Deal with Loneliness (serious)

How about going to group activities? Join or club or look for something on meetup? No one wants to be lonely.

After college I moved 1500 miles from friends and family to a new state, new town, new job, new everything. The first year there I was so lonely; it was very difficult. I joined a church singles group and met many friends and began to embrace life. Find a group of similar people and get involved.

I moved to a new city last year and have a little boy with lots of issues. That's kept me in my own little bubble for the most part since I moved here. It's tough. Doesn't help that I'm an introvert, I guess. I like my quiet time a little too much. LOL

I've adopted dogs since I've moved here and that has helped a lot. I take them for walks which helps me meet more people and I honestly enjoy their company. But it is crucial to find what motivates you and what makes you happy.

Please feel free to add me. Would be happy to support you from afar

I know the loneliness too well. As I have begun to loose weight, my friends have stopped talking. Funny how when I was at my heaviest, I had a great social life. Now, no one wants to be seen with the fat girl and I'm smaller than some that have made the comments. I live in a small town and I'm an outsider, so extremely hard to break into. Lots of cliques.

I have tried some of the dating sites to meet friends, as I have more in common with guys, due to hobbies. But it seems guys my age are going through change of life and want to be seen with a Barbie or trophy on their arm. I will never be that. Lol. Anymore, I do my work, come home, walk the dog and stick to myself. I'm so anxious to get this weight off of me to be accepted and hopefully make a few friends to help with the lonliness.

Someone mentioned the meetup, that sounds great if you have it in your area. I dont. Good luck!

as of 2 days ago, i have an empty nest for the first time in 27 years... the loneliness is VERY real now... have been a single mom to 3 daughters and just moved my "baby" into her 1st apartment.... the first night was excruciating! yesterday i went to our local animal shelter and took some extra blankets and old towels to donate. while i was there i asked if there was anything i could do to help out. They put me to work feeding, socializing, and just playing in general with the pets there. i came home last night with a smile on my face. tomorrow i have scheduled a time to go to our local old folks home to play board games with the residents. I feel so much better! i hope this helps, and will be praying for inner peace and happiness for you.

From personal experience, I don't think there's much you can do. I mean if you're making an effort to meet people it then depends entirely on if those people are willing. People who spend a lot of time on their own often get accused of not making the effort. But personally speaking, you can make the effort but if others don't, you're stuck.

Fellow introvert here. I've got my built-in companion these days but visiting my recently widowed sister I was reminded of my own shades of alone-time. She has her pets, her books, and country music floating through the house. I understand the music. A house is far too quiet alone.

Yes, I'm still an introvert! I find building new connections with people exhausting. But I like having people around me, even if we aren't in each other's faces. Some great resources;

http://www.johncacioppo.com/books/loneliness-human-nature-and-the-need-for-social-connection

http://www.larche.org/

http://www.cbc.ca/radio/ideas/the-1998-cbc-massey-lectures-becoming-human-1.2946860