled in a way to make the dieting process easier and less stressful.
The always being hungry is the only tortuous part. I eat salad for lunch and not even an hour later I'm hungry again. If I could eat and be filled up then it wouldn't be so challenging
Have you actually set up your profile? Count calories and enjoy some real food. You will lose.3 -
MissusMoon wrote: »amusedmonkey wrote: »kommodevaran wrote: »Don't compare yourself to others. Especially not to someone of another gender. Men typically lose faster and build more muscles than women, because of their higher levels of testosterone. But men also need to have a lower fat% to be healthy, so it evens out. Don't be jealous.
Please don't "kill yourself". You don't have to, and shouldn't, exhaust yourself or eat a boring diet. Move more and eat food you like in appropriate portions. That's what it takes. It also takes a long, long time. So it's important that you like what you're doing, if you want to get noticeable results. One week won't make much difference for your weight. How much you can lose per week, depends on how much you have to lose. With 40 pounds to lose they would come off at 1.5 per week at this stage. Later it will be slower. Weight also fluctuates independently from fat loss/gain, so you need lots of data points over a long time to see the trend.
Thank you for the words of encouragement. Its a huge change for me and I struggle with it everyday. I went from pizza & snacks to fish & broccoli its torture in the beginning lol
Your husband is a man, likely taller and heavier than you are, and as you said he is more active. Eating the same quantities would result in more weight loss for him than you because he has a bigger more muscular body to fuel. If anything, you are actually doing better than your husband. Losses beyond 1% of your body weight a week are not healthy.
Not much to add to the above post regarding weight fluctuations and portions except that by torturing yourself you are setting yourself up for failure. You may need close to a year to lose all of your desired weight, so the easier you make it for yourself the better. Count your calories as accurately as possible and trust the process. What exactly is making this a struggle? Are you feeling hungry all the time? Are you not enjoying your food choices? Are you being tempted by other choices? Because each of these can be tackled in a way to make the dieting process easier and less stressful.
The always being hungry is the only tortuous part. I eat salad for lunch and not even an hour later I'm hungry again. If I could eat and be filled up then it wouldn't be so challenging
Have you actually set up your profile? Count calories and enjoy some real food. You will lose.
Yes, I've been logging in every single thing I ingest into the app. its very helpful! The first week is always the toughest I've heard so I'm just trying to adapt to the change. I ended up cheating last night with a slice of pepperoni pizza and its crazy because all week I thought I wanted it but afterwards, I felt guilty and my body felt different. I'm glad I caved because it made me realize I don't want that food anymore lol 5 -
MissusMoon wrote: »amusedmonkey wrote: »kommodevaran wrote: »Don't compare yourself to others. Especially not to someone of another gender. Men typically lose faster and build more muscles than women, because of their higher levels of testosterone. But men also need to have a lower fat% to be healthy, so it evens out. Don't be jealous.
Please don't "kill yourself". You don't have to, and shouldn't, exhaust yourself or eat a boring diet. Move more and eat food you like in appropriate portions. That's what it takes. It also takes a long, long time. So it's important that you like what you're doing, if you want to get noticeable results. One week won't make much difference for your weight. How much you can lose per week, depends on how much you have to lose. With 40 pounds to lose they would come off at 1.5 per week at this stage. Later it will be slower. Weight also fluctuates independently from fat loss/gain, so you need lots of data points over a long time to see the trend.
Thank you for the words of encouragement. Its a huge change for me and I struggle with it everyday. I went from pizza & snacks to fish & broccoli its torture in the beginning lol
Your husband is a man, likely taller and heavier than you are, and as you said he is more active. Eating the same quantities would result in more weight loss for him than you because he has a bigger more muscular body to fuel. If anything, you are actually doing better than your husband. Losses beyond 1% of your body weight a week are not healthy.
Not much to add to the above post regarding weight fluctuations and portions except that by torturing yourself you are setting yourself up for failure. You may need close to a year to lose all of your desired weight, so the easier you make it for yourself the better. Count your calories as accurately as possible and trust the process. What exactly is making this a struggle? Are you feeling hungry all the time? Are you not enjoying your food choices? Are you being tempted by other choices? Because each of these can be tackled in a way to make the dieting process easier and less stressful.
The always being hungry is the only tortuous part. I eat salad for lunch and not even an hour later I'm hungry again. If I could eat and be filled up then it wouldn't be so challenging
Have you actually set up your profile? Count calories and enjoy some real food. You will lose.
Yes, I've been logging in every single thing I ingest into the app. its very helpful! The first week is always the toughest I've heard so I'm just trying to adapt to the change. I ended up cheating last night with a slice of pepperoni pizza and its crazy because all week I thought I wanted it but afterwards, I felt guilty and my body felt different. I'm glad I caved because it made me realize I don't want that food anymore lol
Counting calories/tracking intake and just eating food you like means that you're not "on a diet" and cheating becomes meaningless! You can eat anything you want, just log it, and aim to hit your goal. And you decide what you want. You can ask yourself some questions to determine that - is this something I like, and am I hungry? Will it satisfy me or will I be ravenous afterwards? Can I "afford it" calorie wise, or is it worth going over today just because it's sooo good and a year till next opportunity? Do I eat it just because it's there/it's Friday/my friends eat it/I think someone will be disappointed if I don't accept it/it will be thrown away if nobody eats it? You're not supposed to feel guilty after you eat, work on that, too.4 -
Try not to make WHAT you're eating the issue but rather how much of it you are eating.
On my weekends I was eating junk food and drinking a six pack of beer a night, and not the watered down stuff, the micros with all the calories. I started my weight loss plan and now I still drink beer, but it's in the form of one 22oz bottle a week...way less calories and I don't feel like I've given something up completely. A few days ago I had a couple slices of deep dish pizza and thought I had screwed up big time only to find I had lost 2.8 lbs that week. If it means 20 minutes longer on the treadmill or giving up dessert that evening then do it...but you have to reward yourself every now and again...
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The thing to remember is slow and steady, it shouldn't be torture. I think we all struggle in the begining to get a hold of what we can and can't eat or in what portions we should have them. More often then not I manage to have a treat almost daily and still hit my calorie goal but I plan ahead and make better choices more often then not. The scale won't always work in your favor, especially if your a women so use other things to measure your progress, how many days you were under the calorie count, how many work outs in completed in a week, how many inches you lost, how your clothes fits, or simply if you feel your looking better and I there will be a day you step on that scale and you'll be proud of yourself for not giving up. Use small triumphs to fuel your motivation. Good luck!4
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Eating a piece of pizza is NOT cheating!!! Please stop thinking of food this way!2
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Well my husband considers it a cheat food lol we're both on a 1000 calorie/day plan. I was at my goal until I had the pizza which is mainly carbs and we're really trying to stay away from them. When I logged it into myfitnesspal it was over 1300 calories.
definitely a big cheat lol 0 -
1000 calories? Who recommended that? The lowest MFP allows for females is 1200, and guys should be higher because they have different caloric needs. No wonder this is torture for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I couldn't do it. I lose between 1 and 2lbs a week doing 1300 calories a week, give or take. Since it's not recommended to lose more than 2lbs a week on average, I am pleased with that. I could not survive on 1000 calories a day EVERY day. Some days, sure - but not sustainable in the long run.6 -
Well my husband considers it a cheat food lol we're both on a 1000 calorie/day plan. I was at my goal until I had the pizza which is mainly carbs and we're really trying to stay away from them. When I logged it into myfitnesspal it was over 1300 calories. definitely a big cheat lol
You should probably work out how many calories your body actually needs according to your height, weight, and age. Many calculators online (including one here).3 -
@jlkcmk if you are craving pizza, try these. No real substitute for pizza, but sometimes when I want pizza or pasta, it's really the cheese and tomato I'm craving more than the crust or the spaghetti.
http://www.delish.com/cooking/recipe-ideas/recipes/a43638/mini-zucchini-pizzas-recipe/
You will have to watch how much cheese you put on as that can pack on the calories pretty quickly. I sadly don't have nutrition info figured out for them.
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Reality check: I think you're setting yourself up for failure by treating this as some weird quasi-jealousy competition with your husband rather than something you're doing for your own well-being; as others have said, 1000 calories is too low for you, and way too low for your husband. Working out like a maniac, eating only vegetables and protein, going on a guilt trip for having a slice of pizza then convincing yourself you really don't want Evil Pizza any more, and having unrealistic expectations about weight loss are not good strategies for making this work -- and especially not for building lifetime skills that will keep you from getting into this shape again.
You say you don't expect miracles overnight, but you've apparently been at this for only a week or so and say it's "not paying off". As that idiot "Dr." Phil says, "get real"! Tell us six months from now that it's not paying off -- if you can stick with it that long. If you're torturing yourself as you say eating only "fish and broccoli", that's your choice, but I eat things I genuinely enjoy and have lost nearly 80 pounds. And that without busting my @ss at the gym seven nights a week.14 -
Listen to all the good advice above. You and your husband are setting yourselves up for failure.
This shouldn't be torture and all food is good.5 -
Well my husband considers it a cheat food lol we're both on a 1000 calorie/day plan. I was at my goal until I had the pizza which is mainly carbs and we're really trying to stay away from them. When I logged it into myfitnesspal it was over 1300 calories. definitely a big cheat lol
No wonder you are always hungry. Your intake is simply too low for any human who is over 3 feet tall. I'm averaging 1400-1500 calories + exercise calories, with a total average intake of 1400-1500 calories on non exercise days and 2000 calories on heavy exercise days. There are a few days where I simply maintain or go even higher than maintenance because I refuse to not enjoy special occasions like birthdays or Christmas eve. I'm losing comfortably without denying myself anything. I will continue with this intake fully aware that at some point in the future when I'm close to hitting my goal weight I will be losing like 1-2 pounds a month and I'm okay with that. 85 pounds gone so far.
Look at this dieting period as training wheels for maintenance. It helps if you imagine that you are already at your goal weight, and now you are simply living your life. How do you see yourself eating? Do you see yourself living on chicken and broccoli? Do you see yourself never having any pizza or chocolate for good? Yes, 1300 calories of pizza would be an occasional thing, but a couple of slices + a big salad could as well be more frequent during maintenance. Do you feel your life would be good if you keep stressing about eating the "wrong" thing for the rest of your life?
Some may tell you this needs to be a lifestyle change. I personally disagree. Overhauling your whole lifestyle can be daunting and is not likely to stick. A lifestyle "tweak", however, does not feel as extreme and you don't feel like you are giving up something other than the blissful ignorance of how food affects your weight.
Forget what your husband is doing if he doesn't take these recommendations well (many people are not very likely to listen to dieting advice), just do your own thing knowing you are in it for the long haul. You are better off even if it takes you a whole year to lose the weight than doing this for a few weeks, burning out, regaining, and ending up right where you started this time next year.
So here is a quick action plan you may find useful:
1. Go to MFP, set your goal to lose 1 pound a week and see how many calories it gives you.
2. When you exercise, log that exercise. MFP will give you some extra calorie. Feel free to eat some of them.
3. Buy a food scale and weigh everything you eat and drink then record it in the app.
4. Don't get discouraged if some weeks you don't seem to be losing weight, women are notorious for weight fluctuations due to hormones. Just trust the process and continue doing your thing for a few more weeks before you decide that something is not right.
5. Instead of thinking in terms of "good" and "bad" and feeling guilty afterwards, think of your calories as a money budget. Sometimes you feel like buying an expensive item is worth it, other times you don't. Yes, it's important to eat food that supports a healthy body, but eating food that supports a healthy mind is equally important. Anxiety, stress and unnecessary guilt are anything but healthy for your mind (or body).
Best of luck with whatever route you choose to follow!7 -
I just realized what your problem is and you're really hurting yourself bad and so is your husband. 1000 calories a day is unrealistic. You're starving yourself. What you are you're on a diet you're looking for instant gratification. It probably took you years to put on all that weight and now you're looking for some magic pill to lose it as fast as you can. With that mentality you're going to fail.
My advice to you is plug in all your information into the mfp database to determine how many calories you need to eat. In the past five months I've dropped close to 60 pounds and I've eaten Pizza,beer and deep fried barbecued spare ribs. It's a simple matter of calories in calories out.
When I read some of these posts and I heard your husband say pizza is a cheat it pisses me off. There's no such thing as a cheat food pizza is good. I love my pizza with sausage and pepperoni.
Please don't look at this as a diet. You're on a diet right now at a thousand calories. You're torturing yourself you're making yourself miserable and you're eventually going to fail and so is your husband. You have to look at this as a lifestyle change educate yourself and use this app as an educational tool. I've enjoyed the past 5 months I can't say I've been miserable at all. I wish you much success7 -
Try more lean protein and healthy fats and fiber to fill you up. For a treat I like a serving of red raspberries (140g) and some Oikos Greek Yogurt in Banana Cream! Yum-my!!! I also take my Quest salted caramel protein powder and make it with ice and unsweetened soy milk and no water and it's like ice cream--I need to eat it with a spoon. Coco Polo and Lily's have chocolate sweetened with stevia so it has all the chocolate with fewer calories.
It's only been a week. Give yourself a chance to experiment and find what works for you. Don't cut out foods you live and don't eat food that doesn't appeal. It might lead to a binge.
It takes time, but it's worth it because then you have life solutions. Be proud of yourself for committing and getting started and now seeking help to improve! We've all been there--that's why we're here for each other! It's a marathon, not a sprint. You can do this--REALLY!
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You have to have a minimum of 1,200 calories & your husband a minimum of 1,500 calories (before exercise, for the both of you), otherwise your bodies'll cannibalize muscle including your hearts; which'll result in heart failure & either a need for transplants or death.3
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YOU CAN BE HEALTHY BY EATING HEALTHY, IT IS A LIFESTYLE YOU CAN PASS TO YOUR CHILDREN.0
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STEVE142142 wrote: »I just realized what your problem is and you're really hurting yourself bad and so is your husband. 1000 calories a day is unrealistic. You're starving yourself. What you are you're on a diet you're looking for instant gratification. It probably took you years to put on all that weight and now you're looking for some magic pill to lose it as fast as you can. With that mentality you're going to fail.
My advice to you is plug in all your information into the mfp database to determine how many calories you need to eat. In the past five months I've dropped close to 60 pounds and I've eaten Pizza,beer and deep fried barbecued spare ribs. It's a simple matter of calories in calories out.
When I read some of these posts and I heard your husband say pizza is a cheat it pisses me off. There's no such thing as a cheat food pizza is good. I love my pizza with sausage and pepperoni.
Please don't look at this as a diet. You're on a diet right now at a thousand calories. You're torturing yourself you're making yourself miserable and you're eventually going to fail and so is your husband. You have to look at this as a lifestyle change educate yourself and use this app as an educational tool. I've enjoyed the past 5 months I can't say I've been miserable at all. I wish you much success
1,000 cal/day may be too low but I'm certainty not looking for some magic pill to take the weight off. I have realistic goals and expectations and was just expressing the difficulty I was experiencing adjusting to the change that's all. I've lost 3lbs since last Sunday and I'm content with that. I am excited to get to my end result however there's no denying that
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