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KDar1988
KDar1988 Posts: 650 Member
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Yesterday I cleared 6 garbage bags of clothes out of my closet. All clothes I wore 106lbs ago. Felt good to get rid of them until my husband says "what are you going to wear when you get fat again?" Why was that necessary? I wonder if I could dump him the donation bin?
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  • snowflake930
    snowflake930 Posts: 2,188 Member
    edited June 2016
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    Not nice at all. Sounds like a good solution putting him in the donation bin, LOL
    My DH was the opposite, I had the boxes packed and stacked to go to Goodwill for 18 months before I actually took them to Goodwill. I kept on telling him, what if I gain back all that weight and have to buy new clothes.
  • MissusMoon
    MissusMoon Posts: 1,900 Member
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    Holy moly, jerk move! Yesterday I filled bags for donation and my hubby told me I was "awesome". I'm forgiving and like to move on, but that would make my blood boil and I'd have a difficult time getting over that one.

    I completely understand not leaving that stuff around to make it easier to gain weight. You are awesome. He should appreciate that, but even if he doesn't--remember your accomplishments in weight loss aren't up for debate.
  • JaneSnowe
    JaneSnowe Posts: 1,283 Member
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    KDar1988 wrote: »
    Yesterday I cleared 6 garbage bags of clothes out of my closet. All clothes I wore 106lbs ago. Felt good to get rid of them until my husband says "what are you going to wear when you get fat again?" Why was that necessary? I wonder if I could dump him the donation bin?

    I hope he's not like that all the time. :/

    Congratulations on your weight loss!
  • mommazach
    mommazach Posts: 384 Member
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    I gave away my last size up over the weekend. Worked out great for me. I gave 7 pairs, and ended up getting 3 skinny ones in return. Tell your Darling He's next if he doesn't watch it. My snookum snort is 318 and on the gain. I like to encourage him, but not by nagging, but by not cooking the crap he wants to eat. If he was actually home all the time he'd lose weight, but he's 2 on and 1 off, so the other 2 weeks he eats like crap.
  • CharlieBeansmomTracey
    CharlieBeansmomTracey Posts: 7,682 Member
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    getting rid of all my "fat" clothes is what keeps me going on trying to not gain weight. I know if I go back to the way I was I will have to buy bigger clothing and probably go back on meds again. no thanks. But your hubby should not have said that to you at all. I would talk to him about those kinds of remarks.
  • a_candler
    a_candler Posts: 209 Member
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    Boo men can be so insensitive at times. I'd sit him down and explain how his comment hurt, and that you expect better from him.

  • 1shedev
    1shedev Posts: 144 Member
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    That was uncalled for.
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,717 Member
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    Congrats on your success! And for being able to get rid of all that baggage.

    Was he just kidding? Did you respond? I know you didn't ask for advice, so I hope it was just a comment made without thinking first. If he truly thinks you'll gain the weight back all you can do is prove him wrong.
  • butterfli7o
    butterfli7o Posts: 1,319 Member
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    Wow. That comment would truly hurt me. I hope he was just kidding around. What you've done is a fabulous accomplishment.
  • ncfitbit
    ncfitbit Posts: 1,058 Member
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    If it were anyone but my husband, a comment like that would probably strengthen my resolve to never gain any weight back. But since it was your husband, let's hope your husband was joking or even half-joking. Or maybe he is genuinely worried you will gain the weight back and doesn't know how to discuss it with you. Men sometimes lack words to discuss their feelings.
  • amandalyn44
    amandalyn44 Posts: 6 Member
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    Ugh! I hate the lack of support. Mine told me yesterday when I told him I was getting back on the horse I needed to make my mind up, do it or don't because it confuses him. So frustrating.
  • JButlerEagle
    JButlerEagle Posts: 45 Member
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    Good for you "shrinking out" of your old clothes. Good for you for getting rid of them!
  • skinnyforhi
    skinnyforhi Posts: 340 Member
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    Is this an isolated comment, or is he generally like this? That would inform my response a great deal.
  • snowflake930
    snowflake930 Posts: 2,188 Member
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    ncfitbit wrote: »
    If it were anyone but my husband, a comment like that would probably strengthen my resolve to never gain any weight back. But since it was your husband, let's hope your husband was joking or even half-joking. Or maybe he is genuinely worried you will gain the weight back and doesn't know how to discuss it with you. Men sometimes lack words to discuss their feelings.

    ^^ or, maybe he is feeling insecure about the newer, sexier you.

    Congrats on the loss!



  • pondee629
    pondee629 Posts: 2,469 Member
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    Congratulations on your success. Re: Hubby's ill advised comment. Any chance you have yo-yoed before and he's speaking from past experience? Smile and prove him wrong.

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